There is a question on Zhihu: "What should life be like?" ”
A high praise answered, analyzed 75 years of research at Harvard University, and finally came to the conclusion that there can be no standard answer to this question, and if there is, life is meaningless.
People live to explore different paths and experience different experiences.
As it is said in the "Zishan Fish Recipe": "Although it is not a bad thing to live as a crane that is constantly ascending upwards, even if the mud is dirty and dirty, it also chooses to live like Zishan, and it looks dark but vibrant and free, and it is not a meaningful thing!" ”
There are thousands of paths in life, and how to choose all depends on personal choices.
Living well, eating slowly, and loving deeply is a good choice.
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Living well is a necessity of life
Nietzsche said, "Every day that does not dance is a disgrace to life." ”
Life is only once, how precious.
If you don't live well, won't you waste the beautiful years given by God?
In the movie "Spiritual Journey", a middle-aged jazz musician who works part-time as a teacher, with mediocre qualifications and struggles for many years, finally waits for the opportunity to perform with a famous jazz musician.
Unfortunately, he died on the eve of the performance.
So, full of reluctance, he smuggled back into the world and found the meaning of life again.
He thought that when he went back, he still thought of the performance of his heart, but later he found that the small details of life made him happy: fragrant pizzas, friends in the community, support from his mother, information from students...
These small things that I usually don't have time to pay attention to are the most touching plots in my life.
Later, he successfully realized his dream and the performance was flawless, but he said: "I have waited for this day all my life, and I thought I would be different." However, I found that it was no different from the past. ”
At this time, he understood that the most beautiful time in life is the daily bits and pieces.
The show is just one part of a myriad of bits and pieces.
Living well is the necessity of life.
Think about it, which life around you is not living well?
The flowers strive to open to the sun, the grass desperately protrudes from the soil, and the willow dances softly in the breeze, all of which are feeling the beauty of life.
I have seen a passage like this: "Life itself has no meaning, it just allows us to perceive the beauty of the world once, and this perception itself is meaning." ”
To live well is to perceive the beauty of life and let the short life leave no regrets.
Experiencing what should be experienced, missing what should be missed, whether it is pain and sorrow, or happy relief, is an extraordinary experience.
When you finish your life and look back on the past, you will say, I have come to this world and left no regrets, which is enough.
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Eating well will make people feel a sense of belonging
Confucius said in the Book of Rites: "Men and women who eat and drink, the great desire of man is to survive." ”
Since ancient times, eating has been the biggest thing in life.
Every year during the Spring Festival, delicious dishes are all put on the table, and the family sits together with Hemeimei and has a good meal, and the meaning of home is highlighted to the greatest extent.
At this time, worries and sorrows, depression and entanglement will be left behind, and the taste of food is enough to heal the fatigue of the body and mind.
But the fast-paced life makes eating well almost become a luxury.
There is a truck driver on TikTok named Haihai.
More than 300 days a year, the life of the sea is simple and rough, and eating has become a coping.
As the days passed, the desolation of perennial drifting became more and more intense in the heart of the sea.
In 2017, the sea decided to change, he brought cutlery and turned the car into a mobile kitchen.
A few pots, a pair of scissors, the tools are simple, but the life of the sea is exquisite, delicious buns, steaming tomatoes to pour rice, pizza with rich ingredients...
"Originally it was just to solve the problem of food and clothing, but now it has become fun," said the sea. I just want to live my life well and enjoy my ordinary life. ”
Eating well will make people feel more belonging.
Running and tiring life, with delicious companionship, it is no longer so lonely and difficult, and the car is no longer a tool for moving, it has become a warm home.
In "Late Night Canteen", it is said: "Food is energy, it is healing, it is precious." ”
In the process of making and enjoying food with heart, the heart will become calm and steady, and life will become rich.
When you feel the deliciousness of food with your taste buds, happiness will arise spontaneously.
Stop, calm down, enjoy and savor, and you will find that no matter how much triviality and annoyance, compared with these ingredients from nature, it is just a passing cloud.
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Life is at its best,
Not a gain, but a repayment
There is a saying in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": "All the splendor in life must be repaid with loneliness." ”
The highlight moments in everyone's life are exchanged for countless lonely days.
It's either blood, it's sweat, or it's a lot of youth.
In 1985, 19-year-old Yin Yuzhen took a wooden cabinet and several pieces of clothing from Jingbian, Shaanxi Province, and married her from Jingbian, Shaanxi Province, to The Sandy Land of Maowusu in Ordos, Inner Mongolia.
Her marriage room is a kiln, the pot where she eats is full of sand, there is no electricity and no road, there is not even a figure around, only a vast sea of sand.
Yin Yuzhen looked at the destitute home, tears could not stop flowing, wanting to live a good life, first of all, to repay the debt owed to God.
Wiping away her tears, she began to plant small saplings in the sand.
Even if only 10 of the 600 small saplings survived, even if 5,000 willow trees were uprooted by the sandstorm, she did not waver in the slightest.
In the past 17 years, Yin Yuzhu has planted 70,000 acres of oases in the vast desert and built a Yuzhen Desert Ecological Garden, planting fresh fruits that can be eaten for half a year.
Nowadays, Yin Yuzhen has finally lived a good life that everyone envies, but how many people can understand the hardships and sufferings of the past?
Life will not take care of you because of your frustration, nor will it favor you because of your misfortune.
Zeng Guofan once said: "Don't ask about harvest, but ask about cultivation." ”
The best life is not a gain, but a repayment.
If you are too calculating about gains and losses, you can't devote yourself wholeheartedly, and the nature of harvest is limited;
When you don't ask for anything in return and work hard, the life you look forward to will come unexpectedly.
The best life cannot be created without diligent hands.
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Live well, eat slowly, and love deeply.
Historian Mr. Xu Qiuyun talked about his view of history in the "Thirteen Invitations": "The smallest individual, slightly longer than the individual is politics, slightly longer than politics is economic, longer than economic is social, the longest period is culture, longer is nature." ”
Deeply.
At the beginning of the new year of 2020, the new crown epidemic swept the world, countless people were knocked down in an instant, and in the face of the virus, life was vulnerable.
A few days ago, floods raged in Henan, flooding large areas of farmland, destroying rows of houses, and losing their warm homes overnight.
The universe is so big that people are in it, but an ant and a fine grass.
How to make life more meaningful? How should individuals survive?
Zhang Dai of the Ming Dynasty was born into a noble family, and from an early age, he lived a carefree life.
The Lan Xue tea that "takes the white of the concubine and tends to be plain porcelain" and the cheese that "blows the air to win the orchid and enters the heart" are the cheeses he carefully developed.
What he likes, Zhang Dai can play to the extreme: cockfighting, playing football, singing... All are proficient.
However, he had no interest in taking the exam name, and even the answer format could be written incorrectly, and he had only won the show talent in his life.
At the age of 36, the family fell in the middle of the road, and the once freshly dressed and angry horse became a cloth man, and he was afraid and uneasy all the time. It was not that he had not struggled in a desperate situation, but after realizing his own smallness and the vastness of his life, he was relieved.
Since then, he has picked dung to grow vegetables, raised fish and silkworms, and is as willing as a glutton.
Even if people reach middle age, Zhang Dai still does not change his romantic nature, seeing the first day of heavy snow, which pipe cold wind whizzes, cloaked straight to the West Lake, shake the light boat and paddle towards the lake pavilion.
No matter how the world changes, Zhang Dai still chooses a pure life.
The days of poverty also made him rich and frank.
Perhaps in the eyes of others, this is not a success in the secular sense, but as a life, Zhang Dai has gained the ultimate freedom.
All his life he has used his eyes, ears, heart, taste, and touch to perceive the beauty of the world.
The recognition of life allowed him to transcend the limitations of physical life and realize the release of his own nature.
Zhang Dai's life fully confirms a truth: no answer can save life, and the highest form of survival is: live well, eat slowly, and love deeply.
Only in personal practice, observation, and understanding can a person continue to know and understand the world.
The famous writer Jia Pingwo said in "Free and Alone": "Since people come to the world like ants, suddenly born and died, suddenly gathered and scattered, in just a few decades, they should be at ease, they should be dashing, and each of them should complete their own life, which is the whole meaning of survival." ”
In this life, people have different destinies and different circumstances, whether they are free and free, or have a bad fate, they must go through their own lives.
What tomorrow will look like is really hard to predict.
Many times, whether you are extraordinary or ordinary, there are very limited things you can grasp.
That being the case, it is better to cherish what you have and live in the present.
No matter where you are, your heart is warm.
It should be at ease, it should be dashing, and it is time to live every day as the last day of life.
In this way, we can live up to life and years.