Text/Zhang Xiaonuan
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In 2014, at a gathering of friends, 39-year-old Jia Jingwen had an electric shock to 30-year-old Xiu Jiekai for the first time.
Because of Xiu Jiekai's small move, in Jia Jingwen's heart, she could no longer just take him as her brother's friend.
At that party, everyone was a little drunk, and after the friends left the scene one by one, only Jia Jingwen and her brother and Xiu Jiekai were left at the dinner table.
The three of them began to talk about life, the past, their own emotional outlook, and when they talked for a long time and were ready to go home, Xiu Jiekai suddenly got up and touched Jia Jingwen's forehead and said: You seem to have drunk a little too much, go home and go to bed early.
In a later interview, Jia Jingwen said: For this "head-touching and killing" action, she had the feeling of not being a younger brother's friend for Xiu Jiekai for the first time, which was a feeling of electric shock.
Before that, Xiu Jiekai was just a good friend of her brother to Jia Jingwen, a familiar person who often participated in Jia Jingwen's family gatherings.
After that day, Xiu Jiekai began to take the initiative to ask Jia Jingwen to eat and chat.
However, the love between the two did not begin there.
At that time, Jia Jingwen had already become a domestic first-line actress with hot film and television dramas such as "Yitian Slaughtering Dragon" and "Supreme Red Face", while Xiu Jiekai was still a tepid actor at that time.
Public opinion in the outside world has become a problem that they have to consider.
Not only that, the age difference between the two 9 years old also makes Jia Jingwen feel particularly insecure.
Jia Jingwen once said under the pursuit of Xiu Jiekai: You must think clearly, whether we are in terms of age or all aspects, the gap is still quite large.
The gap in Jia Jingwen's mouth not only refers to the age gap but also the experience of life, after all, she was married once, and now she lives with her daughter, and before accepting her, she must first accept her daughter.
Xiao S once asked Xiu Jiekai in the show: Don't you care about Jingwen's past? Wouldn't you care if she lived with you with her ex-husband's children?
And Xiu Jiekai also said very frankly: her past and children are a part of her life, I love her, I love her all.
Later, Jia Jingwen also said that Xiu Jiekai was a person who accepted her past very well and completely, and completely let her walk out of the pain of the past.
After all, before that, she was still in a cruel and painful environment brought about by the previous marriage.
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Before the relationship with Xiu Jiekai was exposed, everyone's impression of Jia Jingwen was still stuck in the emotional storm of "rich grudges".
At that time, Jia Jingwen was in the trough of her life.
The vigorous "war against women" with Sun Zhihao made Jia Jingwen completely become the focus of the public, and the in-laws poured dirty water on Jia Jingwen, and for a time various advertisers canceled their cooperation with Jia Jingwen.
She herself did not expect that this marriage with Sun Zhihao could get to such a point and let her life and career plummet.
In 2004, Jia Jingwen and Sun Zhihao met, the two fell in love at first sight, Jia Jingwen thought that she had met the true son of life, so she decided to marry and have children at the peak of her career.
At this time, Jia Jingwen regarded Sun Zhihao as her own destination, and she could not imagine that this "destination" was the last straw that crushed her career and feelings in the end.
In 2005, because Jia Jingwen was pregnant unmarried and could not get the approval of her grandmother, the Sun family tested the DNA for Wutong Sister and determined that Wutong Sister was the bloodline of the Sun family before letting Jia Jingwen pass through the door.
In June of the same year, Jia Jingwen gave birth in the hospital, and heard the news that her husband Sun Zhihao was driving a beautiful woman for a ride late at night, and in a fit of anger, the fetus was born prematurely.
Sun Zhihao has the common diseases that all the children of rich families have, and likes to get wet with flowers and grass, which makes Jia Jingwen's marriage with him frequently shine red lights.
Just when Jia Jingwen was still confinement, Sun Zhihao was photographed bouncing with beautiful women late into the night.
The marriage between the two has been shaky, and the contradictions have become deeper and deeper, and finally, when Wutong Mei was 5 years old, the two chose to divorce.
Some people say that Jia Jingwen married a pseudo-rich family, because in the end, people and money were empty.
And this divorce, by no means an ordinary sense of divorce, no one can imagine, in order to compete for her daughter, Jia Jingwen and Sun Zhihao's family made a big move, in the face of the Sun family's basin after basin of dirty water splashed on the body, Jia Jingwen still struggled to fight for the custody of her daughter.
In the end, Alyssa paid NT$26 million to regain custody of her daughter.
After experiencing this family war, Jia Jingwen returned to her home in Taiwan and began to be with her relatives and slowly healed her wounds.
In the process of accompanying her daughter to grow up, she also slowed down, carefully tasted life, and took her body and mind back to the most real life.
Such a dark and depressed day finally ended in 2014, and in addition to her daughter and brother who were with her, there was also a warm man, Xiu Jiekai.
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On May 5, 2015, Jia Jingwen posted a photo of herself with Xiu Jiekai and Wu Tongmei on Weibo, showing her pregnant with Liujia.
Jia Jingwen wrote in Weibo: Thank you for the luck and happiness you have given me, and thank you for the peace and health that God has given me.
The man who gave her enough happiness was the man who was 9 years younger than him, Xiu Jiekai.
Seeing Jia Jingwen's bulging pregnant belly, many people are very emotional, and the fate is so wonderful.
She and Xiu Jiekai have known each other for many years, Xiu Jiekai every New Year as her brother's good friend to eat at her house, once the brother in her eyes, now has become her husband, her dependence.
Looking back at the variety shows that the two of them participated in, the countless pictures truly confirmed that Xiu Jiekai was the right person in Jia Jingwen's life.
Xiu Jiekai had to leave for two days because of filming, and before leaving, he didn't stop at home for a quarter of an hour, while cleaning up the dishes and chopsticks, while cleaning up the children's toys, Jia Jingwen followed behind his butt, like a little girl, expressing reluctance.
Xiu Jiekai said: Because I have to leave for two days, so I will do one more thing at home, and Jingwen will do one less.
Before Xiu Jiekai left, he would also put post-it notes on his home, telling Jia Jingwen what to use and where to put it.
Xiu Jiekai said: In this way, Jingwen will not be worried because she can't find something, and in the way of writing post-it notes, she can feel the feeling that I am next to her, which will be more direct.
Jia Jingwen, who is now 47 years old, can't see the traces left by the years on her face, and she is properly spoiled by Xiu Jiekai as a little girl.
When you meet the right person, the chasm that you once thought was easy to cross as long as you lift your feet. When you really meet that person, he is even reluctant to lift your feet, and will take that step instead of you.
On November 17, 2018, Alyssa Jia and Xiu Jiekai held a simple wedding in Bali, and under the witness of her three daughters, Alyssa Jia achieved a different kind of happiness.
At the wedding, Alyssa Said:
"I'm an insecure person who thinks a lot, and I'm burdened because my past emotions weren't handled very well. Therefore, I dare not open my heart to meet new feelings.
I am very happy to become a family member, I also thank you for taking care of my family, and thank you even more for your love for my eldest daughter, I will love you, with my most sincere and serious heart, to learn the course of marriage. ”
Xiu Jiekai responded: Thank you for wishing you to believe in me and become my wife. We stand here today, and every year that follows, I will hold your hand tightly, never let go, and love you forever.
After saying this, the two kissed deeply and became each other's mountains and dependences.
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After meeting Xiu Jiekai, Jia Jingwen really changed.
After the divorce, Jia Jingwen became sad and lonely, and now Jia Jingwen is not only a goddess of youthful vitality, but also has a gentle and peaceful personality.
Sure enough, a man who loves you will make your life sparkle.
Jia Jingwen made a guest interview with "Lu Yu Has a Date", lu Yu asked: How long did it take you to heal your injuries?
Jia Jingwen's tears flowed out and said: I just met my current husband, my state and some eyes are still stuck in the past, he will tell me next to me, it has passed, you are very happy now, you have to learn to face yourself, only if you are good, your children will be good.
Lu Yu: I saw a photo of you and his (ex-husband) attending their daughter's graduation ceremony on Weibo that day, and at that moment, I felt that maybe time and experience would change a person from flesh and blood to sinking, and finally take a picture together very gently.
Jia Jingwen: I couldn't imagine it before, it was really so peaceful, and it was the eyes and words that gave each other blessings in communication, although that feeling could not be said to be great, but it was really a picture that made me quite moved.
And all these changes are inseparable from her husband Xiu Jiekai.
Great and happy love is not the icing on the cake, but a charcoal in the snow. Because you fell into the darkness, the only thing I can do is to go into the darkness and walk out slowly with you.
Today's Jia Jingwen is not only a happy family, has a lovely daughter, and a husband who hurts herself, but also has a prosperous career.
In 2019, Alyssa Jia won the Golden Bell Award for Best Actress for "The Distance Between Us and Evil", and when she took to the highly anticipated podium to speak, she said:
"In the past, everyone was talking about filming, I was a goddess, very beautiful, I used to always look in the mirror, look at the shape of the face, see if the neck is long enough.
And now, those ideas are completely gone. For the performance, I just care, my character is interpreted this way, right? I don't care what kind of hair and makeup I get, what matters is what kind of vitality I give to this character. ”
It is Xiu Jiekai, a man who does not count gains and losses, warm and responsible, that makes Jia Jingwen live happily and confidently in the second half of her life, and her love and career set sail.
Seeing Jia Jingwen, who is now confident and happy, I thought of a sentence: there will always be someone who will appear and become the belonging of your life, and he will tell you with his actions, this is it, don't be afraid, I will always accompany you, no matter what happens.
Just like Jia Jingwen, who has experienced a thousand hardships, she has crossed the thorns and now finally waited for her own knight.
Author: Zhang Xiaonuan, may you and I meet not too late and grow together in warm and comfortable words
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