Read "The Biography of Dongpo" again: the three kinds of people closest to you are the noble people of life

Wen Xiang'er

As the saying goes, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black.

Whether a person can succeed is most closely related to the influence of the people around him.

Recently, after reading "The Biography of Dongpo" and combing the trajectory of Su Dongpo's life, I especially agree with this view.

After going through ups and downs, still loving life, optimistic and open-minded, and developing in a well-rounded literary person, Su Dongpo's success in becoming a talent benefited from the influence of these three types of noble people closest to him.

So, which three kinds of nobles are there?

1. The most important noble person in life - parents

The first is parents. It is said that parents are the first teachers of children, parents are excellent, and children will benefit a lot.

Su Dongpo was born in Meishan, Sichuan Province, a small town rich in lotus flowers, and the Su family was a well-off family.

The father Su Qian and the mother Cheng Shi from the Jinshi family attach great importance to the cultural education of their children and have a clear sense of cultivation and planning for the growth of Su Dongpo.

The first is "captivity", which requires children to learn cultural knowledge, obtain meritorious names, and shine on the lintel.

After attending private school classes during the day, at night Su Dongpo and his younger brother Su Zhi would read in front of their parents under a kerosene lamp and review their day's homework.

At the age of 11, Su Dongpo was sent to a secondary school to study, reciting a large number of scriptures and epic texts to prepare for the imperial examination.

At the age of 20, his father Su Xun and his younger brother Su Rui entered Beijing to take the exam, and in the exam attended by 388 people, Su Dongpo entered the army with the second place of honor, showing his talent for the first time and alarming the Beijing circle.

The second is "free range", which fully protects and releases the nature of children.

After school, Su Dongpo can play with his younger brother Su Rui. Sometimes I can catch a bird in the courtyard, dig up dirt in the vegetable garden, or go to the village to catch a market, and spend a fun childhood life.

In addition, Su Dongpo's parents also pay attention to teaching by example and cultivating the quality of kindness, integrity and ambition of their children.

Su Mu Cheng taught Su Dongpo to learn the "Later Han Shu Fan Huan Biography", which mainly tells the story of Fan Huan's integrity and indomitability, daring to expose evil, Fan Mu's deep understanding of righteousness, and her understanding and support for her son's sacrifice for justice.

After learning this article, Su Dongpo asked his mother Cheng Shi, "Mother, when I grow up, I will be a person like Fan Huan, will you be willing?" ”

Su Mu replied, "You promise to be Fan Huan, can't I be Fan Huan's mother?" ”

Su Dongpo had great ambitions at a young age, and in the traditional feudal society at that time, he was inseparable from Su Mu's vision and pattern.

Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them. The first half of Su Dongpo's life is the embodiment of the fruitful results of parents using love and companionship to care for their sons' success.

It can be seen that in the process of children's growth and talent, it is very important to have parents who attach importance to culture, are willing to accompany, have a vision for the cultivation of children, and have a large pattern.

2. The most intimate noble person in life - the partner

The second is the partner, because he | she is a comrade-in-arms who will accompany you all your life.

Wang Fu is Su Dongpo's wife, with a stable temperament, intelligence and ability, and can be called Su Dongpo's virtuous helper.

Whenever Su Dongpo read, she accompanied her and did not go all day; Su Dongpo occasionally forgot, and she reminded her from the side.

Wang Fu was very filial and cared for Su Dongpo, and the two had a deep affection and affection.

Su Dongpo is sometimes too frank and straightforward. Wang Fu was worried that the disaster would come out of his mouth, so he often listened quietly behind the screen, and reminded him not to tell the truth when he saw people after he left, and to beware of general friendship. This is the story of the "behind-the-scenes listening" between Wang Fu and her husband Su Dongpo.

"Ten years of life and death are vague, not thinking, unforgettable."

After Wang Fu's death, Su Dongpo personally planted 30,000 pine trees on the hill where Wang Fu was buried to send his thoughts to his deceased wife.

Su Dongpo's second wife was named Wang Yanzhi, a cousin of Wang Fu, who was gentle in nature and greatly admired Su Dongpo.

Wang Yanzhi accompanied Su Dongpo through the most important 25 years of his life, through the "Wutai Poetry Case", Huangzhou demeaned who, in Su Dongpo's official sea ups and downs, with him to share weal and woe.

When it was most difficult, he picked wild vegetables with Su Dongpo, cultivated the field barefoot, and changed the method to relieve Su Dongpo's boredom. After Wang Yanzhi's death, Su Dongpo severed his liver and intestines, hoping that "there is only the same cave".

Wang Chaoyun was a maid bought by Wang Yanzhi from a song and dance class, and was accepted as a concubine by Su Dongpo, and was called "Heavenly Daughter Vimo" by Su Dongpo, believing that he was the confidant who knew his red face the most, "only Chaoyun can know me". Therefore, Su Dongpo also wrote the most poems to Wang Chaoyun.

The wife and concubine that Su Dongpo had in his life had a confidant with a red face, which had his specific social factors, but for modern women, such a Su Dongpo was not pleasing.

However, throughout Su Dongpo's life, whether it is in the highlight moment of being highly valued and full of vigor, or in the trough of wandering and migrating, fortunately, there are gentle and considerate, understanding and trusting, and appreciating the companionship of the wife and concubine who admires her husband.

As a husband, isn't the pillow man his nobleman?

3 The most indispensable noble person in life - best friend

Finally, there are close friends, because there are many close friends and many roads, and good friends have more roads to go.

As the saying goes, things are clustered in groups and people are grouped. Enthusiastic and frank, naïve and spontaneous, Su Dongpo's circle of friends has also become stronger with the changes in his life experience.

Also brother and friend, Su Ru, who loves brothers and sisters, and Su Dongpo, are closely linked throughout their lives, and they share honor and disgrace.

When he was still young, he and Su Dongpo went to a private school to read the scriptures, went to Beijing to take the exam together, and floated and sank together in the eunuch sea, and had a deep brotherly feeling.

After Su Dongpo was arrested and imprisoned for the "Wutai Poetry Case", Su Rui tried to rescue him in many ways, and did not hesitate to return his official position to the imperial court to get the safety of his brother Su Dongpo. Forced by the rescue from all sides and the pressure of public opinion, Su Dongpo was able to get a light sentence and was demoted to Huangzhou as a deputy envoy.

Even Zhang Fangping and Ouyang Xiu of Yan Father Bole.

When Su Dongpo entered Beijing to take the exam, he was warmly received by Zhang Fangping and introduced to Ouyang Xiu, a heavyweight in the Northern Song Dynasty literary circle at that time.

Ouyang Xiu praised Su Dongpo's literary style and said to his son, "After 30 years, no one will discuss the old man anymore."

For Su Dongpo, who left home to study hard to obtain a meritorious name, Zhang Fangping was in love with his strict father; Ouyang Xiu was undoubtedly a Bole on Su Dongpo's career road.

Like-minded Buddhist friends: Buddha Seal.

Both Buddha Yin and Su Dongpo have studied Buddhism, and the process of getting along with them is extremely interesting.

One day, the two saw a statue of Guanyin holding a Buddha bead.

Su Dongpo asked, "Guanyin himself is a Buddha, so why do you still count the rosary beads in your hand?" ”

The Buddha Seal replied: Oh, she also prays and asks for the Buddha like an ordinary person.

Su Dongpo asked again: To whom did she pray?

Buddha Seal: "Pray like herself." ”

Su Dongpo was puzzled: "Why is this?" She is a Guanyin Bodhisattva, so why pray to herself? ”

Buddha Seal: "You know, it is difficult to ask for others, and it is better to ask others than to ask for yourself." ”

In addition to Zhang Fangping, Ouyang Xiu, And Buddha Yin, who are more well-known friends in the world, Su Dongpo's circle of friends also includes Zhang Qi, Chao Shuzhi, Huang Tingjian, and Qin Guan of the Four Scholars of Sumen; Wang Jie of The Horse Master; and the poet monk Samsan...

They are all indispensable friends and nobles on the long road of life of the heroic and cheerful Su Dongpo.

After carefully reading the "Biography of Dongpo", I suddenly found that the achievements made by Su Dongpo in his life are traceable, inseparable from the general pattern of his parents and the sense of planned cultivation; inseparable from the loyal companionship of his wives and concubines; inseparable from the honor and disgrace of his close friends.

His parents; his companions; his close friends; he was a noble man of Su Dongpo.

I hope that each of us ordinary people, with the assistance of these three kinds of nobles, will continue to ride the wind and waves and create our own brilliant life in a hot and pyrotechnic life.