In today's highly competitive and closely dependent society, interpersonal skills are the most basic ability to survive and develop, and are the main content of emotional intelligence. In real life, there is no shortage of such examples: why would someone be admired by everyone and become a leader? To a large extent, it is not because he is particularly intelligent and has a particularly high IQ, but because he is good at interpersonal communication and cooperation, and interpersonal relations are harmonious and harmonious, so that he can be a leader and everyone can trust him. Psychologists have discovered the importance of interpersonal communication through follow-up studies of Bell Labs staff. The lab staff conducted follow-up studies and discovered the importance of interpersonal communication. The staff of the laboratory were either engineers or scientists, and their knowledge and IQ were very high, but after a period of time, some of them achieved remarkable results and excelled, while others were inactive and eclipsed. Why do the same good people have two opposite results? The reason is that it is found that all those who have achieved great results are well-connected and have good interpersonal relationships, but the latter do not. Their study concluded that bell labs' 150 engineers and scientists, the most accomplished and valuable, are people who are good for people and who can stand out in times of crisis and change.
In general, a person's success, under certain professional technical conditions, depends 30% on opportunities and 70% on interpersonal relationships, that is, on the character and ability to get along and cooperate with people. This is because in a certain sense, everyone is a person of society, a section of the big network of society, and they all have a connection with others that they cannot break free. No kind of career success can be purely self-sufficient; it must have relationships with others. Especially with the development of society, this interdependence between people has become closer, and after entering the information society, it is more important to learn the virtues of coexistence and cooperation with people. This coexistence and cooperation enables rapid growth in self-awareness, experience and ability. You have an apple, I have an apple, and in exchange, there is only one apple each. You have a thought, I have a thought, and in exchange, each will have two thoughts. It is therefore said that the co-operation and exchange of people together results in a geometric progression of their respective ideas. The world-famous Copenhagen School believes in brainstorming – everyone in the same group throws out their own ideas without restraint to produce impacts, complement each other, and burst out new inspiration.
In short, the art of interpersonal relationships is a skill for regulating emotional reactions with others, and interpersonal skills can strengthen a person's social popularity, leadership authority, and the effectiveness of interpersonal interaction. Those who are good at handling interpersonal relationships can do everything smoothly and achieve career success by virtue of harmonious relationships with others.