Why are there fewer and fewer quiet girls and more naughty girls? Parental behavior is the main cause! In traditional thinking, it is generally believed that girls are quiet and virtuous, and boys should be mischievous. This kind of thinking deeply affects us, and it does reflect the personality differences of children for a long time in the past. But with the development of society, we find that more and more girls are becoming naughty now. Even more lawless than boys, this phenomenon is mainly caused by the behavior of parents.
Xiaoxue is a 4-year-old girl, because she is the only daughter in the family, she is deeply loved by her parents, and even her grandparents are obedient to her. Because there are more boys of the same age in the community, Xiaoxue often plays with these boys in his daily life, and most of the games he plays are more popular among boys, riding horses and fighting, climbing up and down.
Xiaoxue was very happy about this, and did not care like other girls whether their clothes were neat or not, and they were fearless when they went crazy and rolled in the mud. Due to Xiaoxue's cheerful and bold personality, the children in the community are very popular, and there are many followers, which can be said to be a child king. But Xiaoxue's parents are a little worried about this, seeing that the child is about to enter the kindergarten, such a naughty personality, will it not be liked by the teacher in the kindergarten?
The husband and wife complained to each other, thinking that it was the other's education method that was wrong, which made the daughter become so unpretentious. In fact, more and more girls are now very cheerful and mischievous like Xiaoxue, and they are not inferior to boys when they break into trouble. The cultivation of this kind of personality is mainly due to the deviation of the parents' behavior, which requires parents to pay special attention to and guide them in time in order to make the daughter become quiet.
1, tolerate spoiling, can't bear to scold.
As people's level of education has increased, parents' educational philosophies have also changed, the preference for sons has become less and less, and now young parents are more partial to their daughters. I feel that my daughter should be pampered when she is born, so she is more tolerant of her daughter than her son, and even if her daughter makes a mistake, she can't bear to scold her. This kind of unconditional pampering will have a negative impact on the child's personality. Let children get used to being favored and tolerated, so it is easy to confuse right and wrong, and misbehave.
2, bai yi bai shun, will not refuse the daughter's request.
Girls are petite and soft in appearance, and many parents cannot resist by sprinkling up, so they tend to be obedient to their daughters, and they will not easily refuse the requirements made by girls, and will always try to meet them. This kind of education will let children develop their own personality, everything is centered on their own happiness, and they will not care about the thoughts of others. As a result, it will become more naughty and there will be no reverence for the rules.
3, intentional connivance, afraid of daughter being bullied.
There are also some parents who feel that girls are a vulnerable group in society and are easily bullied by nasty boys in kindergartens. Therefore, it is deliberate to indulge the child, and wants the child to develop a bold character to avoid the contradictions that may occur. In fact, this kind of thinking is very one-sided, Wen Jing's personality and the ability to protect themselves are not in conflict, there is no need to deliberately change the child's personality for potential risks.
Although the child's personality has some inherited natural factors, it also needs parents to guide and cultivate them the day after tomorrow. If you want a quiet daughter, then parents need to consciously cultivate their children in their daily lives, rather than randomly freed.
1, cultivate hobbies, cultivate sentiments.
Parents can train their daughters to learn hobbies that are interesting and suitable for girls, such as dancing, piano, calligraphy, etc. On the one hand, it can cultivate sentiments and cultivate children's elegant temperament, on the other hand, these activities can often make children calm down and feel the beauty of art.
2, take your daughter to participate in more activities suitable for girls.
You can also take your daughter to participate in some activities and exhibitions suitable for girls in your leisure time on weekends, such as art and cartoons, do some small crafts, appreciate the tea art, and let children have more contact with quiet girls of the same age. Naturally, they will yearn for it and move closer to the quiet girl in terms of behavior and action.
3, teach by example, mother do a good job of demonstration.
In the process of girls' growth, the mother's behavior demonstration often plays a very large role, and it can be said that the mother's behavior is an important object for girls to imitate adults. Therefore, mothers should regulate their behavior in front of their children, and do not show a grumpy side of out-of-control emotions in front of their children. Instead, we should do a good job of teaching by example, showing the quiet and gentle feminine charm, and guiding children to learn from themselves.
For young children, there is no good or bad personality, and naughty children do not explain anything. However, if a girl is too naughty, it is easy to cause some negative discussion in social life and cannot be recognized by everyone. This is a very big psychological pressure for a child, and carrying these pressures forward is not a good choice for children.
Therefore, as parents, we should take on the responsibility of adjusting the direction of children's growth in a timely manner, can retain the lively and cheerful side of the child's personality, teach children to understand the rules, understand politeness, and let children learn the power of gentleness.
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