Red face and thin life is a Chinese idiom that used to refer to a woman who is beautiful but suffers misfortune. History can sometimes be our life, allowing us to sum up a lot of experiences and live better. Other than that, let's talk about the four beauties of ancient China, Xi Shi, Wang Zhaojun, Marten Cicada, and Yang Yuhuan, it is said that they can sink fish, fall geese, close the moon, and shy flowers, but the ending does not seem to be very good, especially Yang Yuhuan, who married the best and died the most tragically. Today, if you face them and still focus on the red face and thin life, it is inevitable that you will not look too superficial. How to make the red face not thin life is the right way, is the king's way, there is a person's experience can clearly make the red face get some inspiration.
Yan Renmei, female, born in 1915, a famous lady of the Republic of China, born in a prominent family. She was initially married to Ma Guanliang, a young master in Suzhou, and resolutely filed for divorce because she could not stand Ma Guanliang's life cheating. Later, he married into the Li family, which had been doing business in Shanghai for generations, and after marriage, the husband and wife loved each other for a lifetime. Counting up, this once known as the "last first beauty of Shanghai Beach", this year has been 105 years old, but still alive, not only let the red face not thin life, but also let the beauty last for a long time, live forever.
Yan Renmei
Let's first tell a historical story about Xi Shi: It is said that the Yue King intended to sacrifice Xi Shi to King Wu, but a palace girl believed that a true beauty must have three conditions, one is beauty, the other is good at singing and dancing, and the third is posture. Xi Shi only had the first condition, and lacked the other two. In order to cultivate this beauty, Yue Guo spent three years teaching Xi Shi singing and dancing, walking, etiquette, etc., Xi Shi himself was also angry and hard-working, and finally a Huan sha woman became a well-cultivated palace girl, met the above three conditions, and was sent to the Wu Kingdom, completed the beauty plan, so that the King of Wu was drunk, and finally went to the road of the country and death.
This story seems to tell people such a truth, the real beauty is in the day after tomorrow to grow or refined, not from the womb. Yan Renmei's experience is also like this, it is said that she was only 8 months old when she was born, she was a premature baby, because there was no hair on her head, and her mother was very disappointed. Fortunately, my grandfather was an extremely open person, and named him "Renmei", hoping that he would grow up and become more beautiful.
Until now, some children's hair is not good, and adults have to shave their heads, hoping to make children's hair grow well through this move. Yan Renmei's mother also took this method at that time, but the effect was not very good, within two years of age, Yan Renmei shaved her head many times, but her hair still did not grow well. It wasn't until later, when a relative who worked as a pediatrician brought Yan Renmei to England, and after several adjustments, she grew a good hair.
Renmei, benevolence, beauty, grandfather's non-abandonment of Yan Renmei and beautiful hopes, at the beginning of Yan Renmei's life stood a beautiful landscape, at that time, although Yan Renmei was still a baby, it was impossible to understand all this, but it could not deny the existence of this beautiful scenery. Unconsciously, it is precious, and this seems to be similar to that of many people engaged in prenatal education now.
Now, let's introduce Yan Renmei's family background: The great-grandfather Yan Xinhou was an aide to Li Hongzhang, who co-founded China's first bank, the China Commerce and Commerce Bank, in Shanghai, and served as the first president, and also founded the Shanghai General Chamber of Commerce and many official and private enterprises, known as the "founding father" of the Ningbo Gang. Grandfather Yan Zi was the only son of Yan Xiaofang, known as "multi-talented and good, quite a father", famous for running a money house. His father, Yan Zhiduo, was the eldest grandson of Yan's parents, and he married Liu Chengyi, the granddaughter of Liu Yong of Xiaolianzhuang, the head of the "Four Elephants" of Nanxun in Huzhou. His grandfather was Liu Yong's third son, Liu Tiqing, a wealthy shanghai real estate businessman.
How bad can a child who grows up in such a family go? It is not so much a blessing cultivated by the family for the child, but rather that the child's growth in this environment is itself a cultivation of self-growth. Beauty grows day by day in this environment, but it is obviously not enough to rely on it alone. Song Luxia, "Shanghai Beach Famous Door Bride Show" (Shanghai Science and Technology Literature Publishing House, 2008): Yan Renmei lost her mother at the age of 6 and lived with her wife. When she was seven or eight years old, her stepmother's aunt became the principal of Qixiu Girls' School, and she went to school here. When Yan Renmei was 10 years old, Wugu graduated from university and worked in the Chinese and Western Girls' High School, and she also transferred to the school. The Chinese and Western Girls' High School is a famous aristocratic school, and many of them are ladies of the rich and prestigious families, including Zhang Hanfen, daughter of Zhang Shouyong, vice minister of finance of the Republic of China, Huang Huibao, daughter of Huang Chujiu, Tang Minzhen, daughter of the Chinese ambassador to France, Lin Ying, a young lady of the Fujian rich merchant Lin family, and Shen Youfen, granddaughter of the Xi family in Suzhou Dongting.
The environment affects people, people also affect people, Yan Renmei in the aristocratic school obviously hugged with those rich and prestigious ladies, and the beautiful women quietly bloomed in the process.
When Yan Renmei was in middle school, an incident occurred in the family, and a young lady of the Yan family who was older than her eloped with someone without the consent of her parents. This incident touched Yan Renmei's father quite a bit, and then believed that the reason why the girl became like that was because of the "enlightened" result of reading, so she did not want Yan Renmei to go to school again, and wanted to find someone to marry her.
Yan Renmei did not agree, and her father had to make a compromise, proposing that as long as Yan Renmei scored 90 points in each homework, he would let her continue to study. That year, Yan Renmei worked hard and took the first place in the class, she thought that her father could talk and count, but his father married her to a rich young master in Suzhou, Ma Guanliang.
The Ma family has money in industries such as rich villages, pawnshops, and rice shops, and the family has a solid foundation, and sends people to send a message: as long as Yan Renmei can be allowed to marry, any conditions can be agreed. There are two reasons for this: one is that Yan Renmei is indeed very beautiful; the other is that the Ma family's wife is seriously ill and needs to marry a daughter-in-law "Chong Xi". Yan Renmei's father felt that the Ma family's conditions were good, and he was right with his own door and agreed to this matter.
Yan Renmei did not comply, and her father locked her up and forbade her to go to school. Yan Renmei went on a hunger strike to resist the righteousness, and as a result, he fell seriously ill and was taken to Hangzhou by his grandfather for treatment. Yan Renmei stayed in Hangzhou for about a year, and her condition gradually improved, in the process, she thought about it and promised her father that she could marry, but only if she had to go to school after marrying. In this way, yan Renmei and Ma Guanliang's arranged marriage became.
After marriage, Yan Renmei and Ma Guanliang gave birth to three children in total, and she worked hard to be a good wife and a good mother with a gentle personality, but she was very helpless, due to the different growth backgrounds, the two were incompatible in terms of ideological concepts and living habits. Although Ma Gongzi is handsome and handsome, he has made some not so good friends in the Ten Mile Ocean Field, spending days drinking, playing everywhere, and even cheating. Yan Renmei could not stand it and resolutely filed for divorce.
Although divorced, Yan Renmei still had many suitors behind her, and soon she was targeted by a Japanese officer. This Japanese man, named Motoyama, called himself "Minister", a high official, and said that he had never been married, and Yan Renmei did not suffer a loss when he married him. Yan Renmei did not have a good feeling for the Japanese, and went to her uncle's house to hide, as a result, Benshan not only went to her house to say goodbye, but also sent someone to her uncle's house to stalk, which made the Yan family panic.
Yan Renmei's father realized the seriousness of the problem, and unlike the last time he was "high-profile" forced to marry, this time he thought of low-key "hiding" - after consultation with Yan Renmei's elders, it was decided to quickly find another family for Yan Renmei to marry Yan Renmei. In this way, Yan Renmei had a second marriage, and she was married to a person named Li Zumin in Ningbo.
Li Zumin is a college student, never married, human duty, or a small boss. As soon as the parents of the two sides met, they quickly finalized the marriage of the two, and in order not to be disturbed by the Japanese, they decided that not only should everything be kept secret quickly, but also took less than 100 days from engagement to marriage. On the day of the wedding, in order to prevent the Japanese from getting the news to rush to the wedding, the two families even invited more than ten bodyguards. As a bride, Yan Renmei looked very beautiful and majestic under the escorts, but there was not even a bridesmaid around.
Confucius proposed "benevolent life" in the Analects of Yongye and explained: "Benevolent person, lover." While expressing to people that they should be generous and have noble moral cultivation, he added: "Great virtue will have a long life." "Meaning: People with a loving heart and a broad mind are prone to longevity. Today, people often use this phrase for health, but it is more suitable for life - a good life is raised by love.
Until now, Ms. Yan Renmei is still alive, and she should be 105 years old, very long-lived, very long-lived. There are reports that she lives with her second son's family in Shenzhen, although at the end of the 20th century, Mr. Li Zumin, who has been dependent on her for more than fifty years, died of illness, but now she is still in good health, and she can still practice writing and arrange flowers every day, living a calm and elegant life. Every year on your birthday, you can receive blessings from all over the world.
When we open the experience of Ms. Yan Renmei and return to the phrase "Ren Ren Shou", we find that "Ren" is actually very simple for ordinary people: one is to contribute to society, and the other is to work. These two points correspond to Ms. Yan Renmei's two things: First, in 1951, during the campaign to donate aircraft cannons to the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, she not only took the lead in donating money, but also mobilized the families of major industrial and commercial households to donate... It is reported that she and her relatives and friends have donated tens of millions of yuan over the years; second, she herself has set up two industries, "Overseas Chinese Friends Service Society" and "Overseas Chinese Star Nursery", she loves her industry very much, and once worked in her own industry like taking care of her children.
Conclusion: It is said that it is very difficult to find people in this world who have a beautiful appearance and a good heart, but Ms. Yan Renmei, who was once the "last first beauty of Shanghai Beach", let people see it. Modern scientific research shows that with the improvement of people's living standards, human beings have become more and more beautiful and better-looking, which means that in terms of appearance, there is no shortage of beautiful women and handsome men, but the cultivation of "Benevolent Life" always seems to be a little less. Ms. Yan Renmei's experience tells people that a woman's beauty is not the cause of a short life at all.
(Note: The pictures in this article are from the network, thanks to the original author, except for Yan Renmei's own photos, the rest are old Shanghai simulation maps)