Mr. Toad has a friend badger, and this badger is his nightmare.
Badger is a friend of Mr. Toad's father, often regards himself as an elder, and sharply criticizes and even strikes at all the faults and mistakes of Mr. Toad; and Mr. Toad has always been obedient, never daring to defend himself, and suffering in silence alone.
In the long run, Mr. Toad suffered from depression.
Toads often dream in the middle of the night that badgers open their bloody mouths to devour themselves, and wake up in their sleep, tears soaking the pillow.
However, worse things followed, and seeing that the toad was so pitiful, the badger did not have the slightest pity, and one day he went straight into the toad's manor and directly announced that he would replace Mr. Toad as the trustee of the Toad Academy.
Mr. Toad finally began to fight back, and he plucked up the courage to categorically refuse the badger's rude request.
Mr. Toad re-rowed his beloved kayak, worked hard, communicated deeply with good friends, gathered happily, cured himself of depression, and then returned to his board of trustees in good shape, regaining recognition and respect.
Don't take other people's evaluations to heart and affect your own mood, because most of other people's evaluations are based on their own interests. Most of the people who always say bad things about others behind their backs are very miserable, and you don't have to care what they say about you.
It is easier for a person to respect a person with a temper, and when a person offends you, if you do not curb it in time, he will think that he is right, and he will be more unscrupulous in the future. And if you resolutely curb, he will be jealous of you, and will weigh his own weight before doing the same behavior.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said:
When others know that you are not good, you are more likely to get respect, and in the end it is easy to harvest a good relationship.
If you take a person too seriously, it is easy for the other party not to take you seriously. He is very likely to immediately offend, plunder your resources, and stomp you under his feet; when you can't bear to refuse, the other party will start to snub you, leave the worst things to you, or use you cheaply; if we learn to say "no", that is, swear that we also have the ability to let go, the other party will be in awe and value you more.
When you lose your temper, the people around you become pleasant;
When you resolutely refuse, the other party is in awe of you.
Especially as a leader, if necessary, skillfully lose your temper and can gain a group of fans on the spot!
You don't have to stab someone, but you have to have a thorn in your body.
No matter how good other people are, what does it have to do with you? Bill Gates is the richest man in the world, he won't give you a penny; Principal Ma is also the richest man, he won't give you a penny, you still have to live your hard life.
As long as a person has lied to you, you have forgiven him on the surface, but in the days that followed, no matter how well he did and how beautiful his words were, even if you will forget everything that happened at that time, please remember this person, he lied to you. If you don't have a long memory, he'll lie to you again. It is normal to be cheated once, and if you are deceived many times, or even by the same person many times, then maybe you yourself are not normal.
Think about it, how many of the big guys, big coffee, and high-level people around you can help you? Most of the time, they're most likely to strike down dimensions and harvest you; or let you work for them for free, and if you don't have usage value, they won't bother to harvest you. Because they are weak links with you.
You will find that the most tired people in this world are those who are too soft-hearted to refuse; those who live through it like to reject it directly. You care about this and that, so who cares about you?
A truly good relationship is by no means a blind pandering; someone who is truly worthy of sex will never use you cheaply without scruples.
Only by not taking others too seriously, people will be relaxed, not kidnapped and restrained by others, and can they live their own lives.
Have you found that the more proactive you are with a person, the less valued you are. The more you cater to others, the more they despise you. The better you talk, the more people love to bully you.
Only don't take others too seriously, people will think independently, bravely face problems, and solve problems.
As the saying goes, fight Mien, bear mi vengeance. If you are good enough to be unreserved, the other party will dare to be bad enough to be unscrupulous. Remember that there is a dark side to human nature: when you give a little, others will be grateful, but when you pour out what you give, others will numb and take it for granted; more strangely, even resentful.
Mr. Camel, with all the hardships, braved the heat wave, crossed the desert, and finally reached the oasis.
A cunning fly lay dead on its back, sucking the blood of camels on the road, effortlessly, and after a ride, it also followed to the oasis.
Arriving at the oasis of abundant water and grass, the fly sneered and said:
Silly camel, thank you for foolishly driving me over, I sucked your blood you don't know, goodbye!
The camel squinted at the fly and said steadily:
When you hide it from me, I don't know it at all. It's nothing if you suck that little bit of blood, and now that you're leaving, there's really no need to say hello to me. You don't have any weight at all, it can be said that it is insignificant, don't take yourself too seriously, who do you think you are?
The flies were bored with themselves and flew away in ashes.
Think about it, for a huge camel, a small fly, is really insignificant, too serious about themselves, too high on themselves, but let others laugh.
In the eyes of others, you are actually not so important.
Take yourself too seriously, you will be easily hurt, your emotions will be swayed by others, so that you impulsively make stupid decisions; too much face, you will be cowardly, do not dare to fight for what you deserve, you will lose a lot.
Sometimes, don't take yourself too seriously, but are more respected by others.
At the beginning of the school year of Peking University, a young man with a head stopped a doorkeeper and asked him to take care of his luggage. As a result, the next day, he found out that the old man who guarded the door was actually Ji Xianlin, vice president of Peking University. In the face of the request of the young man with the head, the vice president of China's first-class university did not roar to show his identity as president, did not have a little shelf, and was kind like the neighboring elder in the community.
Don't take yourself too seriously, put down your stature and vanity, and be an ordinary person, but you can be greatly respected and go further.
Too much face, too much worry, you dare not fight back to those who are rude to you, or even insult you, but cause others not to take you seriously, but you yourself have left a deep psychological shadow. Don't take yourself too seriously, people will pack lightly, live freely, and do what they really like.
The root of the pain is that you take others and yourself too seriously! If you can do it, don't take others too seriously, don't take yourself too seriously, you will permanently eliminate your troubles, and life will be a sunny day from now on.