I once heard a saying that if a person wants to walk a beautiful life, he must find his other half, because half a football cannot roll, so the top priority of adults is to find their own other half.
Yes, finding a spouse is a basic humane operation, but it is not a random search, and the most important thing is to see if both parties are suitable before two people work together for a lifetime. Like-minded people are suitable to be friends for a lifetime, and people with complementary personalities should work together for a lifetime.
As the president of Peking University, Jiang Menglin could not find a suitable life partner until the end of his life.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > first, the first half of Jiang Menglin's happy life</h1>
Jiang Menglin, a native of Zhejiang, China, was born in 1886. In the days after he was born, his father had a dream, and in the dream, a small bear walked into their home, so his father named him Jiang Mengxiong, and then Jiang Menglin gradually grew up, entered the school, and after being admitted to a higher education institution, his father renamed him Jiang Menglin.
In the 1910s, after hearing Dr. Sun Yat-sen's revolutionary call, Jiang Menglin, abroad, resolutely decided to return to China to help Sun Yat-sen formulate his industrial plan. By the end of the 10s, he responded to Cai Yuanpei's commission and became the president of Peking University.
Jiang Menglin is also the person who has held the longest position as president of Peking University in modern times. During his reign, Jiang Menglin attached great importance to education, published many works, and was very famous and accomplished in the academic community.
And just when Jiang Menglin's education career was just booming, the domestic situation underwent earth-shaking changes, Jiang Menglin had to give up his post, wandered around, and finally came to Shanghai after several turns.
At the end of the 50s, Jiang Menglin's second wife Tao Zenggu died of illness, and she had been thinking about Jiang Menglin before leaving: I knew that Jiang Menglin was a person with great affection, I was afraid that my departure would hit him, his health had always been bad, don't get sick because of my departure, I hope he can find a better wife.
And it is precisely because of this that Jiang Menglin was unmoved by the objects introduced to anyone after the death of his wife, until later Jiang Menglin met a woman.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, Jiang Menglin fell in love at first sight</h1>
One day in 1960, Jiang Menglin was invited to Taiwan to attend a banquet, at which he met a woman he fell in love with, Xu Xianle, who was 52 years old, 22 years younger than Jiang Menglin. And as soon as Jiang Menglin saw her, he swore that she would not marry, which was probably love at first sight.
Maybe everyone is not very familiar with Xu Xianle, but she is actually from a famous family, her great-grandfather is a famous scientist, Xu Xianle can be described as a scholarly door, in the eyes of outsiders, she and Jiang Menglin are the right door. Although Xu Xianle is 50 years old, he still has a moving appearance and a gentle demeanor, all of which is seen by Jiang Menglin in his eyes and anxious in his heart.
Jiang Menglin was completely fascinated by her, so the elderly Jiang Menglin began a journey of pursuit of love, love letter after letter, bouquet after bouquet of flowers, and finally, under Jiang Menglin's indiscriminate bombardment, Xu Xianle fell, such a result made Jiang Menglin happy to sleep at night.
Xu Xianle also had a failed marriage before this, and her former husband was Yang Jie, chief of staff of the Northern Expedition army and ambassador of the Nationalist government to the Soviet Union. At that time, people also talked about it, saying that Xu Xianle was a woman who loved vanity and coveted money, and that she married Yang Jie because she cared about the power and wealth in Yang Jie's hands.
Later, Yang Jie also couldn't stand Xu Xianle's behavior and eventually filed for divorce. Xu Xianle, who was forced to divorce, was unwilling and often smeared Yang Jie on various occasions, causing trouble everywhere. But Jiang Menglin dared to pursue such a woman, which really made his relatives and friends around him sweat.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third, Jiang Menglin hit the south wall and suddenly woke up</h1>
Jiang Menglin's grand courtship trip quickly reached the ears of his close friends, and everyone wrote letters to advise him to think carefully and not to act blindly.
Even his friend Hu Shi, who was in the hospital bed, wrote letters one after another to dissuade him: "I don't think you know Xu Xianle's character very well, I hope you can think carefully, this kind of woman who covets vanity and loves money is not worth it, please think twice." ”
But Jiang Menglin did not hit the south wall and did not turn back, still insisted on going his own way, and did not give up pursuing Xu Xianle because of the persuasion of his friends, and in his reply letter to Hu Shi, he could also see his obsession at that time: I think you misunderstood Xu Xianle, she has a wealth far greater than me, how can she covet my money?
As soon as the pen and ink fell, even Song Meiling came to dissuade him, and even claimed that if Jiang Menglin married Xu Xianle, then they would not interact with each other in the future.
However, everything others said was in vain, and it was impossible to feel empathy without experiencing pain, until later, when people and money were empty, Jiang Menglin suddenly woke up.
The beautiful married life that Jiang Menglin envisioned had only passed for two years, and in these two years, Jiang Menglin was drunk and dreamed of death, as if living in heaven on earth.
Until one day, Jiang Menglin accidentally was hospitalized because of a foot injury, and Xu Xianle finally exposed his horse's feet.
People who can only share happiness and cannot share suffering will quickly reveal their evil side once an accident occurs, and this dreamlike feeling will eventually break.
At first, Xu Xianle was still able to take care of Jiang Menglin carefully, but before long, Xu Xianle, who was greedy for money, was no longer willing to spend a large amount of medical expenses on Jiang Menglin and threw him into the small ward, which made Jiang Menglin wake up like a dream.
During these days when Jiang Menglin was hospitalized, Xu Xianle quietly transferred his hukou out and transferred Jiang Menglin's money to his own name.
When Jiang Menglin was discharged from the hospital, he directly froze, he couldn't believe that he was really on Xu Xianle's set, and Xu Xianle had disappeared since then.
Jiang Menglin finally woke up, he began to regret, hating why he did not listen to the advice of his friends at that time, how he was fascinated by ghosts at that time, and these were too late.
What hurt Jiang Menglin the most was that his friend Hu Shi did not pay attention to his dissuasion before his death, as the saying goes: People will die, and their words are good. It can be seen how stupid I was at that time.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > four, the dream bubble, will eventually be destroyed</h1>
Xu Xianle's departure finally made Jiang Menglin sober, but this awakening seemed to come too late. After xu xianle left, he did as he did with Yang Jie, accusing and smearing Jiang Menglin in major newspapers and periodicals, and never repented.
And Jiang Menglin was also furious, and in a fit of anger, he sued Xu Xianle in court to end this illusory marriage, but this dramatic life stain also became Jiang Menglin's laughing stock in people's mouths.
Probably this failed marriage experience also brought irreparable damage to Jiang Menglin, who finally died of illness in Taipei on June 19, 1964. Xu Xianle, who was a villain and did not want to repent, died 42 years after Jiang Menglin left.
Marriage is a major life event for everyone, although we must bravely pursue the beloved other half, and in order to be with her and the world seems to be vigorous, but we must also distinguish the truth and falsity of things before this, and we must not be blinded by "love" like Jiang Menglin, and finally let ourselves lose our wives and fold soldiers. Love is the right of each of us, the freedom of each of us, but please do not hurt the other half of the relationship.