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Theon said: "Marry a good woman and you find a haven in a storm; marry a bad woman, you get a storm in a haven."
A good marriage, relying on management, also needs to rely on luck, whether it is a man or a woman, to have a happy marriage, to meet a caring partner, is often a very difficult thing.
Some people say that marriage is a gamble, it all depends on whether you are lucky or not.
That's not a bad thing to say, because any marriage is risky, and marriage is meant to be an adventure. Marriage, only by letting yourself meet the right person, can minimize the risk.
For men, if they can marry a good woman as a wife in this life, it is naturally a blessing for cultivation, and if they meet a bad woman, it is undoubtedly an unfortunate thing.
Many times, men actually have a fatal weakness, that is, they do not know how to cherish when they have it, especially when they are easy to be in the blessing and do not know the blessing, obviously met a good wife, but never satisfied, always standing on this mountain looking at the mountain high, always feel that the child is their own good, and the daughter-in-law is the good of others.
Because of such a weakness, in the world, I don't know how many men are constantly tossing and turning in marriage and family, and the final result of the tossing is often to make themselves suffer a lot, or even lose their wives and fold soldiers, which can be described as heavy losses.
In the final analysis, the better the woman, the more she may not be cherished by men, so it prompts many women to say with emotion: Men, there is no good thing!
Although the women are all angry words, they also reflect the truth of men's nature.
In this regard, remind all men that if you meet a very good woman, you must learn to cherish and do not take each other seriously.
Especially women who can achieve the four words of "good wife and good mother" are really worth cherishing and caring for for a lifetime.
02
You know, in today's era, there seem to be fewer and fewer women who can achieve "good wives and good mothers".
With the awakening of female consciousness and the prevalence of feminism, many women, although becoming more independent, have also become more and more egotistical.
Some women, in order to catch up with the fashion, reflect that they are a member of the women of the new era, no longer regard gentleness and virtuousness as their motto, and often appear in front of men as strong women and even very domineering roles, in order to show their sense of self-existence.
In fact, the role of "good wife and good mother" is not outdated at any time, and women who can do this four words deserve the praise of the whole society, and it is more worthy of all men to cherish, and to cherish for a lifetime.
Of course, there are fewer and fewer "good wives and good mothers", and it can't all be blamed on women in the final analysis, and the fundamental reason is that men can't stand up now.
When men in society become weaker and weaker, they can only force women to become self-reliant.
If a man can't bear the responsibility, it is impossible to expect a woman to be a "good wife and mother", which is a very normal thing.
So, to some extent, in order for women to become "good wives and mothers", first men must first be like men, and then women may be like women.
In general, men and women should each play a good role of self, in a marriage and family, there is a division of labor between men and women, it is very important to do their own thing for each other and fulfill their responsibilities.
Objectively speaking, it is difficult for men and women to achieve absolute equality, and everyone should learn to be a self-disciplined person, know how to manage themselves, and better cultivate themselves to become a better self in the eyes of others.
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As far as men are concerned, first of all, we must make ourselves like a man, to have a grandfather, if you are very lucky to marry a good wife and meet your own "good wife and good mother", you must cherish it well, and do not take the other party's good things seriously.
You know, women who can achieve the four words of "good wife and good mother" are worth cherishing for a lifetime.
In fact, the four words "good wife and good mother" look simple, really want to do it is not so easy, you know, this is a very high demand for women, it is by no means feudal oppression, nor is it traditional dross, but it is precisely a kind of high quality.
Don't say these four words, it is not simple to be able to do two of them now.
First take the "virtuous wife", the so-called "virtuous wife" is to be virtuous, knowledgeable, gentle and kind, and a more important quality is to be able to be a man's virtuous helper.
As the saying goes: there is no trouble in the family, there is no bad wife, which is very reasonable.
To put it more bluntly, the real "virtuous wife" is the kind of woman who can be a husband, such a woman has a different quality and inner charm, and men will cherish it when they meet it, and they must cherish it.
Speaking of "good mother", it is even more difficult, "good mother" is not only a matter of responsibility, but also needs to have the ability to love, and put all the love into the child.
Just like Meng Mu, although it is not easy to live alone with a child, in the process of accompanying the growth of the child, he does his best to pay for the child, and in order to educate Mencius, he does not hesitate to cut off the opportunity, and even moves three times.
In this regard, if you are very lucky, if you meet a woman like "a good wife and mother", you must cherish it well, and cherish her for a lifetime.
Otherwise, sooner or later there will be a time when you regret it, and your loss will be great.
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