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In fact, I have not had much feeling about family marriage, although the girlfriends around me have more or less shown their fear of childbearing, but the matter of having children seems to me to be just a matter of course, sooner or later, this hurdle is always to be passed.
However, when "Tully" presents such seemingly unsalty and unsalty nouns to you one by one, you will suddenly realize that the two words "mother" are real bloody and heavy weights.
This movie is also called by netizens as a work of persuasion that "after watching it, I don't want to get married and have children".
Tully
Although the ultimate purpose of "Tully" is to explore how as a mother, how to reconcile with her past self, complete the story of growing up with a change of identity, and even in the film classification, "Tully" is regarded as a comedy, I believe that any woman who has faced, is facing, and is about to face childbearing cannot ignore the long series of abyssal despair at the beginning of the film.
Marlowe, the mother of the soon-to-be-born third child, is a housewife whose job is to take care of her two children, do housework, and wait for the arrival of her third child.
Marlowe's wealthy brother once wanted to find a nanny for his sister to share some of the housework, but as a mother, Marlowe refused his brother's request, although the eldest daughter and son are not a hundred reassuring babies, Marlowe needs to pick up the children to school every day, and the son often shows mania, but Marlowe still insists that she can take care of everything as well as possible, after all, she still has the greatest patience for her children.
But when the youngest daughter was born, Marlowe's already somewhat inadequate housewife life began to become crumbling and about to fall apart.
From the time she gave birth to her third child and yelled at the nurse who monitored her whether she was urinating or not, Marlowe, who had been able to keep herself sane and gentle, became a manic walking bomb.
In order to take care of the newborn, Marlowe had to devote 120,000 points of energy, constantly getting up at night to feed, soothing the crying BABY, and sleep was divided into scattered fragments at midnight, but even so, Marlowe had to drive two children to school the next morning and clean up the home that had been tossed around by the children.
As a woman, her self is infinitely reduced, as a mother of three children, Marlowe's entire life is used to revolve around the family, she is constantly running in all kinds of family chores, her body is blessed, she is no longer interested in cooking, dinner is often heated quick-frozen pizza, in front of the whole family, she takes off her shirt wet with orange juice without scruples, and lets her son exclaim "Mom!" at her bulging extra flesh. What's wrong with your body? ”
The seemingly conscientious husband, in addition to the daily goodnight kiss left for the family, occasionally tutoring his daughter's homework, and mentally "absolutely supporting" Marlowe's work, fulfilled all of her husband's obligations.
The son's principal also found Marlowe, and gently told her that Marlowe's son's spirit was not suitable to continue studying in this school, Marlowe gritted his teeth like a lighted bomb in the principal's office, and every day was like a derailed tram that was rapidly sliding into the abyss of doom, Marlowe put his sobbing little daughter in the back seat of the car and couldn't help but cry out to the sky with an emotional breakdown.
The mess of life like a junkyard began to change after the arrival of Nanny Tully.
Tully is young, energetic and energetic, she takes care of Marlowe's children meticulously, like the real snail girl, in Marlowe's hard to sleep at night, she will tidy up the home, with Tully's help, Marlowe began to gradually find her former self, she began to bake exquisite desserts for the children, go on outings with her family, and her spirit seemed to be better.
When you think the film is justifying the necessity of the family nanny, Marlowe, who is out drinking, has a car accident and is planted in the river with a car, and Tully, who is with her, turns into a mermaid and unties Tully's seat belt so that she can be rescued.
The real life comedy suddenly turned into a fantasy drama, after the husband said to the doctor that "the wife was originally named Tully before marriage" everything was revealed, the young and capable, proud Tully is just a young Marlowe, under the pressure of heavy life, finally schizophrenic, she sleeps all night to deal with the housework in an orderly manner, take care of the three children, and regain the vitality and confidence of her youth.
It is not until reality defeats her illusion and the young Tully returns to Marlowe's body that the returned mother accepts herself again, no longer has fantasies and unrealistic impulses, and finally reconciles with her young and careless self, and returns to the joy of the family with her husband who began to grow and help her.
This is a seemingly perfect ending, like being grabbed for breath, being vigorously lifted up and put down after pregnancy life.
For women, childbirth has become a kind of cultivation for people, and only after five levels and six generals can they have the qualifications and courage to continue to survive.
Before every woman became a mother, they were dreamy little mermaids, with the scales on the mermaid's tail shining like a synonym for all the good dreams in fairy tales.
Knowing that they have fallen in love with humans, married and had children with humans, and exchanged their egos for family and offspring, their identities are no longer brilliant and free women, no longer have flat lower abdomen and starry eyes, they have become sagging breasts, in order to feed their mothers who have to wear loose underwear and hang a breast pump around their necks, clean up the housework, wash and cook, and the trivial life alone is enough to squeeze their only remaining selves to zero.
This is still in the United States, where the degree of national freedom is higher, and in China, where traditional ideas are more dominant, what have happened to the girls who have become mothers?
Charlize Theron, known as the diamond of South Africa, gained 45 pounds to play the housewife with three children and became the figure shown below:
It took Theron a year and a half to cut back on 45 pounds of meat for filming, but what about the real mothers who want to have children? Are they lucky enough not to be caught up in the chores of life and to be able to reclaim their former confident and beautiful selves?
The word "mother" is not just the weight of hanging around between the lips and tongue.