Thirty years old, in fact, what is there to be afraid of? ” ——《29+1》
"29+1" is adapted from the Hong Kong hit stage drama of the same name directed by Peng Xiuhui, which is a typical Hong Kong-style women's play, with a realistic and unpretentious scene arrangement, touching plot design, meticulous emotional description, and the whole movie is full of women's delicacy and sensual charm. After its release, it received widespread attention from the audience and became one of the highest-rated Chinese films in 2017. Peng Xiuhui also won the Best Director Award at the 37th Hong Kong Film Awards for their films.
The film is mainly about two women who are about to enter their thirties:
One is Lin Ruojun, played by Zhou Xiuna, who originally had a successful career, a happy family, and a stable love, and with the advent of 30 years old, she also ushered in the work challenge of escalating pressure, the serious illness of her elderly parents, the tension of love relationships, and the sudden attack of these uneasiness made her feel unprecedented fear;
The other is Huang Tianle, played by Zheng Xinyi, who has a bland job, no family, no beauty, and no love, but she has always laughed at life, is not bothered by life, suffers from cancer but insists on traveling around the world, and even never misses food because of her slightly fat body.
By chance, these two women, born on the same day in the same month of the same year but with very different personalities, were linked together through a diary and produced some chemistry.
30 years old is a special age for all women, because there is no youthful innocence, nor is there a story full of old age, as if it is in the middle of the state, some people call it a turning point. The movie "29+1" borrows the story of two women who are about to enter the thirties from a unique female perspective, reflecting the different attitudes of women entering the "thirty-year-old" life node in the current society, thus triggering the resonance of women of the same age in the real society. It also further evokes the audience's attention and emotional cognition of the female group.
Below, I will analyze how the two heroines face the symptoms of aging, how to face the ups and downs of life, and the chemical reaction after the intersection of the two. In the fourth part of the article, I will summarize from the stories of the two heroines how we should deal with the first age, hoping to bring inspiration to the vast number of female compatriots who are about to enter the 30s.
Lin Ruojun is a typical urban white-collar worker, with a decent job, a stable relationship, a regular rhythm of life, a strong concept of life, every day to maintain the skin, put on exquisite makeup, with the right clothing will go out, and strive to do everything in life, it seems that everything is in an orderly manner. Therefore, when other women are worried about the arrival of "first old age", she will also issue a "30-year-old, in fact, what is terrible" feeling.
Seeing this, I believe that many people will be very envious of Lin Ruojun and sigh that this is not the life we want? However, life is not a fairy tale, and nothing goes smoothly. Just as Lin Ruojun was about to celebrate his 30th birthday, a series of difficulties followed:
Career: The sudden promotion made her begin to become very busy, the pressure escalated, almost all the time and energy into the work, even so busy that even the parents' phone calls did not have time to pay attention;
Affectionately: Her father, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, broke his head because he wanted to buy vegetables for her to eat, and died shortly after, which made her very remorseful, and her father finally left her with only full of memories;
Life: The owner suddenly wants to sell the house she has rented for a long time and has long been accustomed to living, asking her to vacate the room in a short period of time, and she must not move with a pile of luggage;
Love: Because of different living habits, I have been separated from my boyfriend who has been with me for ten years, and each other is busy for their careers, and gradually, the two have changed from nothing to say to nothing to talk about now, and finally ended up breaking up.
From Lin Ruojun's body, I believe that many viewers can see some of their own shadows: a person wandering in a foreign country renting a house, busy every day for his career, betrayed by a lover who thinks he can grow old with a white head, and can only suffer in silence after being wronged and suffering...
In my opinion, the character of Lin Ruojun in the film is very full, just like a mirror of today's reality, which intuitively reflects the common anxiety faced by young women of the same age in the real society: she thought she had everything, but in fact she did not have anything. In the face of various changes in life, she can only be sad alone and heal herself.
The writer Shi Tiesheng once said:
Life kisses me with pain, but I sing in return.
I think it is most appropriate to use this sentence to describe Huang Tianle, her life seems to be full of frustration and blandness, she has lost her parents since she was a child, and she does not have a complete family; she works in a small store that buys records, there is no enviable job; she does not wear makeup and dress herself, she likes to eat snacks, her figure has long gone out of shape, there is no sexy and beautiful figure; even immediately 30 years old, has not yet been in love. But no matter what she was, she faced everything with a smile, and self-confidence and optimism became a good medicine to heal her inner wounds.
Love life: record the beauty of life with a diary, and use a camera to take a beautiful shot of life, and use the washed photos to put together a picture of the Eiffel Tower;
Laughter on life: not trapped by life, always a very happy look, living is also particularly simple, think that everything as long as you smile and smile, there is no trouble;
Positive and optimistic: Even if you find out that you have cancer, you still don't become pessimistic, but instead start a trip to pursue your childhood dream, the dream of "sunset Paris".
Huang Tianle such a person is worth learning, she has a love of life, laughter to life, positive and optimistic attitude to life, although we do not know whether her illness was cured in the end, to we can know that she finally harvested love, but also harvested happiness.
From this point of view, Huang Tianle's attitude towards life not only provides an outlet for Lin Ruojun to release anxiety in the film, but also provides a good medicine for the female group of the same age in the real society to resolve anxiety.
The film contrasts the role of Wang Tianle with Lin Ruojun, and the same "29+1" is completely different in the face of anxiety:
A "person who seems to have everything and faces anxiety all day long, but in fact has nothing",
One who "seems to have nothing, but is very happy, but actually has a lot";
On the one hand, it depicts Lin Ruojun's loneliness, fear and helplessness in the face of difficulties,
On the one hand, it depicts Huang Tianle's confidence and optimism in the face of difficulties.
In my opinion, the film uses a unique and novel perspective to present Huang Tianle's living state and inner world in reality to the audience through Lin Ruojun's reading diary, so that the two people can integrate with each other in different spaces. It not only promotes the development of the storyline, but also brings strong resonance to the audience.
The director let Lin Ruojun enter the reality and inner world of Huang Tianle in a novel and special way, although Lin Ruojun and Huang Tianle did not really meet, and the Huang Tianle that Lin Ruojun learned was only a bit of huang Tianle in the diary, but she was completely infected by Huang Tianle's positive attitude towards life.
Finally, by reading Huang Tianle's diary, he was healed and understood what he wanted most. So she chose to quit, gave up the so-called stable good job, learned to cherish everything she had, and learned to bring happiness to herself.
At the end of the film, they meet under the Eiffel Tower in Paris, as if they have met another self. Such an ending setting is very clever, not only for the protagonist to resolve the inner anxiety to provide a reasonable explanation, but also seems to tell those people in the real society who face the same anxiety, in the face of the 29+ 1-year-old women with the first old age, instead of being overwhelmed by the uneasiness and confusion, it is better to release with happiness and put down the shackles to find the truest self.
Because of the pressure of work and the impact of compact life, modern people often grow older than the actual age, unconsciously, when they are young, they begin to face the signs of old age, which is the first symptom of old age. It was first proposed in Ariel Lin's new drama "I May Not Love You".
In today's society, women play an important role in both the workplace and the family, and on this basis, the pressure faced by women is gradually becoming prominent. Especially women who are about to enter the "29 +1", not only have to bear a lot of pressure in work, life and feelings, but also face the mental anxiety when young faces gradually grow wrinkles.
But I think 29+1 is not actually equal to 30, but equal to 0. As an important turning point in life, when "thirty and standing", everything will start from scratch. So, how should "29+1" women cope with ingrowthia?
1. Maintaining a positive and optimistic heart is the medicine that nourishes you.
In life, once women are over 30 years old, they rush to learn maintenance, spend a lot of money to buy cosmetics to paint on the face, in order to maintain their figure, they do not dare to eat more, for fear that they will grow a wrinkle on their face and grow an extra pound of meat on their body. However, everyone ignores that a good attitude is the best medicine to stay young. I've seen women who wear high-end cosmetics all day and cry because their families are unhappy, and I've seen women whose looks, family lineage, and work are as beautiful as flowers every day. Therefore, those women who are gradually aging and have a sharp decline in charm should know that the years can leave marks on your face, but the years cannot erode your optimistic heart.
Just like Huang Tianle in the film, even if he is suffering from cancer, he still pursues his dreams and an optimistic life. When you have a positive and optimistic heart, no matter what you face, you can treat it with a peaceful attitude, because you understand that nothing is impossible to pass, and what you really can't get over is the hurdle in your own heart.
2. Don't treat love necessities and luxuries as light luxuries.
In the book "A Guide to The Operation of a Beautiful Life: A Life Management Lesson Written by a Harvard MBA", Ichiga mentions:
"Please think of love as a light luxury of life. If we regard love as a necessity, we can easily have the mentality of "without love, I cannot live happily"; if we regard love as a luxury, we will feel that this is an unattainable goal, will not belong to ourselves, and thus lose the motivation to strive for love, showing a passive and closed state. And the vast majority of people can afford light luxuries, but we will only really buy them when we find something we particularly like and are suitable. When love is regarded as a light luxury, we will also hold this mentality to find our own love, understanding that love belongs to "the best, no matter what".
Just as Lin Ruojun in the film broke up with her boyfriend of 10 years when she was about to be 30 years old, she fell into anxiety, because she regarded love as a necessity and thought that the boyfriend who had been together for so long would definitely marry her, so she would be anxious. But if you can treat love as a light luxury, holding "there is the best, it doesn't matter if there is no", then I think even if you lose love, you will not be so sad.
3. The world is very big, if the state is not good, go out for a walk and see.
Once the Internet was particularly popular with the phrase "the world is so big, I want to see", at that time, I especially admired the bravery and boldness of this female teacher in the system, resigned from the stable work, and then went out to travel in a dashing manner. We don't have to learn from this female teacher's bravery, but we can learn from her spirit.
In modern society, people face more and more pressure, especially 29 + 1 women, to face career, family, parents, society, etc. various pressures, it is inevitable that there will be anxiety and uneasiness, if at this time and pressure to compete, and their own competition, not only can not solve the problem, but may fall into a dead end, vicious circle.
Instead of this, it is better to be like Lin Tianle in the film, take time to give yourself a vacation, use the annual leave to give yourself a chance to relax, travel to the places you have always wanted to go, see what is different from what you imagined in this ever-changing world, maybe, when you come back, the state will be restored, the state is right, everything is right.
As a film that clearly reflects the new anxieties of contemporary older young women, the director uses her unique female perspective to combine real life and video art, expressing her care and thinking about the female group as a woman. Welcome to the #Happy Time Movie #