We always want to do our best in everything, obviously we have lived a rigorous and harsh life, but we are still not satisfied with ourselves, and we can't really recognize ourselves from the bottom of our hearts.
This state is "screwing". To put it bluntly, it is a kind of lack of confidence and anxiety.
Desperately chasing, just to get the approval of others, but always backfire, because even if you are a plump and juicy peach, there are still people in the world who do not like peaches.
It is better to accept your imperfect self, learn to reconcile with yourself, and focus your precious time and energy on what you are good at.
Shoes are worn on their feet, only they know whether they are suitable or not, life is their own, and only they know that they are uncomfortable.
We all look forward to the approval of the outside world, but in the end we find out that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others.
In The Severed Queen– The Biography of Marie Antoinette, Szszweig says:
She was too young to know all the gifts of fate, and she had already secretly marked the price.
Basically, anyone who has graduated from school for more than 3 years will empathize with Zweig's words.
There is no white pie in the sky, and if there is, it must be made of iron.
Zhang Jiajia said in "Passing Through Your World",
We all know that after the wind and rain, we can only see the rainbow. But we all hope that it is best to sit directly in the rainbow, where others have already laid out a gorgeous world for you. It's a pity that others have arranged it for you, and he can withdraw it at any time. Therefore, the shrimp must eat the delicious food that is burned alive and painful, which is enough to turn all sentient beings upside down.
Many people are anxious about the status quo, complaining that the work is not good, the family is not smooth, but they are not angry, they go to work to mix days, play games after work, stay up late to drink and jump, collapse at home on weekends, feel that life is day after day, and can not find the direction of effort.
Maybe you will say that you have fought and tried, but there is no result. But you ask yourself, did you really try your best?
There is a man who asks God every day and says let me win the lottery once. Finally, one day, God was on fire: you should go buy a lottery ticket first!
God help self-helpers, if you don't work hard, no one can help you.
Life without a goal seems flat, but in fact it is cut and messed up. The road of decadence is easy to walk, but the more difficult it is; the road of effort is difficult to walk, but the wider it is to walk.
There is a story in the Book of the Later Han Dynasty:
Meng Min lived in Taiyuan, and Heyu fell to the ground and went away in spite of it. Lin Zong saw this and asked him what he meant, saying, "What good is it to see it as a broken one?"
It is said that when Meng Min was living in Taiyuan, the pottery cooker he was carrying fell to the ground, and he walked away without even looking back. Lin Zong saw it and asked him what he thought. He replied, "The pottery cooker has been broken, see what use it is?" ”
To care too much about the past is to waste the present. Tagore said in The Birds that if you shed tears because you lost the sun, then you will also lose the stars.
You can boldly try how easy it is to give up on someone who has been in love for a long time but can't.
I can tell you responsibly that there is only a brief period of suffering.
Just like a winter morning, no matter how much you nostalgic for the warm quilt, endure the cold for more than ten seconds to put on your clothes, it is just that.
There is such a question on Zhihu: "What should I do when I encounter rotten people and bad things?" ”
The highest-like response was: "Stay away from them and stop the loss in time." ”
Life is inevitable to encounter a lot of rotten people and bad things, these things often can not distinguish between black and white, can not compete for results, these people often like to mess around, there is no bottom line. If you go and talk to them one by one, one by one, it will only be a waste of time in the end, and you will make yourself angry.
If you can't walk the road, you will turn back, the person who loves but can't let go, the enthusiasm that can't get it will stop, don't cling to it, don't tangle, learn to let go, stop loss in time, is the behavior of the wise.
Life is short, too short to embrace the morning, and already hold the twilight in your hand. In order to make memories when you are old and have nothing to do, in order to have materials for memories, please try to live as hard as you want now, do whatever you want, live happily, and leave no regrets.
When you meet someone you like, you must chase it, you must meet people who want to see it, do what you want to do, try to achieve it little by little when you have an idea, don't have internal friction, be brave to try, think too much and never have results.
There is a reason to return quickly, there are dreams fast, do not worry too much, do not live too tired, do not be too tired, want to eat do not be too expensive, want to wear do not say waste, upset to find friends to party, sleepy head to sleep.
When people say three points, they can't throw away a piece of their hearts. This means that when talking to people, it is best to say only three points, and you can't pour out all that you know and think in your heart like a bamboo tube pouring beans.
Why did "Augmenting sages" leave such a sentence?
The answer is not complicated. There is an idiom called disaster from the mouth, there is also an idiom called "words more must be lost", in order not to bring unnecessary trouble to themselves, can not say, do not say; friendship is not so deep, point to the end; with their own good relations, but also appropriate reservations.
It's not tactful, it's self-preservation. This is not called worldliness, this is called the skill of dealing with the world.
Tu Lei said:
How to respect people without self-esteem? Not narcissistic, how to be lover? How to love people without self-love?
There is a saying that plain is true, but blandness does not mean self-imposed. If you love yourself, you don't want the days to repeat day by day, you want life to feel fresh.
Every day when you go to work and get tired, you can occasionally treat yourself, watch a movie, eat a dessert, go out and play with friends; you can also read a book, drink hot tea, and chat with your partner.
It is these little moments of loving yourself that make life have a meaning worth looking forward to.
Carnegie said in his book "Influence" that survey studies show that 80 percent of what people worry about doesn't happen in the end.
Years ago, there was a poor philosopher wandering around.
One day, he came to a barren village where the lives of ordinary people were very difficult. When people walked up to the top of the mountain and gathered around him, he said:
Don't worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow has its own troubles of tomorrow, and today's difficulties are enough to stay today.
Although this sentence is only 30 words short, it is the most quoted quote in history, and it has been handed down from generation to generation over the centuries. The person who said this was None other than Jesus.
We are always worried about what has not yet happened, and for this reason we are anxious and irritable, anxious, and worried, and it is completely unnecessary. If you put all this time and energy into changing the status quo, the direction of things is more likely to change in a positive direction.
In "Zhuangzi • Health Lord", it is said,
My life also has an end, and knowledge has no end. With no end, there is no end, and it is gone!
Everyone's life is finite, but knowledge is infinite. In this era, there is no lifelong career, only lifelong learning. Don't give up the ability and action of lifelong learning because of any person, any job.
You will find that when you become stronger because of your comprehensive strength, there are more and more people around you who are happy with you and your face, and dignity and happiness will follow.
After all, no one really likes and respects someone who eats and waits to die every day.