Recently, the chat records of a father and daughter were swiped across the internet, and many people sighed after watching it.
The father's daughter studied in Spain, the father gave her money every month, but the daughter's expenses were very large, which made the father very stressed, and he had agreed to use 10,000 yuan a month, but the daughter often exceeded.
From the chat records, it can be seen that the daughter always has a commanding attitude towards her father, and the father is extremely humble and painful, especially the sentence "I hope you can understand the father's difficulty, the father is 51 years old" is particularly heartfelt.
Some people may wonder whether the expenditure in Spain is particularly large, 10,000 yuan is not enough to live, but the same students who studied in Spain said that if it is only the basic living expenses, 10,000 yuan is definitely enough.
And this daughter is 23 years old, if the living expenses are not enough, she can work part-time to subsidize her living expenses, but she does not, but only knows how to put the burden of life on her father.
It was her father's supper, a bowl of porridge with a small dish:
This is what her father is wearing, very simple:
And what was her life like?
The circle of friends is quiet and good:
Eat food everywhere and post the menu online:
Wear expensive JK costumes and show off your beautiful photos:
Also mixed in with the occasion of the rich, eating Haagen-Dazs:
In fact, this is nothing, and what really angers the whole network is her attitude towards her parents.
She scolded her father and said: XXX, for 50 euros, she quarreled with me early in the morning...
He even said: Old fellow, you can't afford to raise this fairy when you don't have a baby.
There are many, many words like this, and they are not released one by one.
After the media exposed her words and deeds to the Internet, netizens scolded:
"It's better to have a daughter like this than to have a piece of char siu." "I killed people in my previous life, and I gave birth to this kind of thing in my life."
So what makes my daughter like this?
We can see this from a small incident that fathers and daughters talk about.
This father said to his daughter, yesterday Dad fried a piece of steak for you, to see that you ate beautifully, Dad was very happy, but in fact, Dad was also hungry at that time, and he also wanted to eat, but considering the economic pressure of the family, he swallowed his saliva and went upstairs.
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And my daughter said to him, you should go to work now, instead of thinking about steak.
At this time, her father also told her that when she was a child, the family bought milk and bread, and her parents did not eat it, only for you to eat, if we all ate, we could not afford to buy a house.
And his daughter is only concerned about whether her father has a good job and whether he can pay for her to continue to study.
It can be said that this daughter does not have any empathy and gratitude, and no matter how much her father gives, she feels that he should do it. In her eyes, her father's life and death did not matter, she only cared about whether his father had the money to continue to provide for herself to live a life of pampering.
Does this father love his children?
Of course love, he was eager to give her the best things in the whole world, and from childhood to adulthood, he tried his best to give her the best material conditions.
Even though the salary is only more than 10,000, he still sends his daughter to study abroad, preferring to eat chaff vegetables by herself.
But it is precisely this kind of love that harms the daughter.
We have heard the saying "poor to raise sons, rich to raise daughters", which means that even if the family is poor, we must give our daughter good material conditions and let her experience the life of a rich person.
Because only by giving her daughter the best material conditions, let her see the world, and when she grows up, she will not be hooked by a lollipop of the scumbag.
And this is the biggest lie, the most poisonous poisonous chicken soup.
After many rich daughters grow up, they become white-eyed wolves who ignore their parents' "scruples", covet "far away" all day, and only know how to eat and make lazy.
In fact, this "wealth" in the rich daughter does not refer to the "wealth" of material conditions, but to spiritual prosperity.
If we blindly focus on the "richness" of material conditions, regardless of spiritual "barrenness", then the final result must be tragedy.
Because she has formed a habit of enjoying material conditions, she has reached out to open her mouth, and she is pampered and pampered, and she is poor and loves the rich. And your money will always run out one day, and once her material desires are raised by you, there is no going back.
At that point, she will turn into a white-eyed wolf who only knows how to ask.
Therefore, after this incident occurred, many netizens sighed:
"A rich daughter is a pit, let alone a pit for parents' lives."
Chinese parents have a very strange phenomenon, they are born because of the lack of materials in the era of their birth, and then have the psychology of compensation, so whether they have money or not, they must give their children good material conditions anyway, and they cannot let other children afford to use them and their own children cannot afford to use them.
My cousin, just an ordinary construction site master in the countryside, earns money very hard, but he gives his daughter the best material conditions.
When my niece was 8 years old, I took her to the countryside to eat a banquet, and the table was successively served with many dishes, but my niece did not eat any of them, and she cried and clamored for "Mary time" in the city.
Later, I learned that "Mary Time" is a very expensive Western restaurant in the city, specializing in steak Western food, with a per capita consumption of 200 yuan, and her cousin often takes her there.
Later, what did my niece become?
Teenage girls, at every turn, ask their parents for money, always compare with their classmates, want the latest mobile phones and the latest shoes, love to play games, love to chase stars, and the results are a mess.
She often quarreled with her parents because she wanted money, and her cousin was scolded by her niece for an afternoon because of her recent poor economy, and once she did not give money, she was directly cursed by her niece for an afternoon, and she said anything ugly.
The cousin said that he was afraid that other children would have and his own children did not, so he always wanted to try his best to satisfy, but this also became the daughter's own weakness, squeezing hard, and finally became like this.
This is the price of "rich daughter", only know that the daughter who uses money to be rich will eventually lose because of money.
How terrible is it to have a rich daughter?
The news of this scene is shocking.
"Rich adopted daughter" Tan Mingming, she said that my father hurt me, usually pocket money is 120,000 to give, in his 20s to drive a Maserati, enjoy the best material conditions.
Later, she became arrogant, drove a Maserati, and killed two people in a row while drunk, and was sentenced to life imprisonment.
Yang Kun, a rich adopted daughter in Beijing, has been pampered since she was a child, and after the divorce, she continues to eat old age with her daughter in her mother's house.
She wanted to walk hundreds of thousands of dollars from her mother before and after, but her mother was old and had no money, and the last time she asked her mother for money, she tied her mother with telephone lines and tape, and finally forced her to drink mercury to death.
After her mother's death, she took away her mother's last cash of more than 2,000 yuan and withdrew a total of more than 9,600 yuan in cash from her passbook.
It's not just an isolated case, there are many, many more.
In the mall, a disabled mother kneels to her daughter and only begs her daughter not to buy the expensive new mobile phone;
Next to an electric car, a father kept kowtowing and waving to his daughter sitting on it, only to beg her daughter to change her mind.
There is a red spider in Animal World that is born to eat.
The mother spiders clumps the food into balls for them to eat.
Still, they are hungry.
At this time, they gathered around the mother spider, and after the first spider bit open the mother's body, the rest of the small spiders rushed to bite up.
Together, they sucked the mother's body into an empty shell.
And why is the "rich daughter" not like this?
Her parents blindly fed her with substances, and when the substances were eaten clean, they would eat their parents.
Education expert Zhang Dachun has a very ironic saying: Many families are rich in raising daughters, but they have completely reversed "wealth". First give the best material, enjoy the best conditions, but in the end the spiritual "rich" can not be included at all.
Virtue can carry things, give material first, but no virtue can control, and in the end it will only be a tragedy.
Many people have asked what kind of material and education should be given to their daughters.
I thought about it for a long time, and finally I only thought of one sentence:
Not a penny of the money that should be spent can be saved, and not a penny of the money that should not be spent cannot be wasted.
What is the money to spend?
It is to read, to learn knowledge, to learn courses that interest her, to arm her mind, and not to save a single point for her.
What is money that should not be spent?
It is the pursuit of brand-name luxury goods, the pursuit of unnecessary waste, the pursuit of things that do not belong to their own hard work.
Even if her parents have the ability to give these things to her, they can't give them, because these things will harm her.
Of course, parents can encourage their daughters to pursue better materials, but all this should be obtained through their own hard work, rather than reaching out to their parents.
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A well-known radio station hong Kong host Leung Ji-cheung wrote a letter to the child well:
When you grow up, my responsibility for providing for you is over, and you will be responsible for whether you will take the bus or Benz (Brunsle), eat shark fin or fan.
Yes, before the daughter reaches adulthood, parents should do their best to make her spiritually rich, love her well, teach her the knowledge of being a human being and the three views, and provide her with reading, but materially, only give her an ordinary life, let her keep clean and tidy.
As for whether she can live a good life and enjoy good material things in the future, it all lies in her, not her parents.
Children are like kites flying in the sky, and what parents can control is the line of kites.
If you want your child to fly high without losing your way, parents must always firmly control that line.
Author: Mr. Table, Source: Table's outlook on life, the three views are more correct than the five senses, and the thoughts are deeper than the routine. Part of the image source network.