A few days ago, the male star woke up and sent a Weibo, because it was greatly questioned, and then deleted.
It's not a big deal, it's a screenshot of his chat history with his friend He Jie.
In the screenshot, he invites He Jie to a party with him and has some wine.
From the chat history, it can be seen that the two chatted very relaxed and casually.
However, such chat records have been questioned by netizens, some people say that the relationship between He Jie and Su Awake is not normal, sitting and waiting to eat melons, and some people say that He Jie mentioned weaning in front of a man, which was too disturbing and very undignified.
For this reason, this matter has also made a hot search.
But what I want to say is, is there anything wrong with such a chat?
We all know that nursing mothers are not allowed to drink alcohol, otherwise alcohol will enter the milk and the child will be affected. Even if the best friends are about to drink together, everything must be focused on the child first.
When it comes to weaning, there's nothing unseemly, and all I see is the hardships of a woman with a child.
The hardships of this will be understood by every woman who is a mother.
After becoming a mother, the girl who used to be free was gone, and there was no time to go out shopping, because all the time was around the child.
Do not dare to participate in the little sisters' party, afraid of the child's and fart, suddenly recall the beautiful girlhood of their own, back to the original shape.
After becoming a mother, I became no longer like myself.
An anonymous author told his story as a child.
Mom is very hard every day, taking care of the family's food and living, but all this is nothing in the eyes of Dad, Dad always accuses her: Every day you are tired, you are idle at home and have not worked!
Once, my mother's college roommate, whom I had not seen for many years, came on a business trip, and the two of them made an appointment to meet, so my mother looked forward to it for a long time.
The two talked a lot, over the years, to mutual friends. Such a radiant mother, he seemed to have never seen it before.
Accidentally, when he was young, he spilled the hot tea he had just brewed, and the boiling hot water instantly scalded his fingers out of the blisters.
He cried loudly, and his mother was so distressed that she shed tears and quickly took him to treat the wound.
But back home, Dad and Mom had an argument. He accused his mother of only taking care of her own fun, not even looking at a child well, and being a mother, her mind was still unstable.
That night, his mother put her arms around him and shed tears all night.
Before having children, my mother used to be a star teacher of a school and won numerous awards, but after giving birth to a child, in the eyes of her family, she became a woman who could not do anything.
The identity of the mother deprived her of too many things.
For the sake of the children, she gave up her career, busy every day to the point of losing herself, she was a wife, a mother, a nanny, a trainer, only, not herself.
Even so, she has been observed with a magnifying glass, and if there is even the slightest negligence, she will be criticized.
There is a saying that is very poignant, the biggest harm to women who have children is that they cannot live for themselves.
Because everything you do revolves around your child.
Change the pattern to make a good meal to coax him, online shopping is no longer to buy new clothes for themselves, but to buy children's diapers, milk powder, toys.
It is not easy to go to the mall, be sure to choose a place close to home, but also bring your own amusement facilities, so that when the little ancestor changes his face, he can quickly take him home.
After becoming a mother, when you make any decision, the first thing that comes to mind is the child, not yourself.
Having a baby is like a huge black hole, and you can't imagine how much time, energy, youth you're going to fill in.
Breastfeeding when you are born, once every two hours, but there are 24 hours a day! So you have to be like a never-ending machine, breastfeeding day and night. Forever tormented by lack of sleep.
After the child will leave, the mother's personal space is infinitely compressed, and even going to the toilet is a luxury!
"Mom, why haven't you come out yet?" The baby is calling outside the door.
"Mom, what is this, is it delicious?" Your baby starts sneaking up on food again when you don't see it!
"Boom! boom! boom! With the crying, the baby cried while banging on the door.
As this picture says, the mother sitting on the toilet is like being in a death train.
What else can be done? Quickly lift your pants and rush out the door to appease these little angels!
After having children, how many mothers do not sit down to eat a meal? Either take a quick bite or wait until the meal is cold, because you have to serve the children.
Even going to the toilet is like a charge. Lest the little babies take advantage of their own lack of attention and start to make dangerous moves outside again.
Not to mention carrying children and countless chores. Every day, for women, is like going to war.
And those working mothers, it is even harder.
Previously, a mother took her child to an interview, and in order to prevent the child from being noisy, the staff of the interview company took the child out. As a result, due to the negligence of the staff, the two-year-old child fell into the ladder and died.
When some people accused the mother of not being able to take the child at home and should not come out to work, no one thought about why she even came out for the interview, and she had to take the child.
If there is a strong backing, which mother wants to bear such a tragedy?
The heartache behind the mother with the child is unimaginable to ordinary people.
Hu Ke, who was unanimously praised by netizens as a mother with high emotional intelligence, also felt a little powerless because of his mother's identity.
"I think filming is a rest, and taking children at home is more tiring than filming."
Many people think that for women, staying at home with children is equivalent to rest.
But they don't know that mothers with children rarely have the opportunity to sleep for a whole night, without any free time.
Choosing a family is equivalent to giving up self-worth, and this kind of sacrifice cannot be described as great.
Someone asked: What is the most terrible thing about a woman giving birth?
I saw one of the highest praises: totally lose yourself.
Before giving birth, women's screen names are lucy, lily, cindy, and they are eager to update ten circles of friends a day. After becoming a mother, the screen name became Doudou Mom, Guo Guo Ma, Yang Yang Ma, and the circle of friends was all the nine-square photos of the child. Before giving birth, the TV series watched were "Yanxi Raiders" and "The Biography of Zhen Huan". After becoming a mother, the TV series watched were "Pleasant Goat and Gray Wolf" and "Bear Haunting". Before giving birth, every time I went shopping, I saw flowery skirts and high heels that hated the sky. After giving birth to a child, it is "this coat is so cool, suitable for my son to wear" and "this pair of shoes is like a princess, bought for my daughter", and I basically put a set of sportswear on my head that can go out.
The identity of the mother is infinitely magnified, and the space of the self is reduced as a result.
On this issue, even the most transparent person cannot do both.
Mr. Yang Dai said:
I thought I was pregnant with a child in my belly, but I ignored it. But pregnant with a child, Fang knew that I had to contribute the most essence of my whole body to this new life, and I lost everything.
But isn't it the most irreplaceable reward that God has given to every mother, to nurture a life, to rejoice and worry for him, and to be moved to tears for his babbling and learning?
I only hope that every mother can get more tolerance.
When they are at home with their children wholeheartedly, don't scold them for being worthless, and when they go out to work, don't scold them for ignoring their homes.
They are also the first time to become mothers, and they will also make mistakes, but whether it is for the children or the family, they have paid their greatest enthusiasm, you do not understand their heartache, please at least do not be mean and cold-blooded.
May this society be gentle with them.