Wen | Lebao's mother to raise children
The incident just a few days ago in Which a 9-year-old girl in Nanjing was taken away by a strange man, Shan Mou, was killed, which was really angry and deplorable.
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The incident is roughly: the little girl accidentally fell into the water while playing with her companions, and when Shan Passed by, he "kindly" rescued the girl, if only so, he is really a "good man", but he is actually a demon. He said to the little girl, "Child, uncle is a good man, uncle take you to dry your clothes, and then send you back later!" "As a result, the girl never came back!" The suspect was arrested that afternoon, and it turned out that he had a previous conviction.
Let's first take a look at the criminal history of this criminal:
The convict was sentenced to 10 years in prison for rape and intentional homicide and was released on 22 January 2013.
In 2014, he was sentenced to two years and seven months in prison for rape, and because he showed repentance during his sentence, he was reduced to four months in prison.
On May 7 this year, he committed rape and murder.
Three crimes, three times!
Such a heinous crime! I agree with a heavy sentence! No more tragedies!
The little girl has just finished her birthday, and she still has a wonderful life to experience, but it is destroyed by demons, a family is destroyed, and many such families are ruthlessly destroyed.
When we have children, we are a little more worried, and when we have daughters, we always feel that the people around us are bad people. Even if we are so worried and protected at all times, we still can't avoid being hurt.
A series of problems such as loopholes in education, loopholes in management, and investigation of social personnel need our attention.
Writer Rosson once told a story about girls:
A high school girl who had entered adolescence came home in the early hours of the morning, and a few days later, her father asked her to go out for a drink: "Try to drink, get drunk, and daddy will take you home." "That night, the girl fell drunk on the bar. The next day, as soon as she woke up, she saw a letter from her father: "Do you remember how many drunks you drank last night?" There are two beers and five corners, and remember, that's your limit. There are a lot of bad people in the world, I can't always be around to protect you, so let you know your limits, you must learn to protect yourself. ”
Rosson said that the best protection for his daughter is bottom-line education.
These things you need to know to raise a daughter:
Liu Xiaoyu went to the teacher's house at night to make up for the class, because she was about to go to graduate school, so the teacher proposed to give her another make-up time to help her succeed in the graduate school. Soon after Liu Xiaoyu entered the door, the teacher locked the security door, she did not perceive anything at that time, but she felt more and more wrong, she proposed that something needed to go back, waiting for tomorrow to go to school to make up lessons. The teacher disagreed, forcibly retained, and prepared to take a hard bow for the overlord. Liu Xiaoyu shouted for help and took out the anti-wolf spray, thus escaping the disaster. The next day, she reported it to the school, and of course the teacher was expelled, and she continued her path to graduate school. Liu Xiaoyu did not, like other girls, silently endured for fear of having a bad reputation or any impact on the examination. Because her father said to her, "Don't sell your body for anything in exchange for any benefit." So at the critical moment, she chose to fight. And when her parents learned of this, they praised their daughter's approach, and they knew that their daughter could reassure them from now on.
Therefore, as parents, we must warn our daughters not to sell and hurt their bodies for anything.
And told the daughter that the private parts can not be shown to others, through some educational picture books to let the children understand what is privacy, why not to show others.
An indecent incident that just occurred on the 22nd. A five-year-old girl was molested by a 10-year-old boy while reading a book. To the anger of the girl's parents, the boy's parents took a bad attitude in the negotiations, saying that the girl was "voluntary" and refusing to apologize. Whatever the girl's parents asked, the boy denied it, even if the surveillance video was in front of him.
So we don't know where the bad guy is or when he's going to show up, and all we can do now is teach our daughter how to protect herself, because there's a saying that "you think sex education is too early, but bad guys don't think the kids are too young."
In another article, parents can take a look at it, don't be too early or embarrassed, or teach their children about privacy education, because that's all we can do.
Girls in college like a boy who is cool and doesn't study well. Girls can be said to have been raised in the palms of their parents since childhood, and have never suffered losses. The two of them also met very interestingly, like an idol drama, and then the girl fell madly in love with him, even if the boy did not like him so much, because she had never been in contact with such a special boy, but there will always be many people who like the special boy. The girl told her boyfriend that she didn't like the girls around him, but her boyfriend said: If you don't like it, you can go. The girl was sad, but she couldn't put it down. But it wasn't long before she got pregnant, and she was happy, because she was about to graduate and she could stay. After she told the boy the news, the boy said very calmly: "No, we don't know if we will be together after graduation." ” So the boy pulled the girl and did the operation. Just like this cruel treatment, the girl still did not leave the boy, because she felt that she gave so much, the boy must love her, so she used her to ask for everything in exchange for the boy's love, is this love true love? In the end the girl is completely hurt and leaves completely!
There is a saying: you can never touch someone who doesn't love you.
When the child grows up, we have to tell the child about the problem of love: "Don't waste time on someone who doesn't love you." Don't sacrifice yourself for him without a bottom line, because you can never touch someone who doesn't love you. ”
Huang Lei said: I agree with my daughter's early love, otherwise how would she know that there are better boys.
A "rich" girl, she will not be easily disturbed by the outside world, and will not give up herself for some material things.
1. Books are the greatest spiritual wealth
No matter how busy he is, Huang Lei will take time to accompany his family, accompany his daughter to read, and translate and publish "Letter from Father Santa" with his daughter. In his company, Duoduo has developed a good habit of reading since he was a child, and as long as he is free, he will hold a book. At such a young age, he had already translated three English books and dubbed the film and television drama "The Little Prince", all of which stemmed from the good habit of reading. 、
"There is poetry and bookishness in the belly", this sentence is not wrong, a girl who loves to read, her temperament is better than her appearance.
Hugo once said, "With matter, that is survival; with spirit, that is life." ”
True enrichment is never material, but spiritually nourishing children so that they can live a better life.
2. Versatility
A versatile girl carries an aura everywhere she goes, and even if she doesn't have a beautiful appearance, she still attracts the attention of others.
In college, the literary and artistic committee of our class was such a girl who would shine wherever she went. When I first met her, she was a very ordinary and ordinary girl, dressed and looking average, and such a girl attracted the attention of the whole class. At the freshman class meeting, she introduced herself in fluent English and played "Gardenia Blossom" on the guitar for everyone. After that, she served as a member of the Literary committee, she obtained many certificates in the four years of college, and served as the host of the major performance activities of the school for four consecutive years, she did not have the appearance of the school flower, but had an unforgettable talent, no one cared about her appearance, and everyone was impressed by her talent.
She is like Wang Yabin, who played Wang Xiaomeng in Country Love 1, Wang Yabin was not well known at first, and when playing Wang Xiaomeng, everyone complained about her appearance, because the length is too ordinary, really a rural, but she is a national first-class actor, dancer, choreographer, producer, she is also the dance stand-in of Zhang Ziyi in Ten Faces Ambush, is not very powerful!
A versatile girl, wherever she goes, she will be very confident, when there is self-confidence, her vision will also become higher, the partner she requires will of course be the person who fits her soul, no matter what the girl learns from childhood, at least one talent can be proud of, this is her capital.
3, no matter how difficult, we must broaden the child's horizons
A friend of mine told me about one thing: she once met a suitor, who was very high in all aspects, and was exactly the Prince Charming in the girl's heart. This Prince Charming pursued her wildly, sending her 99 roses every day, waiting for her at the company door every day, and other colleagues looked at her with envious eyes every day. But in the end, she did not choose this rich second generation and politely rejected him. She said: Although the boy is impeccable in all aspects, he is not her favorite object.
Vision is especially important for a girl, young women will face a lot of temptations in society, girls with low vision are often easily "attracted", but girls with high vision will not be easily deceived because they are well-informed.
A girl who is not troubled by material things, not confused by superficial flashiness, not deceived by rhetoric, she will know how to choose her own life and run her own life well.
Yang Lan once said that when she was young, her family was not rich. However, her uncle is very knowledgeable, often taking her to high-end Western restaurants to eat Western food, in order to improve Yang Lan's vision, after growing up, do not be deceived by a McDonald's meal.
Parents who have enough money to make their children experience better things is a shortcut to growth and knowledge. However, not all parents can afford this.
Archimedes once said, "See more, listen more, and touch more and you will become wise." ”
The way to broaden your horizons is not only available with money, but also from books. "Reading makes people wise", reading can make children grasp more knowledge, enhance judgment, and maintain a clear understanding of the temptations of the outside world. Parents should cultivate their daughter's interest in reading, and learn about the world's famous mountains and rivers and customs from books. With your daughter, pay more attention to life, see more, listen more, contact more, and analyze more, you can understand a lot of truth.
I am not against the education of children's love, we must raise children into a kind and polite child, but we must not be hurt because of kindness. There are many good people in this society, but bad people are also around us, and we must tell our children the good side and the bad side at the same time. It is right to protect the child's innocent heart, but let her distinguish between good people and bad people, and at the same time have a sense of self-protection, and do not trust others.
At 12:00 on February 13, 2018, Yang Moulin, a man from Hunyuan County, Datong, Shanxi Province, drove to Yimin Street in Hunyuan County and saw a 17-year-old girl, Zhang Moulin, walking alone. On the grounds that there was a problem with the car's brakes, he took advantage of Zhang Moulin's enthusiastic psychology of helping others and tricked Zhang Moulin into helping in the car. Inside the car, he tied Zhang Moulin with tape paper and went to the Diao Wo Coal Mining Zone, where he raped and killed the victim. And in order to evade responsibility, Zhang Moulin's body was dismembered in his residence and burned in the hotel.
Those who have seen this news are both bitter and angry, and the wicked are using the girl's kindness to kill her.
"The murder of Li Yangjie, a female student studying in Germany", when Li Yangjie ran at night, she was stopped by a German girl with glasses, a short and fat body, and a naïve and innocent baby face, and asked Li Yangjie for help in the name of moving a box. Li Yangjie credulously believed her, and as a result, she was brutally killed by the girl's boyfriend.
The ancients said, "Gentlemen do not stand under the dangerous wall", "two people do not look at the well", tell the child not to trust others, we not only let the child have a good heart, but also let the child know that people are also good and bad, let him have a vigilant consciousness in the face of strangers, rather than completely defenseless.
@ LeBao Mother Parenting We can't always accompany the child, then give her the best education, I hope that through our education and the management of the relevant departments, as well as legal sanctions, there will be no more tragedies.
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