Duchangfangkou Small Text "Ring Finger"

Every able-bodied person has a pair of hands, ten fingers, of which the fingers between the little thumb and the middle finger are called "ring fingers". I remember when I was in kindergarten, there was a game where the teacher asked the children: "Thumbs up, thumbs up, where are you?" The child held out two thumbs while replying: "I am here, I am here, are you okay?" The teacher asked again, "Two thumbs, two thumbs, where are you?" The child held out his index finger and replied, "I'm here,......? So down, the child knew ten fingers. After elementary school, the teacher told us the names of the ten fingers, which we remembered from then on, and then we could say the names when communicating with people later. I think this is the process of enlightenment and acceptance of knowledge, but no one cares and thinks about why there is a finger called "ring finger", and later I accidentally thought that Chinese characters and culture are so rich, and there are countless literati and inkers in the past, so they can't give it a proper name? But I have thought about it, never studied deeply, because it is not the most useless finger in the ten fingers, and it is not as useful as the little thumb, the little thumb can also make an orchid finger stand in the singing fashion, the most useless can also pick a nostril, the ring finger is not as good as it, call it "useless finger" can also be.

Suddenly one day I saw a question in a psychology book, why should a wedding ring be worn on an infinity finger? And wear it on the right hand for men and on the left hand for women. It turns out that the ring finger is not a useless finger, it can represent marriage, represent love, represent the promise of the sea dry stone rotten white head old. The book describes it like this: Bend the middle fingers of both hands, relatively close together, straighten the other fingers, and lean the fingertips relatively high, you can find that the thumb, index finger and little thumb on the upper hand can be freely separated, but the ring finger is absolutely inseparable without external force. The book also says: The two thumbs represent our relationship with our parents, one day we will become independent; the index finger represents brothers and sisters, when the male and female marry when they grow up, we will each become a small family; the little thumb represents the relationship between us and relatives, friends, classmates and colleagues, with school, work and life, although we have met and met, but in the end we are independent; the ring finger represents the husband and wife, once combined without external forces, we will live together for a lifetime, white heads will grow old, never separated.

There is a saying in psychology that people have a mental activity process of knowing, judging, and deciding before acting, so people are responsible for their own actions. Marriage is the same, it is a big thing in life, can not be hasty, when you make a decision is no longer your own business, to be responsible for each other, responsible for the family, responsible for the offspring, of course, including the parents of both parties. In the eyes of the lover, or succumbing to the pressure of his parents, social opinion, hastily set a lifetime, will surely bury hidden dangers in the future married life, and eventually suffer bitter results. Although the wedding ring is a symbol of marriage, it should not be worn rashly.

China is a long-term feudal country, marriage is a matchmaker's saying, the fate of parents, although there have been lu you and Tang Wan, Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai and other ancient love tragedies in history, but people who have come over have said that this is fate, people can only admit their fate. Therefore, with the dowry, with the dowry, choose an auspicious day to worship the heavens and the earth, two worship the high church, the husband and wife worship, and then enter the cave room, and then the woman gives birth to children for the husband's family, continues the incense, for most people, marriage is to pass on the seeds, like Lu Xun, abandon Zhu An and ignore it, only a few people who resist arranged marriages, and also have to bear the public opinion of feudal etiquette. Although there are financial gifts required by the woman in Chinese marriage, including customary gold utensils, the ring only represents wealth, not a souvenir of lifelong love, and the bride does not see the bride wearing a ring for each other at the wedding, so the ring finger is a "useless finger".

When I was a child, I went to the rural relatives' house with adults to participate in several weddings, it was all traditional Chinese, I don't know when the Chinese wedding was replaced by the Western religious wedding, the newlyweds exchanged rings is a necessary procedure in the religious wedding, under the witness of the wedding participants, both men and women made a commitment to "whether rich and poor, whether healthy or sick, whether young and old to stay together for a lifetime", put on the ring for each other, and then ten fingers are interlocked, implying that life and death will never be abandoned, and the husband and wife love white head to old age. Since then, a couple has started a married and family life.

A couple of newcomers can eventually come together, people say that it is marriage, and lovers eventually become dependents. I ask people: What is marriage? People answered me: A thousand miles and a thread. People ask me: What is marriage? I said: Marriage is providential and artificial. Isn't it? There is a person waiting for you in the vast sea of people, is this not providence? But whether this person can become your lifelong partner and accompany you through life depends on your artificial efforts, which requires you to understand, to pursue, and to pay. Some say it's an opportunity, yes! Opportunity is also providence, and with opportunity you will not be artificial and fruitless. Of course, if there is no Providence, you are very artificial and it is impossible to walk together. Providence is only once, man needs a lifetime, this is what people often say that marriage needs to be managed, only two individuals manage well, understand each other, truly love each other, marriage is happy, if the management is not good, then life will be painful for a lifetime.

The moment the ring finger puts on the ring is the destiny of Providence, the beginning of the marriage business. If the ring finger wearing the ring is not acted by external forces, it must be firmly opposed and never separated, which is the basis of marriage management. Gold (ordination) is eternal, which is the original intention of the religious wedding, and God wants a lover to eventually become a family member and accompany him forever. But living in a society, it is inevitable that there will be external forces affecting people's married life, in addition to the third party, there are also such changes in life, parents' education, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, changes in the living environment, the influence of people around them, mutual "love" and distrust, family responsibility assumptions, etc., which may lead to the occurrence of marital tragedies. Of course, the intervention of the third party will be reprimanded by society, while other external forces are "difficult for officials to break housework", and the parties often say: only the foot knows whether the shoe fits properly. Not bad! But why don't you want to when you're sticking out your ring finger? After all, marriage is not a child's play, to be responsible for life, parents give us the responsibility of the ring finger is greater than any other finger, I think this may be why there is no name for the nameless so far, nameless and famous.