The number of unmarried women has reached 6 million. This is the data of last year's birth report in our country.
Big data shows that in today's society, more and more women do not want to get married.
Why don't you want to get married? There is a high praise answer: low-quality marriage, not as good as high-quality single.
Why do some women prefer to end up alone than get married?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="201" >, have seen too many unhappy marriages, and are not sure if they will be happy</h1>
It is an indisputable fact that the marriage rate in our country is decreasing year by year, but the divorce rate is rising year after year. During the epidemic period, divorce appointments in many places were full; after the end of the college entrance examination, a wave of divorce broke out in many places.
Today's marriage is more of a transaction after setting conditions, living together and living together.
However, after marriage, two people have to run into each other, two families must integrate, they must bear the joys and sorrows of the two people, and they must bear each other's lives. Many people no longer actively choose marriage after seeing the marriage of their parents, relatives and people around them.
Because we grew up and saw too many unhappy marriages. We're not sure if our marriage will be happy.
Many girls think: it is good not to get married, no need to have children, no mother-in-law contradictions, no need to worry about husband cheating on domestic violence, no need to deal with some personal exchanges that they don't like, and no need to take care of each other's diet and living.
Many boys also think: it is good not to get married, play games if you want to play games, stay up late if you want to stay up late, make your own money and spend your own money, do not have to take care of your wife and children, do not have to listen to your wife's nagging, there will not be so much pressure.
You see, if you don't get married, the chickens and dogs in those marriages won't show up.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="200" > Second, the traditional concept of marriage is squeezing the value of women, and marriage is not worth the loss</h1>
Many women choose not to marry because they are aware of the underlying inequalities in marriage.
No matter how independent women are now, in marriage, women are still the one who pays more. For example, many female celebrities, female entrepreneurs, and female celebrities will be asked: How do you balance family and work?
Men, on the other hand, are never asked how to balance family and work.
This simple problem lurks in the marital responsibility imposed on women by society. After marriage, women default to husbands and children, to run housework, to sacrifice more career development opportunities and self-social value for the family. Otherwise, people will say you are an incompetent mother.
For a man, after marriage, with his other half behind him taking care of the rear, he can have more time and energy to devote to his career. However, after men have achieved fame, they will not be grateful for women's efforts, but will kick their noses in the face, and many men will cheat and betray their families.
The traditional view of marriage, which is unequal to women and does not recognize women's efforts, is also the reason why women are increasingly reluctant to get married.
I have seen a man shoot a video of his wife washing clothes before, and said triumphantly: College flowers, when Lao Tzu chased you, girlfriends were embarrassed, relatives were embarrassed, and now they are not obedient to wash my clothes, have two children, and have a free nanny.
The college flowers that were sought after by thousands of people at that time were eventually reduced to free nannies and fertility machines. These words make people very angry.
If a woman gets married and is destined to become a free nanny in the eyes of a man, what is the meaning of marriage for women?
Women are not financially dependent on men, mental freedom, if marriage will only squeeze women, in vain to increase troubles and burdens, then also choose to marry, is this not a brain problem?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="199" > third, marriage is no longer the only way to happiness</h1>
In the previous agricultural era, most of the marriage models were male and female, women had no financial resources, and they had to rely on men to live. At that time, women had no choice, so they could only rely on marriage.
However, now is the business era, women no longer rely on men to survive, then whether they get married or not, women have a choice.
According to the 2020 Fertility Report, there is a close correlation between the rate of non-marriage among women and academic qualifications. The higher the education, the higher the proportion of women who choose not to marry.
The higher the education of women, the higher the proportion of income will also be higher. When financially independent women no longer rely on marriage, when they are single and have a good life, marriage is no longer a necessity in their lives.
Marriage is only a part of life, marriage is not so important anymore.
Many women, who can shine in their areas of expertise, can live more comfortably without being bound by marriage.
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In fact, a good marriage can give us a strong sense of belonging and security. The sense of belonging and security can be said to be an innate psychological need of our human beings.
We need marriage, we need intimacy, because we want to get a sense of security and belonging from marriage, and we want to get the energy to love and be loved from intimacy.
However, a low-quality marriage is difficult to meet our psychological needs, and the marriage is like chicken ribs, and the cost performance is too low.
In recent years, we have seen a lot of social hot spots, because the dowry and dowry are endlessly disputed, and there are big fights and parting ways;
The rate of infidelity is increasing year by year, social networks are developed, betrayal of marriage is easy, and some men even do such a terrible thing as throwing their children downstairs in order to please a third party;
Women suffer domestic violence in marriage but have no way to divorce, some even suffer from poisoners, small lives are not guaranteed, sewers, insurance fraud cases, hiding freezers...
Under the rendering of these hot spots, women's fear of marriage has gradually grown, and many people have commented: unmarried and infertile to ensure safety.
In the eyes of many people, marriage has become a high-cost, high-risk, low-return investment, very uneconomical.
After many people get married, they are even lonelier than when they were single, widowed marriage, fraudulent parenting, and how much passion of life is consumed.
Marriage is not unimportant. On the contrary, it is precisely because marriage is important that we should be more cautious.
Marriage is very important, so it is necessary to polish the eyes, so it cannot be settled, it cannot be made up. Whether you are married or not, you can, I just hope that you will not be controlled by the world, because of the eyes of others and rush to get married.
Your life, you decide, others are not qualified to point fingers.