Helen Fisher, "Why We Got Married and Why We Were Unfaithful", Reading Notes

A highly academic, biological and historical social science book on marriage and gender. It helps to understand the development of human feelings and marriage and the characteristics of different periods, there is no eye-catching "shocking" content, some are scientific and true narratives, after reading, you can look at feelings and marriage more peacefully and objectively.

From ancient times to modern society, we look back at history and look to the future.

Why we are married and why we are unfaithful is a question worth pondering.

This book explores the social phenomenon of gender relations, from marriage, divorce, and infidelity, to the history of biological development and the history of human evolution.

From the perspective of biological evolution, it explores gender relations, the institution of marriage, love, and rights.

We marry because of the continuous progress and development of living beings, the need for emotion and division of labor, and thus continue this contract.

The book accurately analyzes the evolution of human love behavior, examines the cases of marriage and divorce in 58 societies, and the causes of infidelity in 42 cultures: how do we court, how we choose partners, how do we marry; why do some people cheat, why some people divorce; why do we need a huge group of relatives and friends to help with children? Why are the minds of men and women so different? What will the future of marriage and love look like?

Biological nature and distant genetic memory, reproductive strategies and natural impulses are the basic principles that this book uses to explain human love and infidelity.

For marriage, this is a long history of development, can be cheated, there are external factors and internal factors.

The citations in this book are very rich, from the quotations of various humanities such as poetry and drama to pave the way for the natural sciences, which makes people feel a sense of substitution. The narrative process is also hierarchical, from question to conclusion, past to future. Each chapter is well organized. Let the reader have a more understanding of love, sex, and marriage. After reading a book, we will eventually forget. But what does it matter, just like our human evolution, that imprint is always engraved in our flesh and bones. We will perish, but the imprint will not. Just like this beautiful love is always fascinating. "Marriage is a choice, but love is not."

Márquez wrote that no matter how obsessed with crazy love, it is ultimately a passing cloud. All love fades. And the marriage system locks two people together for decades, and disgust and infidelity are normal, and if they occur for a long time, they are all genetic mutations, rebelling against the nature and instincts of animals.

An anthropological popular reading based on evolutionary psychology theory. There is nothing new under the sun, whether married or unfaithful, there are biological, economic, social, and ethical reasons. In the face of an uncertain future, don't panic, love what you love, do what you do, listen to your heart, and ask no questions.

Read a book, taste a cup of tea, lean on the railing quietly overlooking, in the bright moon like water frost day, salvage the hurried passing of the Chinese year. Prosperity, tranquility are life.

Read more books to seek more understanding, let the road of life go wider and wider, and let the development of the self get better and better. Life is impermanent and full of expectations.

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