I still remember the first time I watched "The First Half of My Life", I saw Chen Junsheng cheating on her single mother Ling Ling, and even wanted to divorce his wife Luo Zijun for her, and there was an inexplicable anger in my heart.
Feeling that Chen Junsheng has no sense of family responsibility, only knows work, does not care about family affairs, Luo Zijun gave up his career for him, single-mindedly took care of the child, but in the end he was occupied by her dove, and almost lost the child.
Watching "The First Half of My Life" again, suddenly I was no longer indignant for Luo Zijun because Chen Junsheng cheated on him, but more that I felt that Luo Zijun at this time was hateful.
Giving up a career and losing yourself in a marriage is hateful.
When Luo Zijun found out that Chen Jun had cheated on Ling Ling and cried a lot about it, although I, who was also a woman, should feel sympathy for her. But when Luo Zijun was upset about himself in front of the congratulatory letter, I found that Luo Zijun was actually hateful.
Luo Zijun scolded: Like Tang Jing, I graduated from college. I also worked for half a year after graduation, and I am also a foreign company. It was Chen Junsheng who married me home and told me not to work. It was he who promised me a perfect and happy life. He said he was going to raise me.
Such a passage should be Luo Zijun's unwilling and angry cry in his heart after he knew that Chen Junsheng had cheated.
There is a saying that goes well: a man's mouth, a deceitful ghost. Most men, before marriage, are like this. I hope that my wife is a good wife and mother, and every day I come home from work with hot meals to eat and my children to take care of. But in the end, there are a few people who can stand it, women complain about trivial things after marriage, and because their wives' appearance declines after marriage.
From Luo Zijunli's words, it can be seen that before getting married, she and her girlfriend Tang Jing were on the same running line. The same is the graduation from college, the same is working in a foreign company, if not married, do not give up on herself, then although she can not be like Tang Jing, confident and self-reliant, talking at work, calm in the face of love enemies. But it will not be like today, when facing her husband's cheating, she has no strength to resist and can only let her lover lead her nose.
Indulging in a perfect marriage, without any sense of crisis, hateful.
Luo Zijun in the early stage described himself like this: 33-year-old me, is a housewife with no worries about food and clothing, the child pick-up and dinner is managed by the nanny, the only thing I need to spend effort to fight is the increasingly loose skin, and the girls around my husband.
Perhaps in the eyes of any woman, she will feel that Luo Zijun is very happy. Her husband is responsible for making money to support her family, she is responsible for being beautiful as a flower, and even Luo Zijun fully believes in the perfect life that Chen Junsheng has created for her.
So when she was guarding against those flowery girls, she couldn't imagine that Chen Junsheng would actually cheat, and since the object of the cheating was still a single mother with a child.
I believe that many people who watched this drama at the beginning will scold Chen Junsheng, but in fact, Luo Zijun is not hateful?
Their children have a nanny to take care of, they buy and buy all day, even try on a shoe and have to wait for a few people, go shopping and take a nanny to help carry things, completely a picture of Mrs. Kuo. In addition, she is also very unfriendly to the nanny, and her life style, although the people around her do not say it, but it is all in the eyes.
Not to be ashamed of relying on others, but to be proud, this is perhaps the saddest and hateful place of a person.
It is also hateful not to distinguish between right and wrong, not to do self-examination
For the marriage with Chen Junsheng, although Luo Zijun thinks that she is happy, it can actually be seen that she has no self-confidence, otherwise she would not worry about her husband being robbed by others every day.
But although she was not confident, she was still immersed in the happiness promise that Chen Junsheng gave him. It wasn't until the third party, Ling Ling, came to the door and gave her a blow to the head that she was awake. It turned out that the person she thought was an honest person, someone who could be entrusted for life, let her down.
Chen Junsheng cheated, Luo Zijun was sober, but she didn't seem to be sober again, because she thought that Chen Junsheng was the reason for Ling Ling.
Later, the congratulatory letter found the documents for Ling Ling's work handover to show Luo Zijun. Each of Ling Ling's documents is very well organized and covered with different color tags.
It is said that men who work hard are the most attractive, so why not women? Ling Ling takes her work very seriously, and so does her own children. In the face of Chen Junsheng, in addition to being gentle and considerate, she also knows how to advance and retreat.
And Luo Zijun, in addition to spending money and spending a lot of money on weekdays, not paying attention to children, but also checking the post from time to time, this kind of behavior makes Chen Junsheng difficult to accept.
His husband cheated on him, and he kept finding excuses to excuse him, and even pushed the mistake on others, and he cried and made a lot of noise. Such a distinction between right and wrong, without self-examination, is really hateful.
Women who understand "The First Half of My Life" also seem to see women's lives thoroughly.
The man said in his mouth: I hope that my other half, gentle and virtuous, will take care of the family. But when his wife gave up her career and dreams for him, he began to dislike it. Chen Junsheng is just a typical example among tens of millions of men.
Drama is like life, Luo Zijun before divorce should be the representative of most of our married women in China. Be a happy fool in marriage, and when the crisis comes, you don't realize how miserable and helpless you are.
Although she was later reborn in nirvana, it also reminded us that women love ourselves well and never give up on ourselves for the sake of marriage.