Some people say: The two words of growing up are so lonely that they are not even on the sidelines.
When I first saw these words, a trace of sadness spread in my heart. But after a few seconds, it was funny again, and it was like saying: You only children of the 80s are so lonely that you don't even have brothers and sisters.
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Yes, in my generation, most of the family was a child. Our dearest ones are only our parents. Parents still have to go to work, unlike the existence of "full-time mothers" and "full-time dads" now, our loneliness is well deserved.
Although some people call our generation "little emperor" and "little princess", it is a generation favored by parents. However, neither the unique attention of parents nor the enjoyment of all the resources of the family can reduce the loneliness of our generation that has nowhere to rest.
China's family planning policy was introduced in 1971 and was formally established as a basic national policy in 1982 and written into the Constitution. China's divorce rate has risen for 15 consecutive years since 2003, from 0.55 ‰ in 1987 to 3.2 ‰ in 2017, and maintained at 3.2 ‰ in 2018.
In our generation, many people have become the children of single-parent families before they have enjoyed the good of being an only child.
When I was a child, I didn't understand, now that I have my own family, my own children, I gradually understand why a child who grew up in a single-parent family is so easy to find, maybe they have some commonalities, maybe they all have a lonely light in them.
They may be surrounded by the cold violence and negative energy of the family from a young age, and there is no room for respite; they may be used as a punching bag after the parents quarrel, scolding and scolding; they may be shirked by the parents who have broken down, fostered in relatives' homes, and carefully watched the faces of others every day; they may also break the jar and break, close to the ink black, and take a crooked road early...
The innocence of children has long been abandoned by them, replaced by self-denial and indifference. Because, they have no other way, they have no one to talk to, even afraid of being laughed at, do not dare to tell their experiences and encounters, can only learn to talk to their own shadows in the abyss of endless loneliness.
The pain of the original family has been widely mentioned in recent years. And those children who grew up under the light of loneliness gradually came out of their own sad shadows. But the wounds in their hearts have not been forgotten, and whenever they are touched, they still hurt to the bone.
The difference is that after understanding our own loneliness and developing the way of knowledge dissemination, we can now learn more useful knowledge in time, treat our families and children more rationally, start from changing ourselves, let our children no longer repeat the same mistakes, and no longer only talk to their own shadows.
This is our progress and proof that we have truly grown up.