Hello everyone, I am Momo, a Parisian student. This is my first reading draft and I hope it will be useful to you.
Today's sharing with you is Fudan famous teacher Chen Guo's "Good Love: Chen Guo's Love Philosophy Lesson". Seeing the author and the title of the book, the video of Teacher Chen's class on the Internet came to mind. Dashing, frank, insightful, eyes reveal the sincerity of the true meaning of happiness.
Although the book is about love, what I didn't expect was that the self-awakening part of the second half of the book fascinated me even more. What is happiness, how to live by oneself, and the pursuit of sincerity are the magic weapons I have obtained.
Choosing and taking responsibility is the whole meaning of freedom.
-Chen Guo
01. Everyone's definition of happiness is different, and I choose freedom
Everyone chooses a different path, and we can't judge it by our own value judgments. Because people in this world, some people pursue wealth, some people pursue status, some people pursue freedom, there is no good or bad, just different. I, on the other hand, pursue freedom.
Freedom is defined in the book as follows:
First: sober self-knowledge
Second: the brave choice
Third: the calm and unrepentant responsibility
"Sober self-knowledge" requires us to take responsibility for our actions. We must understand the consequences of doing things, especially whether we can bear the "evil consequences". Of course, self-knowledge also includes "what I want". And the two questions that stretch out are "What am I going to pay for what I want?" "Am I willing to pay?" Can I afford it? ”。 These three problems add up to a sober understanding.
The "brave choice" is the power of action. "Dare to decide" means "dare to give up", because there are too many tempting things in the world, and choosing one means giving up others. If you blindly seek the best solution, then the time has passed, and people will regret it too late. Therefore, after recognizing yourself, you must remove distractions and act decisively.
"Unapologetic responsibility" is essentially "planting cause and effect and eating its own consequences." The path you choose for yourself, you can't blame others. When you choose, love what you choose, choose what you love, and take responsibility for it.
Only by doing these three things is freedom. Because you think clearly, you decide, so you are willing to take responsibility. At that time, the anxiety and uneasiness in your heart will disappear without a trace, and the peace of mind will guide you and keep moving forward.
It's important to see the world, but it's also important to explore yourself, so you have to understand it inward and outward, and then try your best to maintain balance and walk the middle path.
02. Finding inner balance is an eternal topic
One of my favorite movies starring Julia Roberts, Food, Prayer and Love, has one line in my heart: "Sometimes to lose balance for love is part of living balanced life." Sometimes being out of balance because of love is also part of a balanced life. ”
Balance does not mean "average"; the balance point is not like the symmetry of a balance, but is determined by oneself. Life, work and study, each of which has its own focus, different life stages also have different emphases, by their own judgment. When two things are equally important, which one to emphasize depends on what situation you are in at the moment.
The pace of the times has become faster, and the information received is complex. I understand that if I want to grasp the situation, I want to collect information as much as possible for my use. However, how many of them are really related to us (here we recommend that you watch "Entertainment to Death" - one of Harvard's must-read books).
If you don't know what you really want, how to choose. So not only do we need to understand the information of the outside world, but also, the exploration of the inner world determines the height and breadth of our own thinking. Only when the two are suitable and grow together can we obtain inner peace.
Only when you take it slowly and gradually understand yourself in depth can you reflect your sincerity to yourself. Take your time, it's a kind of sincerity.
03. Sincerity is the new key I found
Sincerity, that word is heavy for me. From an early age, I didn't understand what it meant until I read the book. Sincerity means being serious, focusing on and enjoying the moment. It leads me to the world of flow and allows me to enter a moment of inner peace.
At work, when you are not impetuous, the work at hand is disrupted by phone calls, messages, and emails. In life, have you ever been unable to sink your heart, just planning to find something interesting for yourself, and then you are disturbed by the lover next to you. In the process of studying, have you ever seen that when the words are floating, you have just opened a book and been distracted by various thoughts in your head.
Me too. But I found a way to be "sincere".
When I opened a book and said in my heart, "I want to be sincere with myself and feel the pleasure of what I see in front of me", within a few seconds, I was immersed in the fun of learning English. Even if someone disrupts, I can quickly get back to form. Even, sometimes too immersed in learning, the reaction to the things around me has slowed down.
This is where I feel most deeply in the title of my article: a good book not only teaches a solution to a specific problem, but also teaches the essence of things, to learn from each other, and to improve yourself. I found the answer to a question that had been hanging open for years: how to sink my heart and do what I wanted to do.
I hope my insights are useful to you. I'm Momo, a Parisian student, and I'm sharing with you what I've seen, heard, and felt.