Dear love, is there such a situation:
Say to go to bed early, and refuse to put down the mobile phone;
Obviously I have to take the exam, and I can't help but stay up late to chase the drama.
Why do we have procrastination? Why can't we be terrible self-disciplined people?
The self-questioning method that turns procrastination into super self-discipline in an instant,
"Becoming a Terrible Self-Regulator"
The book has swept across 14 countries,
Topped the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists No.1!
The author, Marshall Goodsmith, is one of the world's top executive coaches,
He is also the winner of the Lifetime Achievement Award of the American Academy of Management.
Such a treasure author, but in China a bit unpopular?!
Procrastination can instantly become super self-disciplined!
01
Why didn't you become a terrible self-regulator?
Why don't you always fail to be self-disciplined?
We usually attribute the reason to our laziness, procrastination,
But have you ever thought,
Is your laziness and procrastination actually closely related to the incentives in the environment?
For example, why did you get a fitness card?
How few times do you step into the gym?
We can borrow the "trigger matrix" in the book,
To analyze the reasons for the failure -
Triggers refer to any stimuli that affect our behavior.
There are two classifications of inducements, incentive inducements and combat inducements, effective inducements and ineffective inducements.
Among them, incentives lead us to work towards what we want,
And effective inducements lead us toward what we need.
The ideal environment is only when the two are in agreement.
When Panda Jun put the question of "why can't you do it to insist on fitness" into the matrix,
The problem was found: there was always a bunch of reasons to run away, but not enough to invest in what you needed.
True lovers found out that they did not, put the problem into the trigger matrix, and immediately became clear.
You can also list the people and environments that affect your performance, like Panda Jun,
Then judge whether it is motivating or debating, valid or ineffective.
Borrowing the "trigger matrix", we can find our own reasons for "why we have not been able to achieve self-discipline",
So how can we improve it?
That's the highlight of the book:
A self-questioning method that turns procrastination into super self-discipline in an instant!
02
The active questioning method allows you to discipline yourself instantly
What is the positive self-questioning method?
For example:
Maybe true lovers ask themselves every day before going to bed, "Did I exercise today?" ”
But there are only two answers to this way of asking questions: yes or no.
If the answer is "no" you will be very devastated,
Replace the question with "Did I do my best to exercise today?" ”
The former is a negative problem that brings you negative emotions and attributes "indiscipline" to the external environment;
The latter is the positive question, "Did I do my best?", the wording of this level of inquiry,
It allows you to focus on the action itself and induces your motivation.
When we focus on what we can control, we are more motivated to act.
You can have an unstoppable force and become a terrible self-disciplined person!
Try to ask yourself these six positive questions every day:
Am I doing my best to set clear goals today? Am I doing my best to achieve my goals today? Am I doing my best today to find meaning in life? Am I doing my best to pursue happiness today? Am I doing my best to build good relationships today? Am I doing my best to devote myself to work and life today?
True lovers, don't underestimate the power of these six positive questions.
It once allowed a girl named Emily to lose weight quickly:
Emily is a 26-year-old girl who has been overweight for a long time.
But she works at Whole Foods, and the discounted merchandise on employee discount days is the biggest incentive for Emily.
She sets her goals with the phrase "did I try my best" instead of "I didn't."
On day 51, Emily deleted a few of her Q&A content,
Because she said, there's no need to rate these things anymore.
Because these things have become a habit, the habit has become natural.
On day 63, Emily ended a strict juice diet,
She lost 25 kilograms during this time and went to swim or yoga classes at least five times a week.
About a year later, Emily lost another 25kg and finally achieved her weight loss goal.
Good is envious, did not expect the daily Q&A to be so effective!
This is where the advantages of the daily Q&A method lie:
It reinforces our commitment and inspires our motivation,
Cultivate our self-control and self-discipline, and persistent efforts form patience.
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Save your negative behavior with planning
If you want to be a terrible self-discipline,
Not only do you need to learn the daily positive questioning method,
We also need a powerful tool – planning!
In life we often happen to this situation:
Obviously, I planned to reduce my body and rebuild, but at night, I couldn't help but be lazy and eat snacks.
What's going on? Why can't we control ourselves at night?
Because self-control is limited!
Our self-control is like gasoline in a tank, there are always times when it runs out.
So every night, we are more inclined to do things that are relaxed and comfortable.
And planning is the only magic weapon to overcome the loss of willpower!
With planning, we don't have to make that many choices.
If we give ourselves enough planning,
We don't need to be deliberately self-disciplined, and we can achieve the desired results by doing things according to the rules.
For example, the seven-day pill box is a must-have for millions of Americans who take medicine every day.
With it, patients can better take the drug regularly and quantitatively.
On another level, it is also a planning alternative to self-discipline.
These fixed processes solve a lot of problems, and we consume less energy to achieve the effect of self-discipline.