The secular world believes that being able to control the outside world and dominate others is the only one that is powerful, so it advocates a power game, and the control and control between people and people becomes a psychological contest of interpersonal relationships.
The Taoist thinking of Lao Tzu and Zhuangzi, however, is the opposite: the truly powerful person does not expand outward, but stops self-consumption.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-center-line" >1, quiet down, calm down the conflict of thoughts and emotions, in order to stop self-consumption. </h1>
Whether it is Confucianism, Taoism or Buddhism, there is a consensus in traditional Chinese culture, that is, "jing".
Whether it's meditating, standing on a stake, chanting a sutra, or practicing Tai Chi Kung Fu, it's about quieting yourself down and establishing a connection to the nature of the universe.
After adulthood, the ups and downs of thoughts, the joys and sorrows of emotions, every moment, are consuming their own energy, so the adult world, always feel not easy. Because I live too heavily, think too much, and my desire is difficult to stop.
Zhuang Zi said: "If it is easy and idyllic, then sorrow cannot enter, and evil qi cannot attack, so its virtue is complete and God does not lose." ”
A person often remains easy and idyllic, so that the thoughts of distress do not enter the heart, and the evil qi cannot invade the human body, so he is full of morality and full of spirit, full of energy, and full of energy.
The key to all this is 4 words: easy and idyllic.
It can be understood as: balanced, simple, idyllic, indifferent.
I myself practiced in ordinary life and found it not easy to stick to. However, as long as you go through introspection, self-discovery, and self-suggestion, you can always pull your thoughts astray and return to the right path.
The Taoist Lü Chunyang said, "True things must always be responded to, and things should not be lost." ”
This sentence works. Sometimes I feel that my body and mind are heavy, and that is because I have entered the world too deeply, I have taken material things too seriously, and I have taken certain things too seriously, thus consuming my own energy.
When I return my consciousness to myself, keeping a "normal mind, simple, quiet, indifferent", and can be quiet again, I feel relaxed and happy.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-center-line" >2, the strength of people, embodied in concentration, not shaken by the interference of the outside world and others. </h1>
In life, everyone has such an experience and is easily disturbed by the people around them. When this interference is negative energy, your mood is easily affected.
Psychologists say that people need to use 2 times more positive energy to offset 1 times the negative energy.
Therefore, we must exercise our concentration and not let the outside world interfere with us.
I felt it particularly deeply. In self-media writing, every day, you will face negative interference from different people. Anyone can come and sneer at you. This is the negative energy of the network.
At first, it was very uncomfortable.
As the years passed, my concentration became stronger and stronger, and I slowly became very accustomed to it. People can't change others, but they can control themselves.
"Zhuangzi" said: "The world is not prestigious, there is no benefit or damage, it is a person of all virtues!" ”
Neither right nor wrong nor honor at the end of the day can affect a person, and if there is no gain or loss, it is a person of all virtues.
He is not wise that is not wise for himself.
What kind of person you are, you know yourself, you will not be smarter because others praise you; you will not be inferior because others criticize you.
Feeling good about yourself, feeling bad about yourself, it's all just feelings, not facts.
Truly powerful people do not blindly believe in themselves, nor do they deny themselves, they do not follow their emotions and feelings, but they have the same concentration as if they were not moving.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-center-line" >3, those who can overcome others can win for a while; only those who overcome themselves can win a lifetime. </h1>
Lao Tzu of the Tao Te Ching said, "The victor is strong, and the victor is strong." ”
You can overcome others, only means that you are powerful, and you can overcome yourself, is really strong.
In a person's life, the biggest enemy is never others, but oneself. Those who overcome themselves may be temporarily defeated by reality, but they will never be defeated, because if he overcomes his mental obstacles, there will be no failure to speak of, and failure is not a foregone conclusion, but a practice before success.
Tell a historical case of the Chu-Han dispute:
The choice of history is always the most appropriate. Even though many people regret Xiang Yu, the overlord of Western Chu, Xiang Yu is "the strongest one who wins", he is a victorious general, only one big defeat, he killed himself by the river, he is destined not to be a strong man, so he cannot be a king.
Liu Bang is "strong in self-victory", he has suffered many defeats, and several times he has almost lost his life and fled into the wilderness. He is not a general who always wins, but he is a "general who has repeatedly lost and fought" and finally won the world.
Those who can overcome others can win for a while; only those who overcome themselves can win a lifetime.
The above is the Taoist tip of Lao Tzu and Zhuangzi, in a simple sentence: the truly powerful person is not to expand outward, but to stop self-consumption.
It is worth our careful tasting, reference and practice.