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This year's Valentine's Day, slightly different.
Couples can't go out, and most of the original dating plans can only be completed by "video".
On this special holiday, Lingyao also wants Amway to give you a movie from 10 years ago, called "500 Days with Shamo".
Unlike other love movies, the opening of this movie is accompanied by such a sentence -
Figure | 500 Days with Shamo
It seems that this is a movie specially made to complain about the ex, however, every frame of it implies the most heartfelt truth in love, teaches us how to choose a partner, and how to run a long-term relationship.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > if you're in a relationship and you're in a disclaimer....</h1>
It's a somewhat mundane story.
The male protagonist, Tom, is a literary and artistic youth who has believed in the saying "True Destiny" since childhood.
One day, he met Summer, a cute, charming, confident girl—
She went to work in an ice cream parlor, and the performance of the shop could miraculously triple, and every time she went to rent a house, she was able to get a price that was 9.2% lower than the market price, and when she went out to take the bus, she could surprise an average of 18.4 people per day!
More importantly, her and the male protagonist's hobbies are also surprisingly consistent, as long as the two get together, there are endless topics to talk about.
Soon, the male protagonist was fascinated by her.
Summer's initiative, the two had their first kiss, the first time they held hands, the first hug, the first date, the first Sex, and everything was perfect.
However, on a date, Summer told Tom that she was not very serious about the relationship and did not want to be whoever she was, and that the two of them were happy together as long as they were happy.
According to the reason, before the love has begun, the other party will tell you that "I am just playing with you", and nine times out of ten will shout "deceived", and then block all contact information, and never contact again, right?
However, when Tom heard Summer say this, he felt a little reluctant, but he had to agree.
On the one hand, Summer gave him the feeling of being "too wonderful", and on the other hand, he always thought that he was Unique, and that one day she would be willing to be his girlfriend.
However, everything came to an abrupt end after Summer told Tom his secret.
He began to stop being willing to be just a "friend" and couldn't help but run to ask Summer what their relationship was.
However, thinking is very full, and the reality is very bone.
Once again he received a good man card.
I don’t know… Well, I don’t care. I am happy, aren’t you happy?
… yea … I am happy.
I'm very happy, you don't open it?
Happy (your sister)
Once again, a bitter smile appeared on Tom's face.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > is he too stupid, or is she too scummy? </h1>
Seeing this, Ling Yao couldn't help but hug Tom.
Obviously, It was Summer who took the first conversation, the kiss first, the hand that held first, and why was Tom trapped in it in the end, Summer patted her ass, turned around and married someone else???
Is your phrase "I don't want to be whoever I want to be" really just an excuse?
Fortunately, at the end of the movie, Summer finally tells the truth -
"I've never had faith in you."
Listen, are you angry at this sentence?
You desperately try to keep it, and as a result, the other party sentences "no confidence" and sentences the relationship to death easily!!!
However, seeing this, I suddenly remembered an old man who had said to me more than once—
"I don't have a need for a relationship."
"The only thing you can do is turn you into a goddess and introduce you to other boys."
However, in later contact with him, I found that he, like Summer, although he said that "life is precious, love is more expensive, if it is free, both can be thrown away", but his heart is more eager for a stable relationship than anyone.
So, just like the Movie because of the failed marriage of his parents, he has no confidence in feelings, and wants to cut off a long hair and leave love behind Himer.
He also had to try to convince himself that "I am different from her, if I don't try, I will regret it", while confirming the other party's feelings for him in repeated temptations.
Unfortunately, our Tom doesn't understand Summer's inner little nine-nine, he just doesn't want to,
—— Obviously I have paid so much, why does Summer refuse to openly admit that I am his boyfriend?
—— Obviously we were so tacit at the dance, why was Summer engaged to someone else?
—— Obviously I have always tolerated her not being serious enough, why does Summer still have to go?
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > from green silk to whitehead</h1>
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > these 3 points are more important than love or not</h1>
Before watching this movie, I used to think that as long as two people love, love, and love each other, they can overcome all difficulties and be together for a lifetime.
However, the story of Tom and Summer tells me the truth of 3 hearts in love.
1. A good start is really half the battle
Back to the film itself, Summer is undoubtedly a charming and mysterious girl, and Tom actually has the capital to charm girls, with beauty, talent, and singing very well.
However, in the process of getting along with Summer, Tom has never been able to come up with the courage to be a man, to cover Summer's bottom, to give Summer a feeling of "the sky is falling, I cover you", so that Summer chose a man who came to greet her as a husband.
Similarly, Summer's initial "disclaimer" planted a seed of uneasiness in Tom's heart, so much so that after 300 days, it eventually caused a "catastrophe".
Therefore, if you want to have a sweet relationship, you must choose the right person at the beginning, find it from people who are willing to develop a long-term relationship with yourself, and take the initiative to reduce the difficulty of reaching a long-term relationship.
2. What is more important than liking a long-term relationship is mutual trust
Looking back at the feelings of your parents, you may also be like Lingyao, and find that although your parents no longer hang on their mouths every day, they rarely say "I love you".
However, the stability index of feelings is far better than that of us young people, and we rarely have a cold war and a big fight with each other because the other party has done an unhappy thing.
Before, I also naively thought that the reason why my parents' relationship was so stable was mainly because after nearly 30 years of running-in between the two of them, they had become one person.
However, in the afternoon, when doing "Ta is Your Mr/Mrs Right" with her mother, Ling Yao found that her mother also had unpleasant things to her father, just like I did to my ex.
The only difference is that I will lose my temper because he doesn't care about me, but my mother can tolerate my father's temper very well.
After talking to my mom about it, we all agreed that it was mostly about "trust."
The reason why I lose my temper with my boyfriend after an argument is like Tom chasing Summer for an answer to "what the hell is our relationship?" comes down to not trusting enough, afraid of losing him completely because of an argument.
And, even if mom and dad have different concepts, they believe that each other's hearts are together and will not shake the foundation between the two.
Therefore, if you want to be better and better with him, then you must choose to replace "jealousy" with "trust", "inquiry" instead of "accusation", and "listening" instead of "indifference", as you did when you first met.
3. His love for you will not disappear because of his departure
When watching the movie, Ling Yao has always been very puzzled:
This is obviously the story of Tom and Summer, why is the end of the story that Tom met a girl named Autumn during the interview and took the initiative to ask her to go to coffee?
Isn't that a snake?'
In fact, back to the original intention of making this movie, you will understand.
This is not a simple story about the male protagonist falling in love with a girl, falling in love with her, and being dumped again, but a story in which the two go through this relationship and then grow up together.
It is because of her relationship with Tom that Summer's heart frozen because of her parents' failed marriage has slowly opened, and after Tom broke up, she married her current husband;
And it is precisely because of getting along with Summer that Tom will change his former timidity, no longer blindly superstitious about true love, but try to win the heart of a girl.
It can be said that although the two did not harvest a happy ending, they also became a better each other because of each other's appearance.
This, presumably the film, wants to tell us.
Therefore, here, Lingyao not only blesses you who have a partner, and the other half is sweet and sweet to 99, but also wishes that you who are single will meet your "true destiny/heavenly daughter" as soon as possible.
Wishing you happiness!
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Text | Wu Lingyao, a professional reader who practices "one book a day, one more article per day", this article was first published on his personal public account: syrjjy