What would you do if you hit someone with your car?
I think most people will call 120 and 122 at the first time and ask for help from the emergency center and the traffic police.
Of course, it is not excluded that a small number of people will be indifferent without conscience. At best, it is to choose to slip away and hit and run.
But what is unimaginable is that after someone actually bumped into someone, instead of rescuing them, they deprived them of their innocent lives...
Late one night in October 2010, Yao Jiaxin, a college student at the Xi'an Conservatory of Music, drove a red Chevrolet sedan his father bought for him to pick up his girlfriend.
When driving to the middle of Hanlin Road, YaoJiaxin accidentally knocked down Zhang Miao, a woman who was riding an electric car in the same direction.
Yaojiaxin
After Zhang Miao was hit, he wanted to see the license plate number for the first time. This is also the common sentiment of people, you do not remember the license plate number, the driver waited to run, a huge city, where to find people?
But this move infuriated Yao Jiaxin, who actually took out the murder weapon from his backpack and killed Zhang Miao, who was originally only a broken left foot.
After committing such an unforgivable sin, Yao Jiaxin's heart was flustered. He was in a car accident again as he fled, hitting a man and a woman who were walking, and when he tried to escape again, he was surrounded by a crowd of onlookers.
But when Yao Jiaxin was first taken to investigate, he only admitted that the two car accidents were his doing, and did not admit to the fact that he had committed the crime. Therefore, the police only believed that Yao Jiaxin was the perpetrator of the car accident, not the murderer, so no compulsory measures were taken.
After Yao Jiaxin returned home, he never admitted to his parents that he had killed people, but said that his car accident caused people to die.
His father, Yao Qingwei, heard that the car accident caused death and hit-and-run, which was also to be sentenced, so he took Yao Jiaxin to the police station and surrendered himself.
Yao Jia Xin's father Yao Qingwei
It wasn't until later media reports that Yao Jiawei didn't know that his son had done such an extreme thing.
In the heart of his father Yao Qingwei, Yao Jiaxin is undoubtedly a good child.
Although his academic performance is not top-notch, it has never dragged its feet. And at a very young age, he showed his talent for playing the piano, for this reason, Yao Qingwei did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to send Yao Jiaxin to learn piano.
And Yaojiaxin was also very competitive and was admitted to the Xi'an Conservatory of Music. Although there is a gap compared with Wudaokou Vocational and Technical College, it is also a good university.
After attending college, Yao Jiaxin began to support himself, and he became a pianist.
He is not like what the Internet said before what is the second generation of officials, the second generation of the rich. Yao Jiaxin is really a stupid boy who spends days and days drinking, and it is not fragrant to go to the bar club every day? Do you still have to work hard to teach the piano?
The purpose of his car is not to show off his wealth, as previously rumored on the Internet, but to make it more convenient for him to go to tutoring.
Of course, some people pointed out that since YaoJiaxin's family did not have a lot of money, there was no need to buy such a good car with his family situation.
What young man doesn't have a little vanity? Besides, piano tutoring is actually quite profitable, which can also be regarded as an investment.
Piano
At a cursory glance, Yao Jiaxin was not much different from others. The same elementary school, junior high school, high school, college, the same love, the same addiction to the Internet.
Yao Jiaxin had never done anything illegal or criminal before, and even in adolescence, he did not fight like other boys. Of course, Yaojiaxin also has naughty times, such as he was hooked on the Internet for a while, chatting and playing games every day, and he was happy.
He would play his piano silently, and if nothing else, he might become a piano teacher in the future, or find some other job, get married and have children, and spend the rest of his life like this.
But then the unexpected happened. Moreover, this matter can not be blamed on others at all, all the responsibility is on Yao Jiaxin, there is no doubt about it.
So why did he do that?
Not only do we bystanders not understand, but even our father Yao Qingwei, who gave birth to him and raised him, thought he knew him very well, did not understand...
The earliest media reported that the reason why Yaojiaxin committed such a crime was because he felt that the other party was a rural person and would be difficult to entangle.
Yaoqingwei family
Whether this is true or not, we leave it alone.
But these news, in the environment at that time, did ferment a lot. Counting up generations, who is not a rural person? In this way, it is obvious that it is looking down on rural people, and the topic is very strong.
Later, Yao Qingwei refuted the rumor: "At that time, he bumped into people at night, and he couldn't see clearly, so how could he conclude that the other party must be a rural person?" Besides, I myself came from the countryside, and there is no discrimination against rural people. ”
And Yao Qingwei guessed that his son Yao Jiaxin felt that he might have hit someone and could not afford to lose money, so he simply did not do two things and made a big mistake.
When the money is gone, it can still be earned, and when the people are gone, they are really gone. Yao Qingwei, who only has a junior high school education, understands this truth, will Yaojiaxin, as a college student, not understand?
The reason is certain that Yao Jiaxin understands, he doesn't have any reason to do this, but why can't he resist doing this?
He also has no mental illness, and his normal behavior is very normal, so why is he suddenly out of control?
Flipping through these dusty past events, I have always wondered.
Until a very popular word came along recently– pua, I seemed to have found the answer.
Yaojiaxin encountered family PUA.
The word pua originally referred to hooking up with artists, who exercised mind control in love. Later, it was extended to other fields, deriving family PUA.
The meaning of family PUA refers to the parents' excessive emphasis on the control of their children.
As we mentioned earlier, Yaojiaxin was addicted to the Internet for a while. Do you know what Yao Qingwei did after he knew about it?
Except for the time when Yao Jiaxin went to school, Yao Qingwei locked him up in the basement to avoid Yao Jiaxin's access to the Internet. Eat and drink Lazar in the basement of no more than ten square meters. In order to better supervise him, Yao Qingwei also specially resigned his job.
If you think about it, we were addicted to the Internet at that time, and our parents scolded and beat you up at most, where would there be such an extreme approach?
And Yao Qingwei usually sneered at Yao Jia Xin.
In fact, he is still relatively satisfied with his son from the bottom of his heart, but he feels that the man must be poor and must be hit hard in growth.
So the son behaved well, and although he was happy in his heart, he would not praise him. But if as long as Yao Jiaxin made a small mistake, he would definitely be violently attacked.
And no matter what Yao Jiaxin said, Yao Qingwei would definitely refute it.
When Yao Jiaxin wanted to learn piano, he actually did not resist in his heart, and he felt that his children could learn music very well. But what is the use of saying that this has been learned? Do you know how to learn?
In Chai Jing's book "Seeing", she also mentioned such a thing, Yaojia Xin wanted to donate his cornea to atone for his sins before he died, but Yao Qingwei's first reaction was not to allow it, he could not even use a reason, that is, he was not allowed to do so:
Yao Jiaxin said it several times, and each time he (Yao Qingwei) immediately pushed back.
Even Yao Qingwei himself said in the interview:
"I may be talking a little sour, and I won't do this to others because I want my son to be good, and he may be very stinging."
There is a saying in Sun Tzu's Art of War: "The siege of the city must be quenched, and the poor will not be chased." ”
Before, I didn't understand the profound meaning of this statement, isn't the siege to surround others? Why leave a gap out? The enemy is fleeing, why not chase? Isn't it time to beat up the falling water dog?
Later, I realized that Sun Tzu's Art of War was right.
Rabbits will bite people when they are anxious, and anything is too late. The more seemingly perfect something is, the easier it is to break.
People have been suppressed for a long time and always need to be released. It has been suppressed, and it cannot be suppressed.
Yao Qingwei's original intention was for the good of the medicine family, and he did not want him to become a flower in the greenhouse and could not withstand the wind and waves. But too much force is counterproductive.
Zhao Fan of the Qing Dynasty commented on Zhuge Liang's couplet as follows: "If you do not judge the situation, you are lenient and strict, and later you have to think deeply about Shu.
Good one is wrong.
It seems to be true that it is applicable to the governance of the Shu kingdom and the reason behind the exploration of Yaojiaxin.
I wonder what you think?
(Picture from the Internet, the article is original for the potato that no one wants)