No one is perfect, and people will make mistakes, which is a very normal thing. If you make a mistake, you must first correctly treat the criticism of others, take people as a mirror, and regard the criticism of others as a ladder for your own progress.
In the face of criticism and blame, many people are now "tiger's ass, can't touch it", and are only willing to listen to praise and smooth language. "Advice is better than deeds", if people want to make continuous progress, they must be able to listen to the advice of the opposite ear and read the classic teachings that point directly to the human heart.
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Mozi was a famous thinker during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, and when he was young, he studied with Shi Ming of the State of Lu.
Mozi was Shi Ming's most proud disciple, but Shi Ming often criticized him harshly for a small matter. However, even if the other disciples made a big mistake, Shi Ming didn't take it seriously, and even laughed at it.
This made Mozi very uncomfortable, and he said to Shi Ming, "Teacher, why did you make the same mistake, and you criticized me very badly?" ”
Shi Ming looked at him and asked, "Suppose there are two tasks like this, one is to go to the Taihang Mountains, and the other is to grind at home, what do you think is good to let the good colt and the donkey do respectively?" ”
"Does it still need to be asked?" Of course, riding a good colt to the Taihang Mountains, let the donkey pull the grind at home! Mozi replied. Shi Ming nodded and asked, "Then which of them do you think will be whipped more?" ”
"Of course, it is a good colt, and the donkey only needs to walk slowly, and if the good colt wants to catch up, it will often be whipped."
Shi Ming smiled satisfactorily, "Not bad at all!" Then you should understand the reason why I often scold you, because only you can shoulder the heavy responsibility of going up the Taihang Mountain, and it is worth my strict requirements with a whip. ”
Mozi suddenly realized that he would no longer be secretly angry because of the teacher's criticism, but would reflect on his mistakes and work harder into his studies. Later, he finally became a famous thinker, and the Kaishan Li school founded the Mojia Doctrine.
Coincidentally, the cultivating pillar was Mozi's disciple, one day when Mozi was teaching, a small bird stopped at the willow tree outside the window and whispered, the disciples looked out one after another, and the cultivating pillar also glanced at him, but afterwards Mozi scolded him severely alone.
Cultivating Pillar felt that he had been greatly wronged, and complained: "I have made no more mistakes than others, but I have been severely reprimanded by the teacher." ”
Mozi listened and asked, "If you were to drive a horse and a cow up the Taihang Mountain, would you choose to whip the horse or whip the cow?" ”
The cultivating pillar replied without hesitation, "Of course I will whip the horse." ”
Mozi asked "why", and the cultivator replied, "Because the horse runs fast, it is worth whipping, and this ability is not possessed by cattle." ”
Mozi told him, "I scold you precisely because you are like a horse, not like an ox, and you deserve criticism." ”
People who really learn with an open mind do not care about how others teach themselves, but only care about how to learn. Noble people who can help you are everywhere, and they may be cute or vicious.
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The growth of children needs the sunshine of praise, but also the rain and dew of criticism.
Good medicine is good for the sick, and advice is good for the ear. All teachers who have high hopes for good students will never say cheap words to make students happy every day, but will become more and more severe and harsh, and try their best to temper the character and will of students. In Master Yan's mind, every material that can be made is at first a small tree that grows wildly, and it is not enough to form without cutting, and it is not enough to become a material without carving.
The teacher's criticism is a necessary nutrient in the growth of children, which can keep children's heads clear at all times, so as to go more steadily and farther on the road of growth!
It is a kind of happiness for children to be criticized by teachers.
Because of these critical education, students can soberly recognize their own shortcomings and correct their shortcomings, so that they can grow better.
The current educational environment is very different from 10 years ago, 20 years ago. In the past, each family had 3.4 children, and parents would not take special care of the emotions of a child, but now the situation is that a family of N people live around the child, the child's growth environment has changed, and the inevitable education method also needs to change.
If you encounter a more severe punishment than others, it is not that the teacher is unfair, biased against you, and deliberately makes the tripper difficult for you, but because in the teacher's mind, the student is a material that can be made, a promising person, and it is worthy of his criticism of education.
Many times parents have glass hearts, and children will also have glass hearts. Parents are the kind of people who can't accept criticism, at home, the unit is always strong, dare not admit mistakes, first of all, they shirk their responsibilities, then children will do the same and will become such people.
Therefore, it is wrong for parents to ask teachers how to treat their children. The level of education of the child by the teacher will not be much better than you because she is engaged in this profession, the teacher is not a child psychological counselor, that is another profession. Therefore, parents should be strict with themselves and their children.
Regrettably, in the eyes of some parents, children are not wronged at home, so they cannot be wronged at school. If corporal punishment or criticism is too severe, parents will stand on the moral high ground, move out of the law, and petition the Education Bureau. As a result, there are more and more Buddhist teachers. They finally realized that the so-called "teacher, so preaching and being confused by karma" is just an ancient adage, and in reality, when students do not accept "karma to solve puzzles", they can only have no choice but to spend it.
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Only when the person who is taught crosses the threshold of likes, dislikes, joys, and angers, and gets out of the so-called "non-comfort zone" of not liking and not being adaptable, can he truly overcome the "heart knot" and embark on the road to becoming a talented person by realizing from the bottom of his heart.
The process of accepting critical opinions is actually the process of people's ideological confrontation, the process of changing the world outlook, outlook on life, and values, the process of moving from self-denial to new affirmation, and the process of sublimating our thinking in baptism.
In this process, we learn from our mistakes, draw nourishment from criticism, and gradually move towards maturity and success. Strict is love, loose is harmful. Criticism is a kind of strictness, so criticism itself is also a kind of love, but a high level of love.
We must learn to distinguish all kinds of criticism around us and correct the shortcomings and mistakes that exist objectively, so that we can make our hearts stronger and guide us to success.