As a part-time self-media person, I should have always paid attention to hot spots, but my time and energy were limited, and sometimes I could only watch the hot spots become "freezing points".
For example, the three-child policy that caused heated discussion a few days ago. Through the hot discussion of the three-child policy, I found that any policy for the group, no matter how difficult and difficult it is for some individuals, can find support in the group.
For very ordinary people, the three-child policy that they can't even think of, when chen Ting arrives, it becomes "completing the task in advance".
Speaking of Chen Ting alone, everyone may not know who it is, she is the wife of the great director Zhang Yimou. I still remember the first time she was on the hot search, or because Zhang Yimou was exposed to have three illegitimate children, because Chao Sheng was punished, but this hot search was because there were three children glorious. Life is magical.
An ordinary girl, relying on fertility and marriage to become the wife of an international famous director, to achieve a class leap, many people (especially girls) will inevitably envy, think that this is a good shortcut, can't help but want to copy.
But rationally think about it, Chen Ting's success is full of coincidences and uncertainties, once any of these links are wrong, it may lead to the collapse of the entire life, resulting in self-destruction and destruction.
According to the data, Chen Ting was born in 1981, 31 years younger than Zhang Yimou, and the two met in the audition of the 1999 movie "Happy Time". At that time, Zhang Yimou was 49 years old and was already a famous director in the world, while Chen Ting was just an 18-year-old girl who had just entered the university and was still a little naïve.
The big director and the little girl, two completely different identities, basically set the tone for the two to get along in the future, one is completely in a leadership position, and the other is blindly obedient.
In short, Zhang Yimou, who met Chen Ting, was famous and capable of pursuing, and there were several masterpieces, it can be said that there was no lack of anything, the only thing missing was the son, so not long after the two met, Zhang Dao talked to Chen Ting very formally about getting married and having children.
As for the vast sea of people, why chen Ting was chosen as an ordinary young girl, with hidden feelings and twists and turns, we don't know we don't dare to ask.
When Chen Ting was 20 years old, she gave birth to her and Zhang Yimou's first son out of wedlock, and then gave birth to a son and a daughter in the same non-marital state within the next five years, that is to say, before the age of 25, she had completed the three-child indicator.
Here by the way, the names of the three children are Zhang Yinan, Zhang Yiding and Zhang Yijiao, and this kind of psychology and practice of engraving the word male Ding on the brain door makes me doubt Master Zhang's artistic achievements.
Regarding the three children Zhang Dao's own statement, his father's clan concept is particularly strong, and the only expectation for him before his death is to have a son to pass on the lineage, preferably full of children and grandchildren. In order to fulfill his father's last wishes, he did not hesitate to give birth to three illegitimate children in violation of the law.
I don't know what other people think about it, but I myself say that if my daughter is eighteen years old, is in college, and her life will be slowly unfolding in front of her, suddenly an old man comes up to her and talks about having a baby, and if I don't break his leg, I can only say that his leg is too hard.
Zhang Yimou himself has two daughters, the eldest daughter Zhang Mo was born to his ex-wife, only two years younger than Chen Ting, the younger daughter Zhang Yijiao is only a teenager now, no matter which daughter Zhang Dao is running to the elite route to cultivate, but at the beginning let the daughter of the family help her have children, just ... It's really "double standard".
Chen Ting was not yet of legal marriage age when she gave birth to her first child, and the two naturally did not receive a marriage license, so the child became a black household, but later even if she reached the legal age of marriage and gave birth to two children in a row, Zhang Yimou still did not get a license with her, and was silent about her existence.
For a decade, Chen Ting and her children lived an invisible life, and even Zhang Yimou's personal assistant did not know that he had a family and children. The three children have encountered many obstacles because they do not have a hukou, from traveling to school.
From this, we can see two points: first, Zhang Yimou has no intention of marrying Chen Ting; second, he has little interaction with Chen Ting and the children, and is not a competent father.
In 2011, Zhang Yimou finally registered his marriage with Chen Ting, and there are two theories about why he chose to marry at this time. The person's argument is that the eldest son must have a household registration to go to school, and for the sake of the child, he has to register; the anecdotal version is that he knows that someone is going to expose his overbirth, and urgently registers for remediation.
Either way, it shows the fact that marriage is not Zhang Yimou's original intention, so Chen Ting can sit on the title of real-name director's wife, in fact, to thank the policy or someone.
Then Zhang Dao was unwilling to continue to bear the coercion of someone, took the initiative to expose the family, since then Chen Ting can finally be on social media to show her husband, children, and her family life, but Zhang Yimou and her interaction is very little, so it always gives people a deliberately concave happy persona, but it is difficult to clap the feeling.
This time, she forwarded the picture of the three-child policy and the Weibo with the text "Complete the task ahead", but she received forwarding and support from Zhang Yimou's studio.
From the phrase "complete the task in advance", it can be seen that although it usually takes the route of quiet years, the repression and grievances that have been suffered will not disappear out of thin air, and once you get the opportunity, you always have to release it. In her heart, perhaps the three-child policy is a slap in the face to the world: I plan ahead, I choose the right path, how smart I am!
As everyone knows, now is not a time when women marry a rich and powerful husband and live a carefree life, which makes people envious, this slap not only does not hurt others, but also makes themselves lose their demeanor.
Don't think that if you entangle a rich man, you can eat him with his children, and you can keep him safe for the rest of your life, and you will find that rich men are not necessarily "generous":
Zhang Tielin did not ask about illegitimate daughters and illegitimate children (born to different women separately), and even refused to pay basic maintenance, and was sued by the child's mother in court;
Jackie Chan does not care about his mentally depressed daughter, and will not leave her a penny after a hundred years;
Qi Qin also had an illegitimate child, although he was not ruthless enough not to ask about it, but this child was very rebellious and moody because of his identity as an illegitimate child, and his grades were also very poor...
At the beginning, 18-year-old Chen Ting gave up her studies, gave up a great future, and put all the beauty of her life on her stomach, which was no less than gambling. In fact, everyone understands the truth of ten bets and nine losses, but there are always people who have a fluke mentality and fight to the death for the possibility of winning a little bit.
It is true that from a secular point of view, Chen Ting did win, and the wealth she now has and the class she is in has surpassed most people, but this does not mean that her path can be copied and is worth recommending.
The reason why Chen Ting can win is because she meets the old Zhang Yimou, once a man ages, the psychological appeal will transition from the passion he longed for when he was young to stability, because he has no energy to toss anymore; second, compared with those men who are weak and widowed, Zhang Dao still has a conscience.
In the end, Chen Ting is just a special case, an outlier, not worth emulating, or even worth discussing (in this way, my article is almost equivalent to nonsense). Ordinary people like you and me, don't try to become the second Chen Ting.
After all, the road has to be walked on its own, in order to go wider and wider.
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