In the 2019 hit TV series "Young Pi", a conversation between Lin Dawei, played by Zhang Jiayi, and his daughter is still fresh in my memory:
Lin Miaomiao is deeply involved in the network live broadcast, the original agile and cheerful girl, the first to last grade, the eyes are hollow, become lifeless, living in their own world, the eyes are only the fans in the live broadcast.
In the face of Lin Miaomiao's live broadcast incident, Lin Dawei did not stop it violently, but whispered softly, by telling his daughter ancient Chinese stories, telling poetry, and telling the truth of life, getting her daughter's admiration, making people feel like a spring breeze.
01 Reading is always the most precious pearl of ordinary people
Sanmao said: "Read more, the appearance naturally changes, many times, I may think that many of the books I have read have become a smoke cloud, no longer remember, in fact, they are still in the potential temperament, in the conversation, in the mind of the endless, of course, may also be revealed in life and words." ”
Mr. Yang Dai said: "When I was young, I thought that not reading books was not enough to understand life, and only later did I find that if I did not understand life, I could not read books. The meaning of reading is probably to use the feelings of life to read, and to use the income from reading to live!
Dong Qing, the most beautiful host, said: "I always believe that the book I have read will not be read in vain, and it will always help me perform better on some occasion in the future." ”
Wu Yishu, who shined and successfully won the title at the "Chinese Poetry Conference" in 2017, was generous and stunning at the poetry conference. This year, she was only 16 years old.
The most brilliant is the "Flying Flower Order" link, the theme of the current period of the Flying Flower Order is "moon", and she and her partner chant poems with the word "moon". When she gently opened her lips and moaned out, "July is in the wild, August is in the universe, September is in the household, october crickets enter my bed", it shocked countless people in the world. People say, "She fulfills all the fantasies of ancient talented women." Since then, she has been known as the "National Talented Woman". In this year's college entrance examination, she scored 613 points (660 points in the Shanghai college entrance examination) and was admitted to The Xinya College of Tsinghua University.
02 Reading, how should I read it?
According to the results of the eighteenth national reading survey, the per capita reading volume of paper books and 3.29 e-books per capita among adults in China is 4.7. The per capita reading of books for minors is 10.71. Both have improved compared to last year.
So quietly ask: Are you and your children dragging your feet?
I once asked such a question, how long can you finish a book? According to the answers of netizens, the average reading time is 1 month. At the same time, the following three kinds of modern people's reading status have also been found:
The actual time to finish a book is often more than the planned time
Often read the back and forget the previous content
After reading the whole book, I will not be able to form a clear mind map to apply what I have learned.
Therefore, we can clearly see that the people's awareness of reading is now improving year by year. But the new problem is that how to read books effectively and correctly has become the most important problem to be solved at present.
03 Three steps, take your child and start reading together
Step 1: Establish a reward mechanism
Why do we all like to lie flat and brush our phones? Because the pleasure of brushing the phone stimulates the secretion of dopamine in our brain, which prompts us to continue this action.
In the same way, we can also create dopamine autonomously on the matter of "reading", such as rewarding ourselves with a good meal if we finish a book in the plan; rewarding ourselves with a beautiful dress if we finish ten books.
The same approach applies to developing children's interest in reading. At first, the use of foreign objects to stimulate the secretion of this dopamine, after a long time to persevere, when the child tastes the sweetness of reading poetry books, his own initiative will slowly strengthen, until finally does not need the reward of foreign objects, because he has developed the habit of reading.
Step 2: Cultivate correct value judgments
Life in modern society is fast-paced, and we have limited time and energy. So we have to carefully choose every book we want to read.
There are a lot of video numbers and bloggers who will recommend books to everyone, but considering that these channels have a certain commercial orientation. Therefore, it is recommended that you first go to Douban to check the rating and review of the book. Douban is a relatively objective and fair feedback platform, which is full of real reading feelings from various readers.
Step 3: Make effective use of new reading tools
Although paper books are never replaceable, for the sake of reading efficiency, it is recommended that you try to use e-books more. For example, APP WeChat reading, library, Himalayas, etc., there are many book resources. You can also pay attention to some public accounts, use fragmented time to read popular reviews, absorb multiple views, and cultivate your cognitive ability.
Since I have to spend the evening with my children, I don't have a lot of time to read in the whole block. So I chose the public account [Ten O'Clock Reading], about ten minutes to listen to an article. When you coax your child to sleep at night, you will listen to [WeChat Reading]. In this way, I did not leave every top article of the ten-point reading book, and I also listened to 6 e-books.
Why do people become more aware of the importance of reading in middle age? I think, probably for the sake of, even if you end up falling into the cumbersome, washing away the lead, the same work, but there is a different state of mind, the same family, but there is a different mood, the same offspring, but there is a different quality.