Not living up to the current life, not being jealous of others is the greatest respect for yourself, come on

1. I often hear the exclamation that if I had chosen this path instead of choosing another path, maybe I would have been different. Whether you're successful in your career or seem to be living a comfortable, quiet life, it seems that everyone is not very happy with their state

If everyone could clearly know that the path they took was not suitable for them, I believe that many people would choose to abandon this path and try another unknown path

But when we start living another life on another path, discovering that it's not the life we like or want, or even worse than before, we don't know if we'll regret it more

Many people are not easy to meet. What you have is always not good enough; I always feel like I don't have enough. When I see someone else having something I don't have, I envy him; I don't get it. When I see others get it, I care.

I've read a saying that people are always looking from the life they have chosen to another life they have no choice in, feeling jealous and regretful. Dissatisfaction with human nature prevents many people from truly enjoying the happiness they choose

2. My boss was born in the countryside and served as the president of the student council after entering the university. In his studies, he worked very hard and achieved excellent results, which were appreciated by the teachers and leaders of the school. The year he graduated, he was recommended to stay at the school and work

Now he is an associate professor. He has his own house and car in the township city, and his wife is a doctor at the hospital attached to the school. Although he was not very wealthy, this bright and stable life was still the envy of many people. Sometimes, I just want to have a life like him

But one day, my boss told me that he envied his classmates who lived in first-tier cities. "If I had gone to Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen more than a decade ago instead of staying in school, would I be better off now," he said. I'm not very envious of them, I didn't answer him, because if it were me, I might feel some loss and dissatisfaction when compared to others

This mindset should be widespread. When a person reaches a certain level and lives a life, he naturally sees and compliments on the lives of others and feels that such a life looks better or more interesting.

3. One of my high school classmates returned to work in his hometown after graduation. But he often complained to me that the work at the grassroots level was cumbersome and complicated, and the wages were low. He seemed to be able to see life at a glance. I really regret that I didn't take the graduate school entrance exam like I did and had the opportunity to stay in college

I remember when I was in college, I encouraged him many times to take the graduate school entrance exam with me. But at the time, he was very adamant that it was not his dream to go to graduate school and pursue a doctorate. What he wanted was to return to his hometown and live a simple life. Now he has achieved his ideals, but he cannot lift his spirits from time to time. He felt that his current life was not something he really liked. Instead, he wants my life now

In fact, he didn't know. Sometimes I envy him. If I hadn't applied to medical school and instead read literature like he did, would I have been able to go to college a few years less? Can you stay and work in your hometown? Already married and have children? Unlike today, although I stayed in college, I often felt powerless, lonely and helpless in this big city.

My life now is sometimes decided by myself. At that time, like many people, I didn't know the direction of the road. I don't know if such a choice is right or wrong. I went out with a lonely courage

Of course, fortunately, when I threw myself into my current work and life, seriously enjoying the process of life, I found that I could stick with it. I began to believe that I could do my best to live this life and no longer regret it.

I often tell myself that you shouldn't be too jealous of others or blame yourself. You should learn to enjoy the process and try to compare yourself only

When you start to love yourself, you will cherish everything you have now. Living in the moment is the greatest respect for yourself.