| Moon whispers
The fifth unit of the TV series "Meritorious Service", "Shen Jilan's Proposal", tells the story of Shen Jilan leading women to strive for "equal pay for equal work".
Among them, there is a low-level small person, the audience watched it, laughed and laughed and cried.
She is Li Dazui, the representative of thousands of low-level women, and her ups and downs in life reflect the tragedy and way out of marriage.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1, failed to give birth to a son, Li Dazui could not lift his head in the in-laws' house</h1>
In the evening, the women of Xigou Village gathered together to spin yarn in the moonlight, and Da Lanzi asked everyone: Who else can the village invite to participate in the spinning group?
Everyone was talking about it, and a woman carefully said three words: "Li Dazui", and the sisters shook their heads in a hurry.
Everyone thinks of Li Dazui because she is a neat and neat person with a skillful mind.
Everyone shook their heads because Li Dazui could not come out to work at all, and her man certainly did not agree.
Xiuzhi said: "Don't look at her usually quite strong, that mouth is not spared by anyone, can scold several ravines, but she can't lift her head at her mother-in-law's house." ”
Why can't Li Dazui, who has a clever mind, look up at his in-laws' house?
The reason is only that Li Dazui gave birth to two female babies in a row and failed to give birth to male babies.
The in-laws attributed the reasons for not being able to give birth to a male baby on the big mouth, and the man punched and kicked her without hesitation to vent his dissatisfaction.
"No filial piety has three, no queen is greater", Li Dazui cannot "pass on the generations" for the in-laws, and naturally is not welcomed. She had no place in the family, and she was ridiculed in the village for not being able to give birth to a male baby.
In the era of "son preference", Li Dazui was a universal presence. Women who are rejected and beaten because they cannot give birth to male babies abound, either until they give birth to male babies, or they cannot lift their heads for a lifetime.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2, suspected of being pregnant with a male baby, Li Dazui was held up to heaven</h1>
Li Dazu begged for a son, and "giving birth to a male baby" became her most urgent wish.
Once, after a few days of menstruation, Li Dazui snickered with joy, and after several days, he still did not come.
This made Li Dazui happy, and she let the man accompany him to Lang Zhong's house to take the pulse.
Lang Zhong took his pulse for a long time, and he couldn't help but spit out a word: "Like!" ”
Li Dazui was happy to turn into a flower: "I will say that this time it is!" I haven't been there in a long time! Sour and spicy girl, I have recently liked to eat sour, must be a male baby. ”
Li Dazui was too excited and too excited, as if his son was in front of him and within reach.
However, LangZhong only felt "like" and said that he could prescribe several fetal protection pills, but the medicine was very expensive.
Li Dazui and her man's "surprise" can be felt across the screen, and they completely ignore that there is another possibility behind the word "like".
Since they were male babies, even the most expensive medicines were taken, the couple prescribed a large number of fetal protection pills and went home with joy.
Because of the belief that Li Dazui was pregnant with a male doll this time, the man changed the temperament of the usual "domestic violence man", and offered the big mouth, the road did not let her go, the big mouth reclined on the board, and the man carefully pulled her home.
On the way, Li Dazui met the women's labor group to work, and she was no longer envious.
Da Lanzi kindly reminded her: "What LangZhong said is not necessarily correct, go to the county hospital to see and then say, having children and daughters is the same..."
Li Dazui felt that Da Lanzi was talking obscurely, and urged the man to hurry home to take medicine and protect the fetus.
In fact, Da Lanzi's kind reminder is probably worried that if she can't give birth to a "male baby", will she be beaten badly after her hopes are disappointed?
This day is probably the most beautiful, proud and happiest day when Li Dazui came to Xigou Village.
Men are rarely gentle and considerate to her.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, pregnancy is "fraudulent", Li Dazui was beaten by men</h1>
There are two "fraudulent beards" in the play, which makes people see the impatient appearance of Li Dazui and his wife for giving birth to a male baby, which is really pitiful and pathetic and hateful...
One day, Li Dazui doubted that he was happy, and together with the man, carrying half a bottle of vinegar, he couldn't wait to come to Langzhong's house to take the pulse.
This half bottle of vinegar is the only thing that Li Dazui's family has taken out, and the chickens at home have not yet laid eggs.
When Lang Zhong saw the big mouth couple, his first words were: "Why are you here again?" ”
The implication is that the big mouth has come many times, and every time it comes with expectations and disappointment, most of the time it is beaten by men.
Li Dazu was full of anticipation, looked at Lang Zhong and said: I have been old lately, I like to eat sour, "sour children and hot women", this time I am pregnant with a male baby.
Lang Zhong finished his pulse and said with disdain: "Fraudulent beard, what a boy, not even a hair." ”
Meaning, Li Dazui was not pregnant at all.
Li Dazui was not reconciled, and begged Lang Zhong to give him another number.
The man crouching on the side, originally thought that he could call out a male doll, but he did not expect that it was "cheating", and he also took half a bottle of vinegar... He was so angry that he took off his shoes and took the soles of them and beat his mouth hard...
Lang Zhong looked at them both, seemed to be accustomed to it, and quickly waved his hand to let them out: "Go out to fight, go out to fight." ”
Li Dazui was kicked home by her man.
This scene makes people's hearts can't help but gush with sorrow...
The second "fraudulent beard" was the closest Li Dazui was to the hope of "having a son", and he almost turned over.
That day, the villagers saw that the big mouth was lying happily on the board and was pulled home by the man, thinking that she could turn over.
Unexpectedly, a few days later, a sister rushed to report to Shen Jilan, saying that Li Dazui was about to be killed by her man.
It turned out that Li Dazui's happy life, within a few days, was beaten to death by men because of "cheating".
This time, the "deception" is more serious than the last time, because she spent money to buy a lot of fetal protection pills, and she also enjoyed the queen's service.
The man locked her in the house and beat her violently, and no one shouted to open the door.
Shen Jilan brought his sisters to save Dazui, and some villagers stopped and said, "People beat their wives, they can't control it." ”
It is not difficult to see that in the village, men beat women, commonplace, is a "family affair", there is nothing wrong.
At that time, Shen Jilan had already established a women's federation in Xigou Village, and she felt that the women's federation could manage women's affairs and rushed into the house to save the big mouth.
Shen Jilan is like a beam of light, bringing hope and light to the women of Xigou Village.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >4, the root cause of the tragedy of Li Dazui's marriage</h1>
The root cause of li dazui's marriage tragedy is both social and personal.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > social causes</h1>
The tragedy of Li Dazui was inseparable from the specific social environment at that time.
In Xigou Village, I often hear a saying: "Good men go to the county, and good women go to the courtyard."
Meaning: women should cook at home, wash and bring their babies, and outdoor work is a man's business.
Women let you be skillful, you can only circle around the pot, earn money to support your family, work in the field, do not dare to think. This also leads to a higher social status for men.
Especially in the remote and backward Xigou village, this kind of thinking is even more stubborn.
The marriage of women in the old society, they cannot be the master, they are arranged by their parents and the covenant of the matchmaker, and they must not be disobeyed.
Xiuzhi is the daughter of Langzhong, who looks handsome and has many people to ask for relatives, but she does not like it. She liked the village carpenter boy Stone, but she had been afraid to say it, for fear that her father would not agree.
At that time, for women, marriage was the destination, whether good or bad, there was no way back.
At that time, for most women, marriage was a shackle, but it had to be endured.
This is, the pain of the times!
Men have a high social status, men and women are not equal, the idea of "son preference" is serious, women are already of low status, if they can't regenerate male babies, what awaits them is the tragedy of a lifetime.
Fortunately, there were women like Shen Jilan, who began to awaken and led the women to stand up.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > personal reason</h1>
Li Dazui has a strong body and great strength, and is still a strong person in the eyes of his sisters.
However, as soon as her man's eyes widened, she immediately shrugged her head in fright and did not dare to say a word.
When the man beat her, she never dared to resist, but only cried and shouted, "I was wrong", holding her head and begging for forgiveness while running.
Shen Jilan was angry when he learned that Li Dazui had been beaten because he could not give birth to a male baby, and mobilized Li Dazui to join the Women's Association, but Li Dazui always hid.
The reason for this is not only that Li Dazu is afraid of men to fight.
More importantly, she herself has not yet come out of the old ideas of backwardness.
In her subconscious, she also felt that she did not have a male baby, a dwarf, etc., she was very inferior, had no confidence, and did not have the courage to resist.
The way she could think of improving her status was to have a baby boy. So she preferred to stay at home until she gave birth to a baby boy.
Backward thinking, resignation, no sense of resistance, and inability to be economically independent, resulting in women unable to escape the tragedy of marriage.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >5, women independent and self-reliant, is the way out of marriage</h1>
The way out of marriage is actually the way out for individuals, as Shen Jilan said: "We must straighten our waists and live like individuals", so that we can save ourselves and save marriage.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > first, the spirit should be independent</h1>
Only by throwing off the imprisonment of old ideas and becoming independent in spirit can we raise our eyebrows and breathe and live a personal life.
After "cheating", Da Lanzi took her sisters to save Li Dazui, not only stopping the man's beating of her, but also saving Dazui's already numb soul.
Da Lanzi's words woke her up: "Giving birth to a baby is a matter of two mouths, and it is impossible to give birth to a male baby and complain about women with even light." ”
Li Dazui's heart suddenly opened up, and she said, "You say that the ground does not grow much, depending on what seed you sow." ”
Li Dazui finally stopped obsessing over having a baby boy, and she made up her mind to go out of the house and join the women's labor group and work with her sisters.
The next day, Li Dazui put on new clothes, carried a hoe, and couldn't wait to go out of the house to work.
Her face glowed with happiness, irrepressible joy.
Da Lanzi jokingly asked her: "Sister-in-law, go to work, not go to relatives, wear new clothes is not painful..."
Li Dazu's face was full of excitement and excitement: "I am very happy in my heart, this is the first time I straightened my waist and walked out of this house..."
This day is the most memorable day in Li Dazui's life.
Mentally, she stood up for the first time, and from now on, she would straighten her waist and be her own master.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, the economy should be independent</h1>
At that time, in Xigou Village, there was no precedent for women to go out to work, and the value of women's labor was not discovered.
Most women, like Li Dazui, have no financial resources and can only rely on their in-laws to support themselves after marrying into their in-laws' families.
The economic base determines the superstructure.
Women without income have no status and no voice in their in-laws' homes.
They are appendages of marriage, tools for giving birth to babies, and they have to give birth to male babies.
But all this, under the leadership of Shen Jilan, slowly changed.
Shen Jilan taught the women to spin yarn, set up a spinning group, and asked the county for a task, and the reward was millet.
Xigou Village is mountainous, can not grow millet, for the villagers, millet is very precious, generally can not eat.
By spinning yarn, women can earn millet, and they can earn rations for their families, and their speech has become more hardened.
For example, after Xiu xiu joined the spinning group, she earned back millet by her own labor and had the right to speak at home, so her father had to agree to her marriage with Shi.
More and more women participated in the labor, and Li Dazui was also eager to move, and her eyes were straight when she saw everyone receiving millet.
In fact, Li Dazui has always been very entangled in his heart.
At first, when Xiuzhi told her that Dalanzi was going to set up a spinning flower group, she said with surprise: "Wow", but her man deliberately coughed, which scared her into not being able to say it.
The women went to work, and when they passed by the big mouth house, they could always see her probing her brain at the door, but when someone greeted her, she immediately retracted her head.
Big Mouth also secretly ran to the spinning flower group to watch others spinning flowers, Shen Jilan called her, and she immediately ran home.
It turned out that the big mouth watched the women spinning yarn, working in the field, and watching them earn millet at home, and their eyes were hungry and excited. She wanted to work hard, and her own work was no worse than theirs, but men did not allow her to show her face.
In the end, big mouth went out of the house, earned millet and earned work points by labor, and straightened his waist. The in-laws looked at her instead, and the men did not dare to hit her again.
Li Dazui's humble married life before was a portrayal of the real married life of thousands of women in that era.
Li Dazui is a witness and beneficiary of the "Shen Jilan Proposal".
Countless women who shared the same fate as Li Dazui walked out of the house and stood up by labor.
At any time, women only have independence and self-reliance, which is the best way out of marriage.
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