The original text @ Fruit Flower is published in the middle reading app
I thought that watching "Golden Flower" was a private show for me alone, who did not know that before the movie was about to start, a good friend said that he was going to come to me, I said that I would not watch the movie together, she was very happy to agree.
So, the movie became a private show for the two of us. In the large cinema hall, we sat in the middle, watching movies while chatting, and did not need to deliberately suppress the sound, this experience is not often the case.
At the beginning of the film, it is Golden Flower, played by Mao Shunjun, who is interviewed. As soon as the friend saw Mao Shunjun, he said, I don't like her, she killed Zhang Guorong!
A friend is a simple, willful, even a little crazy person, but also a person who will actively rectify once he realizes his mistake. So I said, how can you say that about her? She just did not agree to Zhang Guorong's marriage proposal a long time ago according to her own choice. What happened to Zhang Guorong's suicide to her? Ten thousand steps back, even if she is related to her, she has no obligation to accept his marriage proposal against her will - I don't want to marry you, and you are going to commit suicide, then I have no way.
Not cold-blooded, not without compassion, just unwilling to shake one's attitude with any threat or pity. We all want everyone to be better off, but if you can't take care of yourself, no one can do anything about it.
My friend didn't speak, but I'm sure she'll think about it, not necessarily now, and now we're going to see the movie.
Jinhua's son and husband have appeared one after another, the son is played by Ling Wenlong, and the husband is played by Lu Liangwei. Ling Wenlong's first film performance won the Best New Actor Award at the Hong Kong Film Awards, which is undoubtedly the biggest recognition of his acting skills.
Lu Liangwei needless to say, the old drama bone one. The husband and father who cheated under the pressure of life and wanted to escape, but were definitely not ruthless and irresponsible, were vividly portrayed. I don't know why many Hong Kong male actors are getting older and more flavorful, such as Lu Liangwei, although the play is only a coaching master, but full of manliness, no wonder there are young girls who fall in love with him.
But my friend was furious at the dad's role. Why did she say he cheated? Is his wife bad? I don't know how to explain to my friend, the one-on-one, that a man might do anything under pressure, even if it's not something he wants to do. It can only be said that his cheating has little to do with whether his wife is good or not. So why? Doesn't he love his wife anymore? The friend asked again. Not exactly, right... I said, and then a little distracted, maybe love, maybe not love, maybe too much pressure needs to have an exit, maybe just because people like the new and hate the old. I have always had a more tolerant attitude towards infidelity, and I always feel that it is forgivable to make a mistake in a certain atmosphere without being tempted to do so. Men will be tempted, women will be tempted, and I can't guarantee that I will be able to resist temptation at all times.
Don't think I'm just talking lightly, how do you know I haven't experienced the occasional mistake of a partner? And do you really not have any thoughts about the other opposite sexes other than your partner, even once?
At the end of the day, it's all a matter of self-control and responsibility. And at the same time, you didn't expect that, right? In fact, I am more respectful of self-control and responsibility. So, I can completely forgive a mistake once and a half, but habitual cheating or cheating on me will never tolerate it.
Keep watching the movies.
It is said that when the movie is put into the golden flower to recall the birth of the son, it is also because the husband hooked up with other women and caused premature birth. Although from a medical point of view, my son's autism and moderate mental retardation are not related to premature birth, but this is always a knot that cannot be released. Seeing this, my lovely friend was like mumbling and talking to me, and she was heartbroken, that is, she didn't love her husband from then on... You say yes or no?
I actually don't think so. I've never thought that love is an easy thing, and I've never loved or not loved someone because of one thing. But my friend said, I am like this! I can fall in love with someone for one thing, or I can stop loving him because of one thing. I want to say that friends are simple, so they have been emotionally deceived, but think about whether they are too rational, so it is rare to taste the intoxication brought by madness, and whether there is a not-so-real component, as long as it is sweet related to love, it is fascinating to think about.
However, I still want to talk about the simplicity of my friends. I envy her courage to chase love desperately, but I always have doubts about the object of her pursuit. Because those men, the ones who can impress my friends the most, are actually just sweet words and small courtesy! Not only her, but I found that many girls and even so-called "mature girls" have such problems. How can I say it well? If there is only a little bit of demand from a man, is it too much to look down on yourself and the man you are going to choose? And responsibility, enterprising, honesty, kindness which is not the quality that each of us should pursue?
So, by my standards, although the husband of Golden Flower in the film cheats, he doesn't think he's a bad guy because he has a sense of responsibility. He earned money to support his family, and although he did not provide much good material conditions, he at least tried his best; he once spent a full seven years around his son, just so that his autistic son could recognize and accept him as a father, and finally did it... Yes, he spent his heart and thought of running away, but eventually lost his way and had the courage to admit his mistake to Golden Flower - I always thought I was tired, but in fact you are more tired... During the time I was away from home, I found that my heart had never left... What else do you want? Mistakes can be recognized, and have the courage to admit and correct, can also be regarded as a responsible man.
Of course, he is not the only one who is lost in the play, but also the golden flower. Under the pressure, men want to escape, but women want to kill people - kill the "little three" who destroy the family. She even made elaborate plans for this - observing the schedule of "Little Three", creating the illusion of not being there, feeding her son sleeping pills and tying her son's hands and feet... Everything is only for the operation to go smoothly.
The first action was stopped because of the possibility of being monitored, and the second time was because of the son's crying cliff pulling back that could never have happened - did the son really know nothing? Even if you are as ignorant as a young child, you can experience the terrifying waves in the hearts of your most beloved people in detail; even powerful sleeping pills cannot prevent the strongest desire to recall your mother... Just when the mother and son were holding their heads and crying, the husband who left home appeared at the door, carrying a bag of his son's favorite goldfish, looking at this scene, he couldn't help but choke up and cry in his throat...
And the two people in the theater, me and my friends, also shed tears.
I am reminded of another Hong Kong movie, "A Thought of Ignorance". Just want to talk about this very interesting movie name. "One thought" comes from the Buddhist saying "one thought for all thoughts", and "ignorance" means "invisible and unclear". "One thought is ignorant" means that when you have a thought, there is another one in the back, and there is another one in the back, your first thought is not clear, and then you do things that are not very precise. When the golden flower comes up with the idea of "killing", the related behaviors will actually lead her to the road of no return, but she is completely unaware, and "ignorance" is not only the golden flower? The husband's cheating and the provocation of "Little Three" may be hot-headed and emotional for a while, but they all turn around on the edge of life and death.
But the son, the mentally handicapped son, sees everything clearly. And how many things have we been blinded by, and how many mistakes have we made in the gap between one thought and one thought?
Yes, we are always making mistakes, but as long as they are not fatal mistakes, we are always repairing, correcting, carrying the weight forward, and not forgetting the joy of the world. At the end of the film, Golden Flower participates in community dance activities, clumsily waving fans, the expression is panicked and helpless, the son is very happy, with the music "dancing", from time to time to put his head on the mother's shoulder, face to show affection, after the storm, we can always experience this little comfort. Therefore, I am willing to end this article with a sentence said by Chen Shina, who sells fish in the film- she looks into the eyes of the golden flower and says softly but firmly: How difficult is it? (How hard is it?) ）