< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="42" >01 misunderstanding of growth</h1>
The most wrong perception of growth is "frustration education".
When it comes to growing up, many people will cite the example of "lying down and trying to be bold".
In 496 BC, King Yunchang of Yue died and Gou Jian succeeded to the throne. King Lu of Wu took the opportunity to attack the state of Yue, and died shortly after the defeat, and his son Fu Cha succeeded to the throne, determined to avenge the state of Wu. To seek revenge, to sleep on the firewood, to eat and sleep to taste bitterness, in order to remember hatred. Finally, after more than ten years, he destroyed the State of Wu and forced fu cha to commit suicide.
But imagine, there are so many kings in history, can you still think of a second hook?
Can't think of it!
The reason for the few examples is that the vast majority of people (including the emperor) cannot survive a huge setback!
Those who don't believe it can ask Xiang Yuda.
Secondly, setbacks are often caused by the objective environment, and no one without normal people will be bored enough to create difficulties for themselves.
Do you scold leaders for growing up?
Would you deliberately go bankrupt in order to grow?
Do you deliberately offend your customers in order to grow?
Will you tear down the toilet of your mentor's house for growth?
Don't you dare to do one! That's right!
Because "frustration education" is not only uncontrollable, but even the environment is uncontrollable, it is completely unreliable!
Setbacks are the touchstone of growth, but setbacks cannot replace growth!
In terms of growth, it is not only "frustration education" that is not enough, "adversity education" is only suitable for a small number of people.
Others are nervous to the point of cold hands and feet when they encounter this situation, but they can play beyond the norm.
This kind of person is very suitable for growing up in adversity, but also cannot be in "adversity" for a long time.
So, unless you're gifted and can accept negative repression without limits, as a normal person, I still recommend that you "grow up in good times."
In good times, the fastest way to grow is actually to keep yourself in the "learning area" for a long time and deliberately practice!
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="67" >02 The growth of science</h1>
Deliberate practice, I believe many people are already familiar with it, here is the concept of learning area.
Psychological research says that human understanding of the outside world can be divided into three zones: comfort zones, stretch zones, and stress zones.
"Comfort Zone": We have mastered the skills, every day in a familiar environment, do the things in the line, communicate with familiar people, even you are an expert in this field, feel comfortable with the people and things in this area. But little is learned, progress is slow, and once you step out of the field, you may feel stressed and overwhelmed by unfamiliar environments and changes.
"Learning zone": This is an area that we need to focus on, and it is also an area where we are growing rapidly. It is an area that we have rarely touched or even never touched, full of novel things, where we can fully exercise ourselves and challenge ourselves. For example, in life, change the route to work; in the process of study, contact with another professional book; at work, switch to another position.
"Panic Zone": This is the area we need to avoid! As the name suggests, there is worry, fear, and overwhelm in this area. For example, speaking in public, or engaging in some dangerous extreme sports.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="77" >03 How to regulate the rhythm of growth</h1>
First of all, we have to judge which area we are in?
The method of judgment is very simple, we can judge directly through the pressure and feedback we are subjected to.
When you don't feel the pressure, or when the pressure is so small that you can subconsciously complete the learning content, you are in your comfort zone.
When we are in the learning process, stress can prompt you to act, and get positive feedback in the learning process, and even various material and spiritual rewards! Congratulations, you're growing crazy in the learning area.
When you feel overwhelmed, the pressure is so great that you have all kinds of negative emotions, a lot of time is consumed in the emotional consumption, and the outside world does not get feedback, or even gets negative feedback, you have almost entered the panic zone.
When you enter the panic zone, don't panic, just need you to stop, sort out your ideas and plans, reduce the difficulty and intensity of learning, and soon you can return to the learning area.
Congratulations, as long as you master the rhythm, fast growth is definitely not a problem ~!
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