In the face of adversity, we must deal with it calmly, life is not smooth, and the road is not smooth, so we must summon up bravery and strength to face it.
When the career is at a low ebb or in adversity, we must use "bending" often to receive unexpected results. On the contrary, if you are unyielding when you should bend, you will inevitably be hit hard, and even your life will be lost, so what capital will burn the spark?
Gou Jian had been paid to taste courage, Han Xin had been humiliated by his crotch, and Sima Qian had also been humiliated by palace punishment...
Throughout history, how many figures like Gou Jian, Han Shu, and Sima Qian, in order to achieve their own careers and realize their ideals, did not stretch their muscles when necessary, but preserved their own strength, and when the time came, they made a comeback.
In short, history has proved that being good at using the art of flexion and extension, the flexion of the flexion, the extension of the extension, is an important factor in becoming a strong person. After all, life is not smooth sailing.
People often put tolerance with words such as failure, abandonment, and avoidance, and it seems that tolerance always carries some pejorative and negative colors. In fact, forbearance is the magic weapon of the flexible.
Forgiving contains many layers of meaning, and we can see it as the cessation of the current discourse, the process of gathering energy, and the possibility of rapid growth in the cessation.
Forbearance is not about retreating, on the contrary, forbearance is about accumulating enough strength to attack better in the future.
Cao Cao was not lacking in heroism, but he also had times to make concessions. After ying Han Xian emperor fixed the capital Xuchang, everything was not auspicious, and he could not "blackmail the son of heaven to order the waiting", on the contrary, Cao Cao became the target of everyone for a while. At this time, Cao Cao's strength was not strong, and he was still in a weak position compared with Yuan Shao and others. Therefore, Cao Cao took a post-attack method and defeated Yuan Shao.
After Cao Cao gained power, Yuan Shao put on the posture of an ally and demanded that Cao Cao move Emperor Xian of Han to Juancheng on the grounds that Xuchang was low humid and Luoyang was in ruins, because Juancheng was relatively close to the Yizhou where Yuan Shao was based, which was convenient for controlling Emperor Xian of Han, but Cao Cao did not budge on major issues, categorically refused Yuan Shao's request, and wrote a letter in the name of Emperor Xian of Han to rebuke Yuan Shao, saying: "You have a large number of soldiers, and you have specially cultivated your own forces, and I have not seen you serving as a king, but only seeing you and others changing their ways." Yuan Shao had no choice but to go to the book to dissect the confession.
Cao Cao saw that Yuan Shao did not dare to openly resist the imperial court, so he appointed Yuan Shao as a taiwei in the name of Emperor Xian of Han and made him the Marquis of Yi, who was one of the "three dukes" but was under the general Cao Cao.
Yuan Shao, seeing that his position was inferior to that of Cao Cao, was very dissatisfied and refused to accept the appointment.
Cao Cao knew that his strength at this time was inferior to Yuan Shao's, and he did not want to fall out with Yuan Shao at this time, so he decided to make temporary concessions, so he gave up the title of general to Yuan Shao. He served as Sikong himself, acting as a che riding general, in order to ease the contradiction with Yuan Shao. Since Yuan Shao was not in Xuchang, Cao Cao remained on his own.
At the same time, Cao Cao arranged and promoted a number of officials to enhance his own strength and firmly control the army.
Cao Cao behaved very humbly. Therefore, Yang Feng recommended Cao Cao as the general of Zhendong and attacked his father the Marquis of Feiting. Cao Cao connected the "Shangshu Rangfeng", "Shangshu Let Funinghou", and "Xie Raid Futing Marquis Table", indicating that he "had merit and did not live". Cao Cao was well aware that he was still a weak person, so he tried to meet Yuan Shao's requirements as much as possible, and showed humility to Chao Yan's gifts. After the feathers were full, Guandu fought a battle, and Cao Cao completely defeated Yuan Shao.
When Cao Cao was weak, he retreated first, in order to break the situation, accumulate strength for himself, and wait for the opportunity. He is also very good at grasping the fire of advance and retreat, choosing the right time to advance and retreat, raising himself to a higher level and attacking strongly.
Therefore, in the face of the cruel blows of reality, ordinary us should be more strong to face, when we are in a weak position, we must endure to endure, should retreat, preserve strength, not reluctant, not blunt, strong to face. That way we can become a really strong person. In order to live the happy life we want.