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It takes a man a year and a half to become a slave to love, and a woman to become a slave to marriage. The ideal wife is a woman who can calmly encourage and comfort a man when he encounters adversity, and this kind of woman is respected and admired.
At noon on March 20, 2018, more than 12,000 peach blossoms in Hunan Changde Vocational and Technical College actually bloomed
When people care about love, it's easy for people to behave inappropriately. Long Mou, a 25-year-old man, fell in love with his 18-year-old girlfriend, and he was completely immersed in their world. When he unthinkingly eloped with his girlfriend for a year and didn't come home until she was nine months pregnant, he discovered that what awaited them was not a blessing.
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According to Long, when he worked in a hotel, he thought that Xiaoqin, who worked with him, was beautiful and took the initiative to contact her. After chatting for a while, they felt that they got along very well and decided on the relationship between male and female friends. Two months later, Xiaoqin suddenly told him that she was afraid that her father was at home and wanted to go out to work with him, and Long agreed without thinking.
Two young people who are fascinated by love quietly run away from home, working in Shanxi to Beijing and Shandong, enjoying a free and sweet life. Nine months after Xiaoqin was pregnant, they felt that they could not afford it, so they had to go home and ask the adults to help solve the problem.
When Long and his father went to his girlfriend's house to propose and discuss the wedding, the girlfriend's father, Master Lin, asked them to have a house and a car, and paid a dowry of 128,000 yuan. Long Mou and his son were very worried after hearing about this.
Years after Long's mother died, his father grew up with two sons and a daughter. So far, no children have been married. I saw that the children were going to get married, but the conditions in the family could not be supported. The request made by the girl's father could not be met.
The two sides disagreed over the issue of the bride price, and Long's father made a suggestion. Because the woman's family has no sons, they are willing to let Long Tao be a son-in-law, but the woman also categorically refuses. Soon after their marriage ran aground, Xiaoqin successfully gave birth to a son.
For men, being a father is a particularly happy thing, but Long Mou is not happy to be a father at all.
Because on the second day of the child's birth, his girlfriend and child were picked up by the woman's parents.
At first, Long would run to see his girlfriend and children. But what he did not expect was that a week later, the woman's father sent the child home and told him not to disturb Xiaoqin's life again.
Since then, the door to his girlfriend's house has been locked. Long Mou can't get in, his girlfriend can't come out, and his mobile phone can't be contacted.
In this way, just after giving birth to the crystallization of love, they were forcibly separated by the courtyard wall of the girlfriend's house.
Long Mou was overwhelmed and handed over the newborn child to his aunt for help.
A month later, Long suddenly received many text messages from his girlfriend. It was then that he learned that his girlfriend's cell phone and ID card had been confiscated by her father. This time, she secretly sent a text message using her father's cell phone.
From these intermittent text messages, we can learn that when the girlfriend came back, she was unhappy and cried every day, but she had to pretend to be happy in front of her family. Because Xiaoqin was closely monitored by his father, she didn't even have a chance to escape.
A few days ago, her father arranged a blind date for her. If Xiaoqin didn't accept it, she would be beaten. Now this man often came to chat with her and also picked up her mother to commute to work, so Xiaoqin didn't know what to do.
She felt that her life was difficult because no one could really understand her inner thoughts.
After communicating via text message, Long realized that his girlfriend was "under house arrest" by her father and was forced to marry another person. He felt anxious and helpless.
In desperation, he invited a mediation expert when the mediation expert followed Long Mou and his father to Xiaoqin's house.
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When the mediation expert followed Long and his father to Xiaoqin's house, he found that their door had just opened. Walking into the courtyard, I saw that Xiao Qin's father was busy. When the mediation expert clarified the intention, the woman's father said that he knew everyone's intentions very well, waving his hand and saying: Don't mention it, it will be angry.
When the girl's father saw that Long was going to the inner room, he angrily stopped Long. Experts suggested that Long wait outside the house. Unexpectedly, Long Mou's words "I came to see my daughter-in-law" made his father angry.
He shouted at Long Mou, "Who is your daughter-in-law?" Then he picked up a wooden stick and drove Long Mou outside the courtyard.
Comforted by the expert's kind words, Master Lin, who finally calmed down, refused to let the mediation team enter the inner room to watch the xiaoqin. He said his daughter had been unwell lately. She was recuperating in the house and had something to say outside.
According to Master Lin, one day a year ago, her 18-year-old daughter Xiaoqin suddenly disappeared. She cut off all contact information with her family, leaving the family worried.
After a year of suffering for the family, their daughter suddenly returned. At this time, they knew that her daughter had been taken away by Long Mou. To their anger, their daughter became a nine-month-pregnant mother.
Later, he and the Long family discussed marriage. He was not willing to marry his daughter at all. Because he felt that Long Mou was unreliable. So he decided to take her home the day after his daughter had just given birth and asked her to cut off contact with Long.
After listening to Master Lin's statement, the mediation team said that it could understand his feelings. Anyway, there was already a child between Long Mou and Xiaoqin. Even if they want to separate, they should be allowed to speak clearly in person. But Master Lin stressed that it was her daughter who did not want to stay with Long.
Under the guidance of Master Lin, everyone saw Xiao Qin in the room through the window, and there was a man sitting next to her. Master Lin explained that the man was her daughter's nearest boyfriend and the object of her future marriage.
Master Lin hoped that Long Mou would not disturb their lives.
When Long learned of his girlfriend's recent situation, he said he didn't believe it. He took out his mobile phone and showed everyone the text message sent by his girlfriend some time ago.
Everyone felt that the current facts did not match the content of the information, but due to Master Lin's efforts to prevent it, they could not see Xiaoqin, nor could they understand the true thoughts of Xiaoqin's heart.
On the one hand, Long's father saw his son's anxiety and couldn't help but call the police. When the mediation team followed the police into Master Lin's house, they found that things were not as bad as Long Mou imagined.
Master Lin took the initiative to explain to everyone that he did not restrict his daughter's movements. His daughter did not go out due to illness. He pointed to the man sitting next to Xiaoqin and told everyone that this was his daughter's blind date.
Maybe it was the appearance of the police. Master Lin's attitude has changed significantly. The mediation team seized the opportunity to communicate with Xiaoqin and learned about Xiaoqin's true thoughts.
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Faced with various questions raised by the mediation team instead of Long, Xiaoqin admitted that this information was indeed sent to Long some time ago. After this period of reflection, she began to realize her own problems and felt that she and Long Mou had run away from home together, which caused great harm to her parents.
Xiaoqin said that she wanted to live a free life with Long Mou outside. She didn't expect things to get to this point. In fact, when she was more than five months pregnant, she began to feel scared. In order not to make his parents sad, he chose to continue to hide outside and did not return home until life forced him.
But in the time after returning, Long Mou's various behaviors made her mutter. In addition, considering that she had done things that made her father angry and sad before, if she and Long continued to be entangled, she could not explain it to her father.
When her father introduced her to a blind date, she did not object.
The meaning expressed by Xiaoqin makes people feel that with her father's company and tireless comfort, she has put down Long Mou in her heart, and it is difficult for Xiaoqin to determine the immature love.
When the mediation team asked Xiaoqin how to treat her infant child, she said she didn't know and couldn't help but cry. Although her father tried to resist, it seemed that her heart could not let go of her child.
Seeing this, Master Lin pulled the mediation team out of the house and said with tears: Long Mou is a single-parent family, and there is no stable residence, and there are two singles in the family.
If my daughter marries, this life would not be a mess.
After listening to Master Lin's words, the mediation team said that they could understand his pain as a father.
Regardless of whether Xiaoqin is married to Long Mou or not, she is the mother of the child and has due responsibility for the child, if this matter is not handled in time, it is bound to affect the development of the next relationship.
Master Lin said angrily: This is an unmarried child, and we can't stand it.
My daughter doesn't have that kind of parenting ability. I'm 60 years old and sick. If they do not agree, they can resolve it through legal process.
The mediation team saw that Master Lin was getting more and more angry. In order to avoid unnecessary conflicts, he walked out of their home and told Long what he had learned.
But Long never believed that his girlfriend would give up on him. He still believed his girlfriend must have been threatened by her father and asked the police to rescue her.
The police also convince Long that Master Lin did not put her daughter under house arrest at all. The village cadre next to him suggested that if he wanted to save his girlfriend, he should have a redemptive performance and attitude.
At this moment, everyone saw Xiaoqin seemingly driving away from their house in the car of the blind date.
Seeing this situation, Long Insisted on going to Xiaoqin's house. He thinks even if they don't have a chance. I also hope to make it clear to my face. Accompanied by the police and the mediation team, the group walked into Master Lin's home for the second time, but was told that Xiaoqin had left.
Regardless of Xiaoqin's choice, her statement just now and her departure now prove that she was not under house arrest by her father or forced by her father to marry someone else. Such a result was obviously unexpected and unbearable for Long Mou.
After everyone's patient enlightenment, Long Mou finally had to accept the facts in front of him in deep sadness and helplessness.
Conclusion
In this relationship, there is nothing wrong with Long Mou's pursuit of Xiaoqin. If he had developed in the normal way of love and come to Master Lin's door early to ask for his consent, perhaps they were now enjoying the fruits of love, but he chose a very confusing way.
When he took his girlfriend away without saying a word, I believe he knew in his heart that he had made a big mistake and it would be difficult to become his girlfriend's family in the future. When he repeatedly chooses to get pregnant unmarried and fails to meet the marriage requirements of the other family, it is no wonder that the girlfriend's father is angry and wants to break up the wrongdoers alive.
When I saw the picture of Master Lin picking up a stick and driving away Long Mou, I could feel his anger on the screen and understand the impact and harm caused by this incident to their families.
But when things happen, Master Lin can also try to forgive Long and give them a chance to manage the marriage. Because two people have gone through a vigorous past, it shows that they have an emotional foundation. In addition, they have a child.
We should trust that they will live well in the future.
If they feel that they can't get along after getting married and starting a family, they should let them deal with the problem of gathering and dispersing on their own. Because they can grow up after the experience and embark on a more stable path in the future.
Thanks for reading! Do you think Master Lin should give the two wrongdoers a chance to run a marriage?
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