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Ouyang Xun, who has a high degree, is a doctor in biology and works for a national-level scientific research unit, Dr. Ouyang is a well-known expert in the industry, but such a Kochi talent has constant twists and turns on the emotional road, and is still alone.
Because he has been deeply cultivating in the ivory tower, Ouyang Xun's love is much later than his peers.
Ouyang Xun's first love began at the age of 32, girlfriend Wang Li is a divorced single mother with children to do clothing business, the love of the two is due to the Internet, is a netizen who has been chatting for nearly three years, from the Internet to real life, the two have a good impression of each other after meeting and naturally transition to the love stage.
Wang Li was relatively free in time, because she was four years older than Ouyang Xun and was Ma Li's capable personality, and soon took over Ouyang Xun's food, clothing, and housing.
Ouyang Xun was still studying for his doctorate, his income was not high, and the time he could accompany Wang Li was also very limited. Coupled with the personality of Muna, there is little interest, a little time to think about reading books, doing experiments, rarely communicate and interact with Wang Li, the understanding of male and female love is also in the theoretical stage of books, and people are also quite stingy. Wang Li was not happy in her heart, and every three to five years to find Ouyang Xun quarreled, arguing more Ouyang Xun was a little tired, so she proposed to break up.
Who thought that Wang Li was a reckless personality, in the face of Ouyang Xun's breakup, angry, ran to Ouyang Xun's school to make a big fuss, and also spread the formalities for Ouyang Xun's fetus four times, and the public opinion was in an uproar. The school's top brass was furious and demanded that Ouyang Xun quickly eliminate the impact and quell the incident.
Ouyang Xun found Wang Li to negotiate, Wang Li scolded Ouyang Xun for a meal, proposed to ask for 200,000 yuan in mental damages, the two bargained, and finally reached an agreement for 80,000 yuan, wrote a settlement letter, peacefully broke up, Ouyang Xun raised money everywhere and handed it over to Wang Li. The moment the money was handed over, Ouyang Xun's hanging heart finally landed. After the school talked about his admonition, out of love for talents, it did not pursue it again.
Once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of well rope.
Ouyang Xun's longing for women slowly turned from his original longing and yearning for women into fear and fear.
Frightened, Ouyang Xun spent all his energy on reading. At the age of thirty-six, Dr. Ouyang Xun successfully graduated and was admitted to a national research institute, officially starting a professional life.
Research topics are frequently reported, Ouyang Xun slowly showed his head in the industry, his career was smooth, for a time the doctor's private emotional problems were once again concerned by the outside world, enthusiastic people introduced a lot of girls with good conditions to Dr. Ouyang, and the rogue Ouyang Xun had a shadow in his heart and was afraid of holding hands with beautiful people.
While refusing to be introduced by outsiders, it is also unbearable loneliness. Slowly and long nights, the doctor began to miss the sweet days of having a pillow man. The ghost sent a god, and Ouyang Xun began to look for love on the Internet again, this time again against a pediatrician Chen Mei, who was three years older than him.
Chen Mei has a short history of marriage and childlessness, but her appearance is outstanding, her personality is also extroverted and lively, coupled with the aura of her profession, Ouyang Xun's eyes are bright, quite a bit of love at first sight.
The 39-year-old Ouyang Xun fell in love with the 42-year-old Chen Mei, and in view of Wang Li's lesson last time, this time Ouyang Xun gave himself two death rules.
First: When worshiping passionately, we must take good measures and do not make "human lives".
Second: to care more about each other, although their life ability is a little poor, but behind them there will be a life, a budget-conscious old mother, the mother cooking skills are super strong, go home to discuss with the old mother, simply come to care for the stomach first, buy two insulated lunch boxes, the future mother-in-law opened a happy life of sending meals to the daughter-in-law.
In the face of sudden concern, Chen Mei, who lives in the capital, was somewhat moved.
The doctor's love affair with the doctor has developed steadily, although Chen Mei feels that Ouyang Xun is more stingy and stingy in the process of getting along, but it can be comprehensively evaluated that he is the best comprehensive condition among his previous boyfriends. There are two houses in Beijing, and both parents have good pensions. Shan Menghai swore tender affection, and soon the two put the marriage on the agenda. Booking a hotel to take wedding photos, the two people set sail towards happiness.
Chen Mei is the eldest in the family, her mother has been divorced from her father for many years, and there is a younger sister in the family. In the face of Ouyang Xun's marriage proposal, Chen Mei made several demands.
First: Ouyang Xun wants to go to Chen Mei's hometown to propose relatives, the dowry is eighty-eight thousand, and the three gold cannot be less.
Second: add your own name to the marriage room.
Third: After marriage, the mother and sister should live with them.
Chen Mei's request seemed to pour a basin of cold water on Ouyang Xun, who was in a state of hot love, and each one made the doctor's scalp tingle, and he went home to consult with his parents, and the second elder also resolutely disagreed. After several thoughts, Dr. Quietly started to retreat.
The doctor used the drag trick to fight a delaying war with Chen Mei. Chen Mei, who felt wrong, found that Ouyang Xun had repeatedly communicated ineffectively and formally proposed to break up.
Two months after the breakup, the doctor became increasingly haggard, thinking about it again and again, he still felt that he could not let go of Chen Mei, spent a large price wallet in a café, planned a romantic apology ➕ and marriage proposal ceremony, and once again captured Chen Mei's heart.
The days returned to the pre-marriage preparation mode, and this time Ouyang Xun seemed to compromise a lot, basically following Chen Mei's request.
A month before the marriage is Chen Mei's birthday, Chen Mei also wants to test the doctor again through the birthday, and begin to hint at various hints, the rogue Ouyang Xun did not change the miserly nature of Mu Na, on the birthday day, it was still the mother-in-law who sent a love bento to the daughter-in-law, and the birthday gift prepared by Ouyang Xun for Chen Mei was a necklace of less than a thousand yuan from Swarovski.
Chen Mei, who saw the gift, broke out instantly, and began to count Ouyang Xun's various miserly behaviors during the love, Chen Mei's insults made Ouyang Xun very broken in his heart, he tried his best to please, how is this fate, the scolded dog bloody head of Ouyang Xun returned home seriously ill, sick, how can not understand Ouyang Xun took the initiative to interview Chen Mei to cancel the marriage contract. Since then, one person has learned the endless "fun boat" of the sea.
Xiaoqing said: After reading the doctor's letter, I laughed out of the pig's cry, and in the reply to the doctor, I only thought of the sentence "You are really single by strength". High score and low energy, Ma Bao is a word that flashes in the mind in an instant. After laughing, we still have to seriously analyze the personality characteristics of the doctor.
I found a few questions from the Doctor's letter.
First: He is looking for a relationship who is older than him.
Second: Why did the doctor not take measures in the process of snapping, "killing people" four times.
Third: Is the Doctor's view of consumption stingy or thrifty?
To understand these three questions we must understand the original family status of the Doctor.
Born in an ordinary Beijing family, the doctor's father is a middle-level cadre of a state-owned enterprise, but he has little say in the family. The mother became a housewife after the bankruptcy of the unit.
Mother personality is grumpy, strong and love money as fate, from childhood to Ouyang Xun's education is to save all the resources that can be saved, reduce the cost of living, there is little emotional interaction between mother and child, life details of the nagging is Ouyang Xun's strongest sensory memory of his mother. Accurate positioning is called "nanny mother".
The doctor's letter mentions a more important person, his own sister-in-law. The doctor said that he was relatively close to his aunt since he was a child, and the aunt was gentle and loving, and grew up with the doctor from childhood, and the care given to the doctor far exceeded that of his mother.
The doctor said that at a party at his aunt's house, he suddenly fainted, confused, only to feel that his aunt was nervously calling for an ambulance and had been around to take care of himself. And his parents have been calmly eating in the restaurant.
Through the above self-complaint, we can roughly find the reason for the constant twists and turns on the doctor's emotional road.
Growing up in the process of loveless children, naturally do not have the ability to love people, love and love itself is still a wonderful process of emotional interaction, entanglement, thoughts to deal with must be mutual complaints, if you come to turn a blind eye, or can not perceive each other's state, misplaced emotions will pile into a depression in the heart, when the gun is gone, it must erupt. What is missing is what to look for, so when the Ph.D. is looking for a romantic partner, he will inadvertently choose a woman who is older than himself.
At the beginning of acquaintance, the early stage of dopamine secretion will temporarily blind the emotional needs, after the passion, waiting for the emotional interaction, the party that has been paying is bound to feel bored and tasteless, and will slowly terminate the output.
Let's talk about "making human life", "human activities" will give birth to "life" is the most basic common sense, why Kochi's doctor frequently has accidents on this issue, which in addition to the serious lack of sex education, but also reflects the doctor's selfish and willful nature in his personality and indifferent to life itself.
As for the Doctor's view of consumption, this part should come from the influence of the mother's words and deeds. His mother's generation, who experienced the era of extreme material scarcity, almost did not have much sense of security in their hearts, and cutting down on food and clothing would become their ability to survive, and over time it naturally became instinctive. All have a mother-in-law to deliver food. For their generation, eating in restaurants is a crime. And the doctor who is the mother's treasure man just inherits the mother's concept of consumption. Saving generally points to one's own economic behavior, and miserliness generally refers to the foreign economic behavior that occurs with others, and in the doctor's dictionary these two words are synonyms, there is no difference.
The Ph.D. is almost fifty years old, and I feel like he's in pretty good shape now. A person occasionally talks about love, has no worries, and is at ease to do learning.
Our society is progressing, progress is reflected in the tolerance of things, not all people are suitable for marriage, civilized society should be open and inclusive of the diversity of people's living conditions, not to marry, not to have a baby.
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