In life, some people are on the way, while others are always standing still.
In fact, what really opens up the gap between people is the way of thinking.
There is a saying in Zhihu: "What seems to be poor is the way of thinking, but in fact it is a whole life." ”
Learn these 4 ways of thinking and your life will get smoother and smoother.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="16" > mutually beneficial thinking</h1>
"Youlan Cao" wrote: "Cooperation is like an orchid, promoting its fragrance, collecting and admiring it, and achieving a win-win situation." ”
Get along with people, if you can help each other and complete each other, in order to achieve win-win achievements together.
There is a story in history:
When Li Hongzhang's Huai Army was first formed, the strength of the troops was weak, and Zeng Guofan arranged for the elite of the Xiang Army that he had personally trained.
With the support of Zeng Guofan, the Huaijun group developed on this basis became the strongest backing for Li Hongzhang's future development.
When Li Hongzhang's Huai army gained a firm foothold, Zeng Guofan recommended him as the governor of Jiangsu, and it can be said that Li Hongzhang's life's work was inseparable from Zeng Guofan's promotion.
Li Hongzhang was also sincere to Zeng Guofan, and when attacking the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom, the Zeng brothers led the Xiang army to a long time, and the imperial court always ordered Zeng Li Hongzhang to send troops.
But Li Hongzhang did not want to rob the teacher of the credit, so he delayed it again and again.
In the end, Zeng Guofan's younger brother, Zeng Guoquan, occupied Tianjing and made a military achievement.
Afterwards, Zeng Guofan sighed: "My brother's face and merits all depend on Li Hongzhang to complete." ”
As the saying goes: "It is difficult to become a forest alone, and it is difficult for one person to be a crowd." ”
The really strong know how to help each other.
Today, you build bridges for others; on another day, others will hold umbrellas for you.
As people often say, "Crossing is already an ability, and crossing people is a pattern." ”
The help and kindness you give to others will one day come back to you.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="130" > leverage thinking</h1>
In the "Saying Garden, Jianben", it is said: "Fish ride on water, birds ride on the wind, and grass and trees ride on time." ”
This means that fish can swim only by the power of water, birds can fly by the power of the wind, and grass and trees can grow through the change of seasons.
Many times, learning to borrow power can achieve the effect of doing more with less.
Sun Wukong in "Journey to the West" is very good at taking advantage of the situation. On the way to the Western Heavens to learn the scriptures, the four masters and apprentices often encountered various demons and ghosts, and after experiencing a full ninety-nine eighty-one difficulties, Sun Wukong knew that he could not reach a distant destination by relying on his own strength alone.
When he encounters some demons that are difficult for him to deal with, he chooses to turn to Guanyin, Rulai and the Jade Emperor to help him exorcise the demons.
At the end of the Han Dynasty, Liu Bei heard that "those who have won the dragon will win the world", so he disregarded his honorable status and condescended three times to invite Zhuge Liang out of the mountain, which touched Zhuge Liang, and finally, Liu Bei relied on Zhuge Liang's wisdom to obtain a piece of the Shu kingdom.
In "Water Margin", Song Jiang is neither the strongest in martial arts nor the best in strategy.
However, he understood that with the help of li kui and Lu Junyi's martial talents, he had won the position of the leader of Liangshan, and he also knew how to use the wisdom of Wu Yong to make suggestions for his own recruitment.
Wise people understand that if you want to succeed, you must learn to borrow power.
Borrowing the ability of high people to help themselves, not only took many detours, but also accelerated their success.
There is a saying on the Internet: "Small success depends on individuals, and big success depends on taking advantage of the situation." ”
Knowing how to use the strengths of others to make up for their own shortcomings is a truly powerful person.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="131" > flexible thinking</h1>
The "Biography of Song Shi Zhao Pulie" has a saying: "Things are not stagnant, and the reason is expensive and flexible." ”
When things are flexible, we can have one more choice.
Shen Wansan, the richest man in Jiangnan, once followed the caravan to buy tea, because of the lack of funds, his supply was always robbed by others.
Watching everyone around him make money, but his pockets empty, made him frown. After some deliberation, a brilliant plan came to his mind.
Instead of buying tea, he bought all the baskets in a nearby town. Because the caravan received the tea leaves, it needed to be transported away with baskets, and only Shen Wansan had baskets in his hands, and the caravan had no choice but to buy baskets in Shen Wansan's hands at a high price, and this wonderful plan made Shen Wansan earn a lot of money.
Shen Wansan gained huge benefits through a change of thinking.
The same thing, from another angle, can turn a crisis into a turning point.
There is a saying: "A small step to change your thinking is a big step to gain." ”
There is no immutable method in the world, and if you learn to think flexibly, you will take many fewer detours.
Let the mind turn a little more, and you will find a broader world.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="132" > empty cup thinking</h1>
There is an old saying that goes like this: "Only by spitting out the old can we accept the new, only by giving up can we have it, can we fill the empty cup, and only by letting go can we transcend." ”
In life, dare to empty yourself, let go of the past, and empty the cup at any time in order to create new opportunities for yourself.
I read a story online:
A scholar asked a Zen master for advice, and he kept complaining and nagging, and the Zen master listened quietly, did not interrupt him, and treated him with tea.
When the Zen master poured tea for the scholar, the tea slowly rose, and he saw that the water was about to overflow the cup, but the Zen master did not have the slightest intention of stopping adding water. The scholar hurried to stop the Zen master and said, "The cup is full, and no more water can be added." ”
The Zen master said in a serious tone, "You are very similar to this cup, your heart is full of all kinds of prejudices and opinions, you have to pour these out, keep your heart empty, I can save you." ”
Only by letting go of what one thinks and letting one's heart return to zero can one listen to the teachings of the wise.
"One Hundred Years of Solitude" wrote: "Life is like tea, empty cups are right, there is endless good tea, endless joy and emotion." ”
The aroma of the empty cup comes, the heart is empty, the "distractions" in the heart are empty every day, and the heart has more than one sea, in order to accept new things.
Learn to empty yourself and empty your heart in time to live every day happily.