Author: Little Grandpa
One is a rich man with a noble background and a good diet, and the other is a poor person whose family is poor and cannot make ends meet.
It's hard to imagine how they would intersect in real life, but this film based on real-life examples offers viewers an incredible possibility.
"That's what I want, no sympathy for him."
Philippe was a paraplegic patient in high positions, and although his wealth was enough to sustain him throughout his life, almost every day was an ordeal.
After pushing out many of the escort experts who came to apply, he resolutely chose Desis, who had just been released from prison and was only for unemployment benefits
For in him Philip could not see the sympathy that had frustrated and depressed him.
In the face of the suffering of others, we all seem to be keen to flood our own compassion, but in a way, how can this not be a secondary harm to the person concerned?
The movie "Untouchable" provides a sincere and warm answer: the greatest tenderness to others is not sympathy, but coexistence.
<h1>The inner monologue of the disabled</h1>
When we spy on the lives of disabled people in the posture of normal people, we can see through the embarrassment and helplessness of their lives at a glance.
"What should we do?"
Driven by compassion and compassion, we always venture into their world as helping "volunteers."
It's a crossover with a sense of justice, and we're giving, either unpaid or paid, but in any case, doing such work can indeed bring a humanitarian satisfaction.
However, on the other hand, the more help people with disabilities receive from the outside world, the more they will lose.
"Is it convenient for you to live like this?"
"Do you have anything you need help with?"
"Or I'll come, you're struggling like this"
In the kind reminders and deliberate avoidance of others, the disabled groups see their caution and their good intentions, but these also strengthen the boundaries between normal people and the disabled groups all the time.
In the film, Philippe is such a disabled person who is cared for in the greenhouse, and he lives in the sympathy and pity of everyone.
But because of this, he lost his former self-confidence and dignity.
Everyone tried to keep him away from the danger factors of the outside world, and even the means of travel, he could not choose.
Everyone tacitly agreed that experiencing danger was a normal person's right, but no one realized that what Philip wanted to do was to be a normal person.
Sometimes, Philip and people with disabilities like Philip need not meticulous care, but a calm and level view.
<h1>Running away is shameful, but useful</h1>
Fear, restlessness, and frustration, the world is sharp for people with disabilities who struggle with suffering.
In order to resist the damage, they will also build a shield for themselves from the surface and the inside.
"If it's painful, then don't try."
For normal people, this is a very negative value, but for disabled groups like Philip, this can be regarded as a circumvention mechanism for self-preservation.
Many times, we are too stubborn to be ready to confront the world, but we do not have the courage and determination to complete a strategic retreat.
After Philip lost control of his life, he also learned to escape.
"They came to the party mainly to see if I was alive."
For his birthday party, although Philip guessed that many people did not really wish him well, he would pretend to be surprised every time to cover up his true feelings to avoid unnecessary embarrassment and trouble.
Not only that, but he also escaped from his love.
Due to his doubts and inferiority, he can only accept platonic love, and is afraid to let the other party know his current situation.
And this is largely a reflection of the inner life of this group, that is, they have become "accustomed" to the experience of suffering, but who intends to constantly draw new scars for themselves?
Overcoming the misfortune of reality is itself a tug-of-war with a very long front, and the disabled group has no advantage in both psychological and physical terms.
Escape is a disgraceful path, but they also gain a rare sense of security.
Running away is shameful, but useful.
<h1>Let love heal itself</h1>
If there is no functional difference between the disabled and normal people, I think the answer should include the self that is constructed by the individual.
But whether it is sympathy from others or active avoidance, these will hurt the self-awareness and self-worth of the parties to varying degrees.
So what exactly heals the hurt self?
I think "Untouchable" provides the answer, that is, love, which can come from friendship, can also come from family affection, and of course can also come from love.
But aren't compassion and compassion expressions of love?
I don't think anyone would deny that people show compassion and compassion out of love for others, but if this love is not adapted to local conditions, the result is harm.
And rather than expressing compassion and compassion bluntly, the coexistence of "not asking about the past, not asking about the future" may make the disabled group feel a sincere and comfortable love.
Desis has no accompanying professional experience and no strong professional background, but he knows how to get along with Philip.
In life, he gave Philip the treatment of a normal person, because he knew that there was nothing for Philip to make him happier than to have the treatment of a normal person.
And when Philip is sad or evasive, he may not understand, but he will still take the initiative to leave a psychological distance, and this is the tacit understanding of love.
You may not be able to do anything about the pain and sadness of others, but all you need to do is be there.
As for whether the other party is silent or talking, please give the other party full choice.
Sometimes, love is restraint, but an expression of impatience.
"Untouchable" tells the story of how two people across classes heal each other in an incredibly humorous and light-hearted tone.
And a unique perspective on the disabled people such as a vulnerable group, and reminds us that in addition to providing them with life help, how to take care of their inner world, or how to make them rebuild a self with enough self-esteem and self-confidence is also a topic we should think about.
Of course, the film also offers a solution that can be used as a reference, that is, instead of sympathy and pity, it is better to return their lost right to be a normal person by action (coexistence).