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Author | Shen Bin
Before, I didn't expect such a thing. A 23-year-old adult woman can use extremely dirty words such as "scum" and "sow" to attack her parents at length, and even some online pictures show that the parties sent their own nude photos as "reward" to call on netizens to storm their fathers.
The cause of the incident was that the girl in question first studied in Australia for a year, then returned to China for a year of college, then went to Spain to apply for a university, and spent up to 10,000 yuan a month in Spain (according to local students, this is enough to live well in the local area), the father felt that he could not afford it, because of dozens of euros of taxi fares, the contradictions between the two sides broke out, the woman wantonly insulted her father, and then listed a bunch of "psychological trauma", including several times the study abroad was frustrated because of the father's manipulation, "The father who graduated from Peking University did not support his daughter". Don't help her carry her bag, let her hand hurt" "selfish demon". Several videos show the daughter reprimanding her father, who has been backing down.
The family here is contradictory, the context, and it is not convenient for outsiders to make judgments, but the basic fact is that the 23-year-old adult children are still begging their fathers for money, and they viciously insult their parents and call for Internet violence as a means, which is really surprising.
Jumping out of the family contradiction itself, in recent years in the field of public opinion, many young netizens are quite fond of the fermentation of this "intergenerational contradiction", parents do not let them raise cats, do not buy JK, smash their own hands, the old father cries poor, etc. are all "scar literature" with blood and tears, and it is a "scar literature" that can't move is a traumatic heart, childhood shadows, native family injuries, often infected with a large piece, all kinds of deep empathy, and crying in the cyberspace.
Compared with the Douban Wenqing small circle of "parents are scourges" more than a decade ago, "intergenerational contradictions" have become a new tearing point after the "gender conflict" in the field of public opinion. After the soap bubble discourse transformation of "postmodernism", the topic of conflict between the two generations is no longer the topic of pink parent-child education, but has become a Nordic-style, high-cold quasi-political topic, and the father is screwed up to be "anti-patriarchal oppression" and "anti-intergenerational exploitation", and a sentence of "fatherly taste" is enough to stand on the moral high ground and block all the legitimacy of the other party.
When the father no longer belongs to the rhetoric of "father's love is like a mountain", but becomes a greasy "father's taste", becomes disciplined, bound, old-fashioned, outdated, condescending, disrespectful of individuality, and becomes a completely derogatory term, then "daddy" itself has become a derogatory term? Does "daddy" mean inequality?
Although not every parent can always give the best to the child within the scope of ability", although some parents' educational means are rough, and even it is difficult to say that the moral character is excellent, what the children have to do is not to complain, hate, and live in the "original family shadow" they have built, but to learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant, rather than after accusing the parents of manipulation, continue to ask for money, and regard the "father-style accusation" as their moral advantage and "nibble on the old" capital.
In the "silent spiral" of social media, many young people have inexplicably produced "intergenerational hatred", attributing their work pressure and internal volume to the "exploitation" of the previous generation, believing that it is after XX and XX, occupying social resources and housing resources, resulting in themselves not being able to find a good job, unable to afford a house, and they are going to "dry up" the order created after XX. This in itself creates a kind of social antagonism, hatred, and tearing up against the wall.
Some of China's current structural contradictions have their own development paths, and should not be blamed on the "conspiracy" of a certain generation or generations. In fact, China's rapid development depends on the efforts of generation after generation, and the post-50s and post-60s have killed a bloody road of reform and opening up, set up stalls, gone to the sea, and ventured overseas, and have also suffered the pain of the era of state-owned enterprise reform; the post-70s and post-80s have ridden the east wind of China's accession to the WTO and the Internet, opening China on the fast track of development. No generation's life is easy, no generation is lying and winning.
In terms of China's century-old modernization process, in order to cut off the feudal shackles, it is bound to point the spearhead at the superstructure of feudal rule - patriarchy and husband power, but now, with fashionable words to "anti-patriarchy" and "anti-father", it is an excuse for network hostility and "nibbling on the old".
Parents are also human beings, they are not perfect, and bringing out their shortcomings and posting them online may also make their peers laugh, but they will not make people self-reliant and progressive. Adults learn to be self-reliant, the first priority, do not reduce their misfortune to intergenerational contradictions, that will only ferment misfortune.
102 years ago, Mr. Lu Xun said in the article "How Do We Be Fathers": Carrying the burden of the attack, shouldering the floodgates of darkness, and letting them go to a wide and bright place; after that, they lived happily and behaved reasonably. This is a very great and important thing, and it is also a very difficult and difficult thing.
The phrase "live happily and be a reasonable person" is still applicable to this day.
Editor| Shen Guanzhe
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