Because the society is now too fast, everyone has their own development space and career, which also makes the husband and wife gather less and leave more, and the husband and wife life is also very rare. It has even brought many couples to the brink of divorce. The increase in the divorce rate is also an inevitable product of social development.
When thinking changes, material needs have material pursuits, and people's concepts also change.
So I've been puzzled by this question:
Will there still be love between husband and wife, once in a sexless marriage?
Before answering this question, let's first understand what sexless marriage is:
Sexless marriage actually refers to a marriage without sex. If there is no physical disease or mental illness between husband and wife, if there is no conjugal life for more than half a year, it is a sexless marriage.
The year before, I heard one of my female colleagues confide in her heart: we were married for seven years, we had a good relationship, but we never had children, and the later inspection found that it was his problem.
He is a welder and may be affected by the welding magnetic field and ultraviolet rays for a long time, so the body needs a long time to repair.
At first my colleague felt that if they had children, she wouldn't care about this kind of sexless married life, after all, they had children. But now even having children has become a luxury, and I really want to get a divorce.
So if a husband and wife have been living a sexless marriage, will there still be love? To this end, I interviewed three ladies and listened to what they had to say.
My husband is a regimental-level cadre in a certain unit. Although my daughter and I did not accompany the army, we also gathered less and left more, so the conjugal life was also very rare. I know that my husband is from the military, and he has his particularity, and the military duty is also given a special responsibility.
Although I am a family member, I don't want to trouble the country and involve my husband.
So I chose to stick to the small family to take care of everyone.
My husband also expressed his sincere gratitude for my efforts, which is indescribable, and he also felt deeply guilty about me.
As the saying goes: "You are a soldier, you have your direction, the people are eagerly awaited, what have I gained alone?" ”
The husband said: "Thank you for your selfless dedication behind your back, giving up your small family to take care of everyone, your spirit is worthy of my admiration and possession, and my military merit badge also has half of yours." Although we gather less and leave more, we understand and tolerate each other. Our love is as unshakable as a stone. ”
My husband and I grew up young and unsuspecting. After growing up, our feelings are still the same, due to the transfer of company work to the north, my daughter and I stayed at home, my daughter's learning and growth was handed over to me, and a lot of things in the family were all responsible.
Although the gathering is less and more, but our feelings are very good, every day we put down the work we will contact by video, I will tell him the daily life situation, the child's learning situation, the people and things encountered every day to him one by one, and he is also happy to listen to me tirelessly.
Growing up together, deep feelings, his work I have no hesitation to support him. Although we are not together, even the couple's life is rare to come back once, without it, our feelings are still the same.
Loving someone I can give all even with my life.
What about loneliness and emptiness? Looking at people and things is general but not absolute.
My husband and I were introduced by the matchmaker, and after five years of love, we finally stepped onto the palace of happy marriage.
A year later I had a baby. After having a daughter, my husband loves the family even more, especially for his little lover, of course, my husband's love for me is consistent and enthusiastic.
Once my husband came back from a business trip for a year, and he almost lost his sexless life during the year. But the husband is out on business, of course, we as women must support him and cooperate with him, then he can work with peace of mind outside.
It is not easy for a man to support a family in order to support a piece of heaven, and as a wife unconditionally guarding the small family, there is a harvest with a piece of hard work.
After the self-statements of the three ladies, it has been possible to prove the fact that there is a sexless life between the husband and wife.
But there is a premise of love that anything can be understood, even abandoning any worldly vision, we don't care, what we care about is our little family, the sweetness of happiness.
There is a kind of love called letting go. That letting go is not discarding, but believing him away. The long-awaited long-term hope, the expectation, the love, the truth, can only be reflected by two people who love each other.
General, but not absolute.
Looking at people and things to determine whether a person is loyal or not? Is it greedy?