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The romantic love between Jack and Rouse in "Titanic" is praised by the world, and more than ten years later, the two entered the marriage hall together in another movie and had children, which can be regarded as meeting the expectations of the audience.
This movie is "Revolutionary Road", the two actors Lan Lyon Ledo and Kate worked together again, although the plot does not continue, but also let us see the relative reality of the romantic encounter.
Due to the discord between the three views, the contradiction between the two gradually began to intensify. All contradictions seem reasonable, and there are traces to follow in ordinary married life.
This also makes us face a major reality of life, and even romantic love cannot compete with the three views after all.
What is the incompatibility of the three views is a complex human nature issue. Simply put, what you like, what he likes is different from yours, this only involves interest. But what you like, he thinks idiots will like, this is the three views of discord.
Frank, the male protagonist played by Leonardo, only wants to live a plain life, working hard to support his wife and children, and it is enough for the family to stay at home happily. And the heroine Epley, played by Kate, is not willing to live the life of a husband and a godson, although people are still full of many emotional ideas in middle age.
From love at first sight to marriage and having children, behind the seemingly happy, full of marital crises.
The first conflict occurred, and April had been sullen since performing an unsatisfactory performance. Frank, on the other hand, comforted her as he drove, saying that it wasn't her fault that the performance was terrible, that she was a very good actress.
April listened, without saying a word, and the expression on her face was full of unhappiness. Frank repeatedly comforted but could not reciprocate, and finally broke out, and after getting out of the car, Frank slammed the cover of the car hard, scaring April.
Seeing that there was a tendency to domestic violence, April began to respond, but at the moment the dialogue between the two was raw and hard, and the dialogue after the Cold War seemed pale and weak.
The two have different choices about the value of life, but choose to be together, Frank is eager to communicate benignly with his wife April, and April eventually responds in a Cold War manner, which makes Frank look angry.
In the relationship, the discord between the three views is very easy to lead to vicious communication, the two have different views, and there are often conflicts, so they simply do not dialogue. However, whether it is a couple or a couple, it is a relationship that looks down and does not look up, and it is impossible not to communicate.
When the two people after the silence communicate again and find that the views of the two are still incompatible, the contradiction is further intensified, and the vicious circle of such silence and vicious communication will also lead to marital tragedy.
Whether it is a couple or a couple, both parties must learn to speak well, and the premise of speaking well is the benign communication that is also produced by the same point of view.
Epley wants to be a strong woman, she is not willing to be a housewife, and when she accidentally sees that Paris has a job suitable for her and the salary is good, she proposes to Frank the idea of the family moving to Paris.
April wants to exchange family status with Frank, working outside the home to support the family, while her husband is at home with the children and doing what he likes. It turned out that Frank was skeptical of the hasty plan after hearing the idea for the first time, but April repeatedly encouraged frankly to agree.
Although Frank is moved in the middle of the way, he is generally in a state of deception with April, he does not appreciate April's ideas, and he verbally agrees to April while thinking about the rare opportunity for promotion at work.
On the other hand, April, verbally promised to give up her dream, but wanted to show her determination to go to Paris by beating up the child. She carefully prepared for the trip, speaking her thoughts to the neighbors in a high profile.
In the end, he insisted on miscarrying the child in his belly, which also led to his own death. Even if it doesn't end in April's death, the two may still end in divorce.
They can see through each other's lies, but pretend not to know, and each is pregnant with a ghost fetus.
When people with three incompatible views cannot face the collision of the views of the two sides, they will adopt the method of escape, and mutual deception is the biggest manifestation of escape.
If you always agree superficially, if you always use one lie to round out another lie, then it is not a "little family." The old saying has clouds that "villains are the same but not together", and the family formed by such a villain relationship is only revealed in the form, what feelings can be talked about?
The most important thing for both men and women is trust, and if there is no trust to speak of, the basic emotional bond between husband and wife is lost.
It is also very dramatic and reasonable in the movie that Frank and April both cheated.
The first is Frank, who talked twice about work experience with the company's new little sister, which made the other party fall in love, and the two began to eat together, and had a relationship at the hotel the day after Frank and April quarreled.
The second is April, who vomited bitterness after getting drunk in a bar with her husband-in-law, and the neighbor's considerate care made April take off her clothes in the car.
Although the company sister continued to raise eyebrows at Frank, although the male neighbor expressed to April that he had a crush on her for a long time, both showed indifference to the object of the cheating after the infidelity.
Obviously, neither Frank nor April really likes the object of their own cheating, they are just trying to stimulate, to find a little psychological comfort.
The fundamental reason is because the two sides have different three views, and it just so happens that when the two have a conflict, each of them brings a "green hat" to the other.
Due to the discord between the two sides of the relationship, there are frequent contradictions, and at this time, whenever there is a person of the opposite sex who can understand himself, the infidelity will quietly come.
Two people are passionate together, and they may also do something out of the ordinary because of passion, although they do not like the object of cheating.
A very dangerous psychological phenomenon is that when you personally divide your husband or wife from other people, always complain in front of your wife or husband, and always confide in front of other people of the opposite sex, you will have psychological prejudices, more and more dilute the sense of responsibility between husband and wife, and cheating is a normal thing.
The discord of the three views can easily lead to vicious communication, easy to lead to mutual deception, easy to lead to infidelity in marriage, and the discord between the three views is almost the original sin of marital unhappiness.
Whether it is a husband and wife or a couple, they should rely on each other's souls, and the fit between the souls must have a common understanding of the world, must be able to identify with each other's choices in their own lives, and must also have the same value recognition of something or something.
People are together, it may be because of passion, but it can't only be passion, because passion will always degenerate.
The two people who are in love with each other must be in agreement, and everyone is moving in one direction, so that the value created by one plus one can be greater than two, if one person faces south and one person faces north, what is created together is not a driving force, but a burden.
When people with three different views are together, they are just chickens and ducks speaking, the language is not understood, and every minute and every second of being together is a waste of each other's lives.
No matter how much romantic past there has been, after all, it can't withstand the three views.