In the long river of years, man is just a hurried passerby. We need to take every step firmly to make our lives full of excitement.
The wonder of the world is that it is elusive, but there are laws to follow, and so are our lives.
When people are young, they are busy rejuvenating, full of vigor, sharp and unextendable, pursuing something greater.
Suddenly, one night, tossing and turning, feeling as if I had touched a certain boundary, gradually falling, and finally realizing that the second half of my life had arrived.
In the face of the second half of life, it is necessary to reduce desire, put away the temper, and let go of vanity.
01
Lowers desire
I have seen the question: "What is the highest wealth of man?" ”
The answer that almost everyone agrees with is: "Contentment." ”
It makes sense to think that wealth can never buy contentment, and what is often satisfied does not need wealth to buy.
A beggar accidentally picked up a lost dog, saw that there was no one around, and carried the dog back to the cave.
It turned out that the owner of this dog was a famous rich man who loved this dog very much, and the dog was very anxious after it was lost. The rich man issued a dog hunting notice: if you find it, please return it quickly, and the reward is 20,000 yuan.
The next day, when the beggar was begging, he saw the notice and couldn't wait to carry the dog to receive the reward, but when he passed by, he found that the reward on the notice had become 30,000 yuan.
The beggar hesitated, and finally he carried the dog back to the cave. Day 3. The honorarium did rise, and on the fourth day it went up again, until on the seventh day, the honorarium rose to a surprising point.
The beggar was so excited that he was ready to carry the dog to receive the reward. Unexpectedly, the puppy had been starved to death, and the beggar was still a beggar.
After people reach middle age, they have a certain understanding of what they can do and what they can do, and they cannot expand as before and want to obtain everything.
In the second half of life, we should gradually shrink, receive when we see good, reduce desire, and be content and happy.
There is a saying that goes like this: "Desire is like seawater, the more you drink, the more thirsty you become." "Ever-expanding desires can eventually destroy a person.
02
Put away your temper
When people reach middle age, the pressure they carry has reached its peak, and unsatisfactory things have followed. Irritability becomes a norm, and people often have difficulty controlling their emotions and lose their temper.
Napoleon said: "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take down a city." ”
A camel trudged through the desert. The sun was scorching, it was thirsty and hungry, restless, and the fire in its stomach didn't know where to go.
At this moment, a piece of broken glass slammed the soles of its feet, and the camel suddenly became angry, raised its feet and kicked the fragments out.
But the shards of glass cut a deep hole in the camel's foot, and bright red blood kept pouring out. The camel limped along, and the blood attracted the vultures.
The camel was shocked, and ran wildly with the pain, but the fishy smell of blood attracted the wolf. The camel panicked and scurried like a headless fly, just to avoid the attack of the wolf.
Due to excessive blood loss and exhaustion, the camel had to lie down first, and as a result it lay near the nest of the man-eating ant.
The smell of blood caused the man-eating ants to pour out of their nests, and it wasn't long before the huge camels were left with only a pile of white bones.
There is a proverb that says, "Kick a stone in anger, and only hurt your toes." ”
The camel in the story, in order to vent his anger, not only "hurt his toes", but also lost his life.
People's irritability is often due to things not meeting their expectations. If the irritability in your heart is suppressed for too long, you will find an opportunity to make a big fuss.
This is a very irrational behavior, and tantrums will not solve any problems, and may have more serious consequences.
After people reach middle age, many things should be looked at, how can everything go smoothly? Do your best in everything, have a clear conscience, and accept whatever the final result is.
Too much tantrum will only make people chaotic and constantly make mistakes, and only by maintaining inner peace can we strategize.
03
Let go of vanity
The Swiss writer Keller said: "There is no doubt that vanity people are slaves to people without vanity, because they try to win the favor of the latter." ”
How many people's lives are in pursuit of the gorgeous cloak of vanity, in order to get the approval of others, day and night, physically and mentally exhausted.
In middle age, many people who have achieved certain achievements are prone to indulge in vanity and complacent, while those who have not achieved achievements are still desperately pursuing with haggard hearts.
George Bernard Shaw is a world-famous literary hero. Once, when he went to the Soviet Union to give a speech, in his spare time, he went for a walk in a park and met a cute little girl.
So Shaw played with the little girl, and before she knew it, it was going to be dark.
When they broke up, Shaw said to the little girl, "Go back and tell your mother that it was the world-famous George Bernard Shaw who was playing with you today." ”
Unexpectedly, the little girl imitated his tone like a little adult and said, "Go back and tell your mother that the beautiful girl Katyusha of the Soviet Union is playing with you today." ”
Katyusha's innocent words surprised George Bernard Shaw and he was immediately ashamed. His own emphasis on "world famous" is nothing more than a kind of arrogance out of vanity, and he feels that he is very remarkable.
This incident made George Bernard Shaw remember it, always reminding himself to let go of vanity.
Shakespeare said, "Frivolous vanity is a full glutton, and after devouring everything, it must end up sacrificing to its own greed." ”
The pursuit of vanity is a cover-up, and eventually plunges people into a bottomless abyss.
People's life should pay more attention to the process of pursuit, not just for the results of pursuit, but ultimately an inner feeling, not anything on the outside.
In the second half of life, we must always keep a clear mind, let go of vanity, be down-to-earth, and pursue the truth.
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In the first half of life, I experienced the vicissitudes of the world, just like a cup of dusty water, the more precipitated the clearer, and many things gradually understood!
In the second half of life, reduce desire, put away your temper, and let go of vanity. Let yourself live simply and transparently, live wonderfully, live out your true disposition.