Emily Acosta
Love and narcissism
Luo Xiang
Excerpt from Circle Justice
Is the Five Ren Mooncake delicious or the egg yolk mooncake delicious? Are domestic movies good or imported movies good?
On the web, as soon as you set up two seemingly opposing sets of views, people will quickly "take sides." At first it may be a mild assertion, but soon the language will become fierce, the sword will be sharp, and the words will be immediately "torn". If someone is a little detached and "loves" a little, they are likely to be accused by both factions.
People seem to love to pull gangs and factions, even at the expense of "pulling hatred for each other", which is rooted in people's narcissism.
When there is no object of admiration in life, people will inevitably put themselves in the most important position, forming an irrepressible narcissism. Narcissism always makes people feel superior: the superiority of birth, the superiority of intelligence, the superiority of knowledge, the superiority of wealth, the superiority of class, the superiority of geography, the superiority of accent, and so on. At the same time, narcissism makes people obsessed with the use of others, and all interpersonal interactions are only to meet the needs of the self. If others no longer have use value, people's "love" disappears.
Some people say that the greatest poverty in the world is the lack of love, and only true love can get people out of narcissism.
Love is not love of abstract concepts, but love of concrete people — not of "human beings," but of "people."
There are many great intellectuals who are very human, but they have a hard time loving really specific people. Rousseau, who wrote On the Origin of Human Inequality, is said to have wept with sadness at the thought of human suffering. But he sent all five of his children to an orphanage. He was too busy, too busy to love human beings, and didn't have time to love specific people. Loving human beings but not loving specific people is a common disease of many people.
Human beings are abstract and have no concrete objects. Loving human beings does not require a sincere commitment, and it is easy to accept it, and it can also earn yourself a sense of moral superiority. But specific people always have so many problems, always so unlovable. In fact, in a sense, this is exactly what the environment is training our love, because true love is often the love for the unlovable.
Lovely people, loved by everyone, this kind of love is just a form of narcissism. You appreciate the cuteness of others, you are just putting your love for yourself on others. However, it is only when you see something worth loving in the midst of unlovable people that you can slowly get out of narcissism.
Sometimes I am also very angry when I see criticism from others, especially unreasonable accusations. But at this time, there are always voices reminding me that criticism can puncture the illusion of narcissism, deflating the balloon of vanity, and keeping people from floating to the boundless heights.
On solid ground, people can have real life. Get out of narcissism, get out of hate, and be a truly wealthy person.
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01 20 philosophers daigo-inspired life strategies
Ordinary people study philosophy, not to learn, but to get inspiration from philosophy, and then match it to their own life experience, constantly thinking, doubting, reflecting... Thus organizing into your own philosophy and finding ways to deal with various problems.
This philosophy course will focus on 20 "big problems" in life, such as loneliness, love and hate, life and death, confusion, and desire, each of which is divided into 5 lectures, telling you about the thought systems of 20 ancient and modern philosophers such as Heidegger, Aristotle, Schopenhauer, Nietzsche, Camus, Plato, and Sartre, and explore their own life strategies.
02 104 wisdom courses spanning the 2000 history of philosophy
This course does not pursue "efficiency", does not throw textbook introductions to philosophy directly to you, but carefully "grinds" difficult ideas into vivid stories and easy telling, and takes you a little bit to understand the long history of philosophy and the essence of philosophers' thought through 104 courses in a whole year.
The presenter will analyze the essence of 20 classic philosophical works such as "Existence and Time", "Republic", "Meditations", and "Drinking Chapters" for you. It covers ancient Greek and Roman philosophy, early modern Western European philosophy, German classical philosophy, existentialism and postmodernism.
03 Philosophies and inspirations of 100+ literary and artistic works
At the beginning of each lesson, the presenter will cut in with a movie, a novel or a piece of music, on the one hand, in order to start from vivid emotional experience and realization, and then rise to philosophical questions and reflections, so that the audience can more easily open the door to philosophical thinking.
On the other hand, in addition to the function of entertainment, good literary and artistic works also contain a life experience and a possibility of life. Deeply understand the connotation behind literary and artistic works, do not stick to the self, better understand others, and understand the external world.