If the word "male girlfriend" comes out of the mouth of the lover, I believe that many male friends will be frightened, uncomfortable and do not know how to say, suspect that the relationship between the partner and the male girlfriend is not pure friendship, but there is no evidence, this feeling is worse than eating flies.
I believe that no man can calmly say and laugh when he knows that his partner has a male girlfriend, and his heart has long been thinking about it.
Regardless of men and women, the most basic requirement for feelings is: loyalty.
The exclusivity of love is doomed to the existence of "male girlfriends" can only cause damage to love, but some people are not aware of this.
If you tell her that I mind that you have a male girlfriend, you should keep your distance from each other, and the other party will definitely blame you for being careful and explain to you that it is pure friendship between them.
But even so, few men will believe that partners often meet with male girlfriends, just eat and chat about pure friendship.
Li Yuan had suffered greatly from it, and the three words "male girlfriend" made him sleep and eat, and now, all this ended with the "infidelity" of his fiancée on the eve of the wedding.
On the day of the divorce, some relatives advised him, the bride just went to say goodbye to friends, did not do anything, this relationship you have been operating for a long time, why do you have to quit the marriage, you are not going to lose a lot.
Li Yuan resolutely withdrew from marriage, even if the money that was taken out was lost, he did not want to get married.
When Li Yuan and Zhang Ming were just together, Zhang Liang pulled the male girlfriend to meet, and the three of them ate an awkward meal.
He clearly remembered that Zhang Ming had drunk too much wine, took the hand of the male girlfriend and said, "Before you were the most important thing in my heart, now that I have an object, you have to stand back." ”
The two of them exchanged heartfelt words, and Li Yuan ate silently alone.
After that time, Li Yuan can't remember how many times he and Zhang Ming stressed, I don't like you to get too close to other heterosexual relationships, you have to think about it for me from my point of view. Empathetic thinking, if you are me, can you tolerate me having girlfriends?
This emphasis is meaningless to Zhang Ming, who has only one sentence: "We have known each other longer than you, you and he are very important to me, and no one wants to be estranged." But I promise you, keep your distance. ”
Zhang Ming's so-called distance from male girlfriends is nothing more than chatting in front of Li Yuan, not eating with Li Yuan, and not telling Li Yuan that the male girlfriend bought her something, and will not take the initiative to mention the male girlfriend in front of him.
Li Yuan was in love with Zhang Ming at that time, and he accepted it after comforting himself, treating the interaction between them as normal social, as long as they had a sense of proportion to each other, he would not interfere.
The marriage is Li Yuanti, who feels that as long as they are married, Zhang Ming enters the family and has children, and slowly the relationship with the male girlfriend will be estranged.
With such selfishness, Li Yuan carefully arranged the marriage proposal scene, and did not expect Zhang Lemon to agree happily.
After that, Li Yuan was responsible for taking wedding photos, finding a wedding company, and arranging the wedding scene.
He originally wanted to get a marriage license and then do the wedding, but Zhang Ning said that the wedding is the most important, she must first be a beautiful bride, do a dream wedding, and then go to get the license after the wedding.
Before the wedding, Li Yuan also gave Zhang Lemon more than 200,000 dowries, buying jewelry, buying clothes, etc., as long as Zhang Ming opened his mouth, he gave, which greatly satisfied Zhang Ming's vanity.
During the time of discussing the wedding, Li Yuan found that Zhang Ming rarely went out, and the contact with male girlfriends seemed to have become less, which made him feel a little excited in his heart, and felt that the marriage was right.
But what Li Yuan did not expect was that something went wrong on the eve of the wedding.
Originally, everything to be prepared for the wedding was prepared, on the eve of the wedding, Li Yuan and his friends arranged a new house, and the bride waited at her mother's house for the next day when the groom received the kiss.
But Li Yuan did not know why, just wanted to see Zhang Lemon before the wedding, after arranging the new house, he went to the old man's house, it was about eight o'clock in the evening, but Zhang Lemon was not at home.
The mother-in-law explained that the child was fooling around and would not let her go out, and she felt that she was going to get married tomorrow, and she had to eat with her best friends and spend her last single night.
That night, Li Yuan searched through the restaurants and KTV that Zhang Ning usually liked to go to, and finally found her in a KTV.
It was already more than ten o'clock in the evening, and when he arrived, there were only two people in the room, Zhang Ming and the male girlfriend, beer bottles scattered on the table, both of them had drunk a lot, and they were singing with microphones on their backs.
Li Yuan wanted to push the door in and put Zhang Lemon back, his hand was just placed on the doorknob, he saw the two of them change their posture, Zhang Lemon half hung on the male girlfriend, holding the microphone and shouting: "Tomorrow I will get married, are you not sad?" ”
The male girlfriend did not speak, and hugged her with her backhand.
Zhang Ning continued to ask, "I know you like me, but I just can't marry you, some feelings are quite regrettable, right?" We all know in our hearts that it is inappropriate for us not to be together, but it is a pity not to be together. ”
Zhang Ming said this, the male girlfriend was also a little moved, and the two people just hugged each other.
Li Yuan was extremely angry, he had always felt that the relationship between the two was not pure, and he did not expect that his conjectures were true. On the eve of the wedding, he inadvertently broke the secret of his fiancée and male girlfriend, and Li Yuan was so angry that he only wanted to quit the marriage immediately.
The incident alarmed the parents of both parties, who gathered overnight to discuss the next day's wedding.
Li Yuan said at that time that he was not married, and he did not want to be treated like a fool after getting married.
The next morning, relatives and friends received notices of the cancellation of the wedding one after another, and Zhang Ning regretted it too much to regret it, and was too ashamed to go out to see people at home.
Later, a series of negotiations for retiring from marriage, Li Yuan did not come forward, persuading the matchmaker and parents to do it.
Talking about this relationship, looking back from the perspective of a bystander, Li Yuan only said two words "fortunate", glad to quit the marriage decisively, glad not to lose himself because of humble love, and more glad to finally get rid of the "male girlfriend".
On the eve of the wedding, the bride resolutely "spent time" with the male girlfriend, and the groom broke the secret and angrily retired from the marriage, which would only be used as a laughing stock after tea and dinner.
Back in this relationship, what Zhang Ning needs to do most is to learn how to respect others and how to be loyal to existing feelings.
Whether it is a female girlfriend or a male girlfriend, this happens to anyone, and it is impossible to get by easily.
I often tell my readers that after having a partner, when getting along with the opposite sex, you must have a sense of distance and proportion. If you really can't let go of any brothers and sisters and girlfriends, then don't harm other people's feelings.
The reason why the feelings between partners are precious is that I feel that in this world, I am the one who knows you best, and you are also the one who knows me the most, we know each other's preferences, quirks, hopes and dreams, we are each other's only, outsiders can not enter our world.
Remember that in the book "Happy Marriage", there is such a suggestion for the preservation of the relationship between husband and wife, and it is necessary to know each other more in order to maintain intimacy, which has such a sentence:
The more familiar you get to know each other, the easier it is for you to stay in touch with the other person as if life were spinning around you.
And what is the existence of a male girlfriend, his identity is equivalent to another male partner, I know what he understands, even I don't understand he understands, which makes me how to tolerate.
A man's heart will be hidden in a kind of uneasiness, and deeply tortured, every time the partner contacts the male girlfriend, he will think wildly:
Are they just daily contact? What will they talk about? Do they meet just to eat? Will they behave in a way that goes out of the ordinary?
Is there pure friendship between men and women? Maybe there are.
But under the guise of pure friendship, but on the verge of betraying the partner, IMHO, such a person is probably used to playing with other people's feelings, will not be particularly serious about whom, but like to take.
Therefore, if you encounter it, first ask yourself, in the days when you live together in the future, how tolerant you are, if you know that you can't stand the "friendship" between your partner and male girlfriend, it is best to stop the loss in time.
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