Fast-paced life and a high-pressure work environment make it impossible for more and more parents to accompany their children. Some parents believe that their children are older, have gone to junior high school, and do not need companionship so much, or earn more money to meet their children's growing expenses. Many parents neglect to accompany middle school students, and some parents do not know how to get along with middle school students, low-quality companionship, so that the parent-child relationship is tense!
How terrible is the lack of companionship for middle school students? Let the senior homeroom teacher who has worked for 20 years tell you...
First, middle school students who lack companionship are more likely to indulge in the Internet.
When I first became the class teacher, I found that there was a white and fat boy in the class named Wang Ji, his eyes were small, and every time he looked over, it was like smiling, and it was like he was asleep. He sat alone in the corner, as if everything around him had nothing to do with him, and no class could pass. His elementary school classmates kept telling me that his grades were among the best before the fifth grade of elementary school. When asked about the reason for the decline in grades, the students said that he had an Internet addiction. When my family visited to understand the situation, I learned that when I was in the fifth grade, Wang Ji's parents divorced, and his father did business in Wenzhou, basically rarely came home. Wang Ji usually lived with his grandfather, but when his grandfather was older, he could only manage the child's food and clothing. Wang Ji didn't have anything to say to his grandfather, and he plunged into the network. Every day after eating, he sat in front of the computer and gradually lost interest in learning. His grandfather repeatedly told the teacher that wang ji in our family is really smart, and the teacher should bother you more. Chatting with Wang Ji, he confessed that when he first started playing games, he would also feel guilty and thought about quitting the Internet. But leaving the Internet and returning to reality, I feel empty, my mother does not call me now, my father is in a bad mood, and always scolds me. Only in the game, I can forget my troubles, I will not be sad, and I will not feel that time is difficult.
With a series of students, it was found that single-parent families and parents are families doing business, and children are more likely to indulge in games, the main reason is that children lack companionship and can only find spiritual sustenance in games.
Second, middle school students who lack companionship are more likely to make fox friends.
After school, Li Qing was not in a hurry to go home at all. Instead, I was chatting with a bunch of people at the bus stop. The no. 386 bus he usually takes has passed three times, and there are only a few students at the station. He was chatting with him as he slowly got into the car. Li Qing didn't want to go home early, because he knew that his parents were still working overtime at this point, and he could only stay alone in the empty room when he went back. He especially likes to chat with people, whether they recognize them or not. Soon Li Qing was very familiar with a group of idle young people in society. They either play together or have fun together. Li Qing followed them and learned to smoke, drink, fight and fight. It wasn't until the teachers of the Political and Educational Affairs Office called Li Qing's parents to the school that they learned that their son had actually participated in a group fight at two schools. Faced with the school's punishment, the two mouths could not cry at that time. They blamed their son for not talking, and the son looked at them with more cold and disgusted eyes, and said viciously: "You know how to make money, and you don't care about my life or death at all." Things at school are solved for me by friends you don't look up to. ”
Li Qing's parents never expected that they would desperately earn money in exchange for their son's resentment and hatred. It turned out that Li Qing's parents, who did not have a high education, came to Zhejiang from their hometown in Anhui to work. Their eldest son was left at home. In order to let the young son study in the city, the husband and wife are not afraid of suffering, not afraid of tiredness, dirty work is done, and they can only pay a down payment. They thought it was remarkable that they could make money and send their sons to secondary school in the city. Unexpectedly, 3 sons who lacked companionship actually met idle friends outside and became not even acquainted with themselves.
Children who lack the company of their parents are more likely to get warmth from their peers. They can do anything for the sake of their companions!
Third, middle school students who lack companionship are more likely to fall in love early.
I was so surprised when Jingjing's mother put a utility knife, a Band-Aid and disinfectant water on my desk. Jingjing is a beautiful girl who likes to draw. She was very patient in her paintings, often drawing motionless for hours. Usually, I also think that she is well-behaved and sensible. Unexpectedly, she would have self-harm behavior. When I lifted her sleeve and found one slender scratch after another on her arm, I was shocked. When asked why she did this, she said that my parents had another little brother, and I was superfluous in their eyes. All their attention was on their brother, and I felt like they didn't care about me at all. I found that Liu Jie cared about me very much, he followed his mother, reorganized the family, and her mother also gave birth to a younger brother. I think the two of us are too fateful, so I talk to him every day, chat and chat, I become dependent on him, we are in love.
Why self-harm, is Liu Jie told me that doing this, can relieve the pressure, he said when he is not happy to cut it, the pressure will be reduced.
In junior high school, it is the child's second development, not only physical development, but also mental and psychological development. As the leader of the child, parents must accompany their children through this special stage! Otherwise, there will be irreparable damage!