Text: Good luck with the warehouse
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In the 9 years I have worked in the city, I have attended two funerals, which are simple and concise, and feel very refreshing. As a post-90s generation, I have always held an unrecognizable attitude towards the bad habit of "kneeling in the countryside", and I think that sooner or later such red tape will be artificially abolished.
This time, because of the problem of hukou, I took a leave of absence to return to the countryside of my hometown, and the next day at home, my father's cousin died, and according to our blood relationship, it was necessary to go to the "kneeling shed".
In the countryside, the so-called "kneeling shed" is to set up a spiritual shed at the door of the deceased's hall house, and the son, daughter and daughter-in-law of the uncle are guarded on both sides of the coffin. And I and some other relatively close juniors have to kneel in the spiritual shed, commonly known as the "kneeling shed" in their hometown. My father told me that during the days of my uncle's funeral, as long as any relative came to mourn, those of us who knelt in the shed would prostrate ourselves and thank each other to show respect for the deceased and the mourners.
Anyone who grew up in the countryside knows that kneeling in a shed is a particularly hard thing to do. Like the relatively large rural families, relatives and friends are relatively many, after the village "delivers letters", the people who come to mourn one after another, those who kneel in the shed will not stop prostrating, and will also cry a few times. But in the past, no matter how hard it was, everyone would seriously fulfill this responsibility.
After the death of my cousin, the chief executive in charge of the funeral arranged eight kneeling shed people, but in the process of real operation, none of them knelt down, and everyone sat there, unless there was a mourner coming, they would squat there. More often, everyone was talking about national affairs, talking about each other's work in the field, without a trace of sadness. When no one was mourning, everyone dispersed, either playing cards or watching videos on the Internet.
Somehow, seeing the scene in front of me, I suddenly felt a trace of sadness in my heart.
In the evening, I told my father about this situation, and he did not think so, and my father said that in recent years, there have been fewer and fewer people participating in funerals in the countryside, and most of the people kneeling in the shed are so careless. As for what caused this, my father threw me a word - the inevitability of social development!
People die big, and the "kneeling shed" is the remembrance and respect for the deceased. The more people kneeling in the shed, the more prosperous the family is. Nowadays, nowadays, because the descendants and the descendants of the near door are making a living in various places, many people who have traveled farther cannot rush home to "kneel". Even when some people are involved in the kneeling shed, they become more and more casual and careless.
Now, the countryside is more and more hollow, many young and middle-aged people who go out to make a living, one by one, choose to settle in the city, most of the people who stay at home are over 70 years old, with their deaths one by one, the rural "kneeling shed" custom, after all, one day, will slowly fade out of everyone's sight.