During the summer vacation this year, I enrolled my children in a military summer camp short training class, with the aim of giving the children more exercise and tempering. During the five days the kids were in camp, we didn't make a single phone call and completely obeyed the camp's arrangements. However, in the summer camp sharing group of more than 100 people, every day you will see many parents worrying, anxious, accusing and complaining about their children, and the discussion and exchange between parents is also in full swing, especially around the issue of children's meals.
The following excerpts are quite interesting.
Some parents complained in the group: the camp is too picky, in order to save money, the meal is set so low, breakfast is eggs, steamed buns, porridge, milk, soy milk are not, exercise intensity is so large, eating poor must not keep up, has an impact on the child's long body.
Some parents echoed: breakfast should still be a little better, milk or soy milk should still have, supplement protein, after all, the morning is the power of the day, it is indeed a little shabby. Such a large camp should still be equipped with a part-time nutritionist, after all, the customers you are facing are a group of long-bodied babies, not adults, although the world of children has no concept of eating, but nutrition still has to keep up! How to exercise without strengthening nutrition? Can't you add two buns and a carton of milk?
Some parents retort: milk, bread is not necessarily good, if the time to really drink milk, do we have to pick the milk brand, production date, etc.? When we were young, we never saw milk, and we ate meat once in ten days, how good our health was, and we were not very sick! It is very good to have eggs, porridge, and steamed buns, and I believe that the babies may not be able to eat them all at home! To tell the truth, I send my child to suffer, if he eats there and sleeps as well as at home, what do I send him to do?
Some parents issued a testimonial: My family's one, his father in the kitchen to make rice for two or three hours, out of the way he also has to pick three or four, disgusted with this is not delicious that is not good, adults say more and do not like to listen. On this meal mark, as long as the tube is full, I can do it. Let these "emperors" and "princesses" taste fresh and experience them, just to cure the problem of picky eating!
Some parents said very rudely: if you want to eat well, you can get it at your own home, why go to any training camp?
The camp managers responded by explaining: Why is the base not equipped with milk? First, some children are allergic to milk, many cannot be drunk, and there are special needs for the varieties to drink; the second is that in the morning, the children are in an empty stomach state, and they will be particularly excited after seeing the milk, and they will give priority to drinking the milk, and drinking milk on an empty stomach will cause gastrointestinal discomfort, and the children will not be able to complete the next training; the third is that all the staff and students in the camp are in accordance with the base meal standards, without exception. The camp diet needs to be considered suitable for popularization, and it is more necessary to take into account the physical condition of the trainees. It is normal for parents to be worried, but they must also let their children get out of the "encirclement" and go out...
Spitting parents still do not forgive: this summer camp compared with other summer camps, the food is not known how many times worse, in the case of the baby so hard exercise, appropriate increase in nutrition is wrong? Why is it called "summer camp" so bad? It's better to call it a "weight loss camp"!
In addition, there are also parents who are worried: squatting down under the big sun to wash clothes or hot! What should I do if my child has heat stroke?
More parents said: If you don't experience wind and rain, you can see the rainbow! As long as it is not a murderous insult, a little harsh absolutely supports! What children lack now is not the nutrition of eggs and milk, but the spirit of hard-working, unity and dedication; not only is there no lack of nutrition, but "excess nutrition", more superiority, doting, comfortable...
Some parents asked the group owner to silence and just wanted to quietly look at the children's photos.
Some parents feel that the silence is completely unnecessary, and it is recommended that everyone treat the various different opinions expressed with a peaceful and open mind, and discussing it is also a kind of communication and improvement for parents!
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Isn't it lively and inspiring?
When the children returned from training, I asked several children who went with me, and the results reflected that they all ate well, and they didn't feel how bitter and tired they were, and they liked it!
It seems that children are actually far stronger and braver than we think, eating hard, their adaptability and plasticity are very strong, but some of our parents imagine their children too fragile. In fact, we often invert cause and effect: not because the child is fragile and needs our protection, but because we shelter too much, so that the child is really vulnerable in the end!
Is this little thing about suffering trivial? Non-also, the ancients said: "Eat bitterly, and be a superior person." It can be seen that suffering is a compulsory course for a person to grow up and succeed. Without the cultivation of this lesson, it is not only difficult to achieve great achievements, but also difficult to experience true happiness.
With the exception of a few gifted prodigies and geniuses, for most people, the difference is relatively small. Why do you want to surpass others? It depends on hard work. The so-called "suffering is like eating supplements", "The book mountain has a road and a diligent path, and the study of the sea is endlessly arduous". A person's knowledge needs to continue to grow through continuous hard study; a person's ability also needs to be continuously improved through continuous hard practice. Many of our parents and friends are actually suffering and eating, catching up with the good times, coupled with their own struggles, with better conditions, they feel that they can no longer let their children eat the hardships they have suffered in the past, in this way to "love" children and give children "happiness", the result is often "harm" children, give children more "pain". Because parents forget how they grew up and why they can achieve the success they have now. If you don't let your children suffer hardships, without the spirit of bearing hardships and standing hard work, you will lack the courage to overcome difficulties, you will not be able to withstand the test of wind and rain, and will not cut off many opportunities for children's growth and success?
In his "Records of BitterNess", Liu Ji of the Ming Dynasty quoted a man named Zhang Yi as saying: "Happiness and suffering are mutually dependent, and people know that happiness is pleasure, but people do not know that suffering is pleasure, people know happiness, and do not know that bitterness is born in happiness, then happiness and suffering can be geometric!" Suffering and pleasure are indeed relative, interdependent and transformative. Many of us only know that happiness is pleasure, but we do not know that suffering can also be pleasure, and we do not know that many future sufferings are precisely brought about by the happiness of the present! For example, some rich and noble children, live in gorgeous mansions, sit in luxury cars, wear brand-name clothes and pants, eat mountain treasures and seafood, do not taste the taste of bitter vegetables, do not go through hard work, once they encounter natural disasters and man-made disasters and fall into difficulties, poor food and stomach are not adapted, hard work is not adapted to the body, the harsh conditions are psychologically unsuitable, everywhere seems out of place, cramped and uneasy, is not it precisely because the past conditions are too favorable, life is too hedonistic and brought greater pain?
Mencius said: "The heavens will send down a great task to the Si people, and they will first suffer their minds, strain their bones, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and confuse their deeds, so they will be moved to endure and benefit what they cannot do." "It is in the adversity of suffering that people sharpen their minds, stimulate wisdom, and increase their talents. Nietzsche also famously said, "What doesn't destroy you will eventually make you stronger." "Those who can make pleasure in suffering and take pleasure in suffering will eventually be able to turn bitterness into pleasure, bitterness, and finally experience true happiness; those who take suffering as suffering, like and evil suffering, will choose to be afraid of the heavy, push away, complain and accuse, and as a result, lose the opportunity to exercise and show, lose the respect and support of others, and often get greater and longer-term pain."
Back to the education and guidance of children, children are ultimately going to leave their parents to go to society, we do not let children suffer at home, children will suffer more when they go to society in the future, do not suffer when they are young, and will suffer more when they grow up. We spoil him and get used to him now, who can guarantee that in the future, when we enter the society, others will also spoil him and get used to him like their parents? Jun did not see many reports in the media: a certain "giant baby" and "nibbling old people" brandished a knife and injured people because they were ridiculed for their incompetence, jumped off a building to commit suicide because they suffered a little grievance, and beat up their parents because their parents were old and sick and could not "renew their confessions"... Such tragedies, harming the children and harming themselves and harming society, can we not be vigilant and prevented as soon as possible?
If you don't suffer hardships, you don't know how to cherish happiness and happiness, and if you don't let go, you will never be able to rest assured and never worry. Let go and let the child suffer more! This is the only way for children to grow up and succeed, and it is also the source of the river of children's happy life...
(Author Affilications:Chongqing Lianglu Cintan Bonded Port Area)