I hope that the touch and support of netizens can become the driving force for Xiao Qinghe to move forward courageously, rather than the eyebrows above those heavy memories
An afterword to a doctoral dissertation more than a decade ago, which has recently attracted public attention, and the author of the article is Xiao Qinghe, a doctor at Peking University. The author told that he was originally a cowherd, starting from a small mountain village in Qianshan, Anhui Province, and finally admitted to Peking University. The article touched many netizens, and some readers left a message: "I saw a paragraph in the middle and almost cried out." After reading it, it seems to have regained a little bit of my original intention of studying hard for so many years. ”
The afterword to this doctoral dissertation is reminiscent of another doctoral dissertation. In April this year, the "acknowledgment" part of a doctoral dissertation of the Chinese Academy of Sciences caused a heated discussion on the Internet. The author Huang Guoping wrote in the article: "I have come a long way and suffered a lot before I sent this doctoral dissertation to you. Twenty-two years of study, all the way to the wind and rain and mud, many are not easy. Although "I can't remember how many times I feel like I can't bear it because of the pressure of reality", Huang Guoping has never given up, he said: "This way, the belief is very simple, read the book, and then go out, do not live in vain." ”
In the last part of the dissertation, a postscript will be attached to the convention, which some people will thank the teachers and friends who have helped, and some people will take stock of the mental journey along the way. Although the topics of the afterwords of the two doctoral dissertations are not the same, the open and honest attitude of the two doctors jumps out on the paper. Therefore, netizens were able to feel the power of reaching people's hearts outside of professional doctoral dissertations, lamenting that "what is more shocking than the thesis itself is this afterword that is widely circulated in the circle of doctoral students."
Xiao Qinghe's postscript to his doctoral dissertation touched netizens
The same children who came out of the mountains, also experienced the unforgettable childhood past, and finally stepped into the solemn and sacred academic hall, there are too many similarities between the two doctors. However, the afterwords to the two doctoral dissertations bring people different feelings. If Huang Guoping makes people feel that "poor and strong, do not fall into the ambition of Qingyun", Xiao Qinghe makes people feel an indescribable heaviness and depression, although he has long changed the trajectory of his destiny, but he "can't help but be very painful when he thinks of the situation at home." Especially when I thought that I was not yet able to let my mother enjoy her old age in peace, I felt very guilty. ”
"Man cannot choose his own birth." Xiao Qinghe's words not only represent the voice of him and Huang Guoping, but also the true portrayal of the hearts of countless cold students. How to face the birth of the unchosen is the soul question that everyone must face. Judging only from the afterword of the paper, although the two doctors experienced similar childhoods, they developed different psychological characteristics: Huang Guoping showed strength and self-confidence, and Xiao Qinghe showed a hint of sensitivity and timidity. Because of this, when Huang Guoping boldly said, "I already have the courage and patience to face any difficulties and challenges", Xiao Qinghe is still sad because of his childhood experience, and because he "has not yet been able to let his mother enjoy his old age in peace".
These are the two consequences of suffering experiences – either making you stronger inside or making you more vulnerable inside. When I say this, I do not deny Xiao Qinghe's dedication and success, but in terms of his growth experience and academic achievements, he is enough to be called a strong title. However, under the wrapping of academic strength, Xiao Qinghe's heart still seemed to be somewhat fragile. Although this is a point of view that resonates with many people, it is also a pain point that hinders the further development of individuals. In fact, Xiao Qinghe is still lucky compared to Huang Guoping, because his mother will not hesitate to "make enemies of the world around him" in order to protect his life and self-esteem. In contrast, Huang Guoping's father stole and sold the yellow eels he had captured in exchange for tuition, buying wine and meat. In the days of being helpless, the only thing that supported Huang Guoping's efforts to move forward was his personal will, and Xiao Qinghe and his mother finally tried their best to support him. This is also the reason why Xiao Qinghe is still difficult to let go.
Those who can't kill you will eventually make you stronger. Nietzsche's words are often quoted as inspirational quotes. But it's easy to overlook the premise that it's not the body that can't be killed, it's the soul. Only when the soul is strong enough not to fall in suffering and eventually blossom on top of suffering. Like Huang Guoping, Xiao Qinghe's postscript to his doctoral dissertation touched many people. Unlike Huang Guoping, I hope that the touch and support of netizens can become the motivation for him to move forward, rather than the eyebrows above those heavy memories. Life is ultimately to look forward, even if the wind and frost come, you can't give up your dreams and expectations. The greatness of family affection lies in selfless giving, which should not become a shackle that imprisons the soul. Greeting every day of the future with full enthusiasm is the best comfort for those you love and those who love you.
Red Star News special commentator Zhao Zhijiang
Edited by Guan Li
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