Text/Flying Fish
What is true love?
True love is when you meet someone and no longer want someone else. And have affection and righteousness for it, no matter what happens, they will face it together, and they will not abandon it forever.
Between the opposite sex, two people together, from meeting each other to knowing each other, to staying together, hand in hand into love, and even into marriage, are firm in their choices, no regrets at any time.
When two people are together, how can they feel whether the other person is true love for themselves?
Love is easy, true love actually needs to be tested, but also to withstand the test.
Between the opposite sex, with these three feelings, it is true love.
First, do not blame in case of trouble, tolerance is true love.
Two people who really love each other, can withstand the chicken feathers of life, even if a lot of things happen in life, they will not blame each other without moving.
Some people in love, when they encounter a little unhappiness, they throw tantrums at each other, and some people will only push things on each other's heads and feel that it is not right.
Do not blame in case of trouble, in order to better maintain feelings, the other party to give you this feeling, is also true love.
Because of true love, we have learned to tolerate, learn to be patient, laugh at things, will not be preoccupied, and treat each other gently.
In fact, there are many ways to deal with problems, tantrums are one, forbearance is a kind, ignoring is another kind, ignoring and tantrums, in fact, will freeze our feelings, but also obviously not deep enough love for each other.
True love for a person, is a kind of restraint, even if you want to be angry, you will suppress it, because the other party is true love, love is better than some, hate can not hate, angry can not get angry, to the other party, can not be angry, will suppress the temper, such a person, for you is the real love.
Between the opposite sex, in fact, there is equality, whether it is a husband and wife, or a couple, meeting is a rare fate.
If you want to get the other party's sincerity, you must first pay your own sincerity, know how to tolerate each other, do not blame each other when things happen, do not always hit each other, cherish the people around us, and be each other's armor, rather than bayonets to hurt each other.
Second, have a sense of boundaries, respect differences, and accept defects.
True love for a person, not to change each other in the way you like, but to know how to leave room for everything and grasp the boundaries of getting along, because the people who are kissed again, the two people who have a good relationship, must have a sense of boundaries.
When two people get along together, the other person can give you a sense of boundaries, respect the differences between you, accept your shortcomings, respect your personality, then they must be true love for you.
Remembering Mr. Yang Dai's relationship with her husband Qian Zhongshu, these two literary masters showed the most authentic side of life.
After Mr. Yang Dai married Qian Zhongshu, in fact, most of them were Yang Dai taking care of Qian Zhongshu, because Qian Zhongshu would be more clumsy in life, often doing wrong things, and even not doing housework, and lacking self-care ability.
And Mr. Yang Dai appreciates qian Zhongshu's talent, will tolerate his clumsiness, in life, Qian Zhongshu spilled ink on the ground, stained the tablecloth, or broke the lamp, did not know how to repair, and Yang Dai is sitting in confinement, it is the most fragile mood, and did not complain about Qian Zhongshu, but calmly said to him, "It doesn't matter, I will go back and get it again." ”
Mr. Yang Dai knows that Qian Zhongshu is very talented in the literary world, but he also knows that he is a very clumsy person in life, clumsy enough not to know how to cook, it will only give people "chaos", know that this is his shortcoming, but never complain about him, but respect him, accept him, maintain a sense of boundaries, and do not drastically reform her husband.
A sentence of "it doesn't matter" reflects Yang Chen's understanding and gentleness toward Qian Zhongshu, and is just the right pinch for her lover.
Yang Dai once said that the greatest merit of my life is to keep Qian Zhongshu's naughtiness and that cloud of infatuation, so that Qian Zhongshu's nature has not been oppressed or damaged.
Therefore, Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu have been kind and loving all their lives, supporting each other, facing the wind and rain together, family harmony, and happy life, all because both sides know how to respect each other, maintain a sense of boundary, will not try to change each other, and will not point fingers at each other's choices, so they will not have contradictions because of disagreements.
Truly loving someone is not to change the other person, but to respect the other party, not to cross the line, to leave room, to have such a feeling, is true love.
Third, true love for a person, began to have a weak rib.
Truly loving someone, giving you the feeling that what you think of him will also think, even more than you think, he also knows what you read, will give you peace of mind.
Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said: "If one person really loves another person, there will be many worries in the heart." Afraid that the other party is hungry, afraid of the other party's cold, afraid that the other party is unhappy, worried that she will be in trouble. In his heart, he only wants the other party to be good, so his heart will always think of her. ”
After truly loving a person, it is like having a weak rib, afraid of losing each other, starting to worry about each other, caring about each other, putting each other's things in mind, caring about whether the other party is happy or not, and paying attention to the changes in each other's emotions.
Two people together, whether it is a big thing or a small thing, the other party gives you the feeling, without you opening your mouth, he will take the initiative to do a good job, and make you very satisfied, in fact, he is taking your things as his business, thinking about what you think, anxious about what you are anxious, thinking about you everywhere.
If you are not happy, he will be unhappy, and if you are happy, he will be happy.
Love is uncontrollably thinking about that person, with joy in it.
True love for a person, is will miss, will be worried, will become sentimental, want to give the best love to each other.
True love for someone, even if it has not been declared, will run out of the eyes. When two people who love each other are together, only each other is left in the eyes, and they cannot be put into others, because he hides all his love in his eyes.
Therefore, in this vast human world, it is a great fortune to be able to get a heart, to treat you with a hot love, and to give you a sincere heart.
-END-