There is such a person, perhaps you and me in life, are all such people. Originally from an ordinary background, even poor, at a certain stage of life to do a small business, suddenly made a little money, or achieved some results, and then instantly admired by the people around him, and even flattered. Suddenly one day he was lonely again, the scenery time passed, but he was immersed in the original success and could not come out, you let him do his duty like the beginning to do a little hard, step by step from the beginning, come back, he can't do it. Not because of anything else, but because of the original success or young fame, in addition to bringing unlimited glory to themselves, satisfying the outside world's respect for themselves, in fact, they are not set up by outsiders, and the ordinary days will not pass!
I have a patient friend who is 37 years old and runs a small homestay with a daughter alone, and I will go up the mountain to see her once every two months and stay for a weekend. She will also come to check the liver and kidney function once every six months at most, this time the test shows that there is a slight fatty liver, she asked if it is drug resistance, but the viral load < 400 copies/ml, so for the time being, do not consider giving her a drug resistance test. She said that she was very relieved to have me around, so she asked me to go up the mountain early this weekend.
She is really a good place to listen to the mountains and fog, in the evening the sunset officially fell from the endless mountains, the river road only cast the figure of two good friends, the night is speechless, the mountain is speechless, the bridge is silent, the water is babbling, the breeze caresses her ear hair, every time I admire the afterglow, I will deliberately peek at my sister's face looking at the sunset, a beautiful billet that has not lost its warmth and charm after years of wind and frost.
Her mood was particularly solemn this time, which she had never shown in front of her friends in the past 3 years of knowing her. She suddenly said that she wanted to talk about her own journey of infecting HIV, and this was the first time she had revealed her unknown past to me. The moment time passes by, there is always an emotion that makes people helpless, I can't bear to make a sound, just get closer, meaning that she continues to speak. She said she had just transferred 20W to her ex-husband, and this "interruption" from her ex reminded her of many things in the past...
01. Entrepreneurship
She said that they were college classmates, and their ex-husband was very poor when they were studying, but they were still very happy, and buying a duck neck ex-husband was to let her eat meat first and then eat bones. She said that her ex-husband's original family was very complicated, her parents divorced very early, and she lived with her mother in her stepfather's house, because she did not suffer from white eyes, so she appeared to be extra independent and sensible, which is also what attracted her to the city's well-behaved women. She went on to say that her ex-husband worked hard, started working on an online store during college, and earned the first 10W of her life in the year of graduation, which was 2007, when house prices had not yet taken off.
So she did not go home to accept her parents' work arrangements, and she accompanied her boyfriend to start a business and asked for 15W from her family, and they wanted to build their own small factory. Large to rent factory, buy equipment, recruit workers, small to cut the thread, packaging, delivery she is personally involved, in order to let the boyfriend devote herself to the career, plus it was not the best time to get married at that time, found that she was accidentally pregnant, she chose not to tell her boyfriend, in order not to be detected, even the hospital did not go, but quietly chose the medicine flow at home, resulting in the Qing Palace, this time the Qing Palace also laid the groundwork for her future fertilized eggs can not implant.
02. Affair
With the prosperity of his career, his relatives have praised themselves for finding a capable boyfriend, which has attracted countless honors, and the boyfriend said that his dream has finally come true and can be looked up to wherever he goes. In 2013, they finally got married, bought a big house, the car was also replaced by a BMW, she was also 30 years old, ready to get pregnant, and then feel at ease to be a full-time housewife, but at this time she could not conceive, the doctor said that the qing palace damaged the uterine lining that year, in the next two years, she went to the major hospitals in various cities in the country, still did not let herself conceive a child, and it was precisely in the two years that she ignored her husband, and her husband had an affair.
In the face of her continuous questioning, the husband admitted that he had too much pressure in the past two years, because the C store was less and less valued by the platform, the transformation of the B store was not successful, the problem of the online store was getting bigger and bigger, in the face of the bank's 3 million loans could not be repaid, he began to rely on loan sharks to continue to maintain, just thinking about which day he could get back to life, watching his wife so hard to prepare for pregnancy, he did not have the heart to tell her. As a result, I became more and more miserable, and I met him at the time when I was most helpless. She didn't want to listen to him in detail, at this moment everything was like a sharp knife in her heart, and she could stab herself to death at any time.
03. Bankruptcy
Then a cold war broke out between them, but before she could ask the other person what kind of woman she was, she found herself pregnant, and God didn't even want to give her the opportunity to be angry. If you beat this child, you may not be able to be a mother in your life, and after thinking about it again, she decided to dust off the fact that her husband cheated on her and hide it from her parents. She took the initiative to ask her husband to sell the factory, the house and the car were also sold, and then she lived a plain life, not enough money she came to find a way, but in the face of the creditor's threat of blocking the door, and finally borrowed 50W from the mother's family, only to end this nearly 10 years of entrepreneurial farce, 10 years of tossing, in exchange for a mirror flower and water moon empty.
At this moment, the husband's life is not good, the failure of the career must face the fingering of relatives, and the friends around him have begun to scramble to "teach him to be a man" and "teach him to do business" in a high-minded manner, and he is depressed. 10 years, the times have changed, the dividend period of the online store has long gone, I seem to have worked hard for 10 years, but at this moment I am like a college student who has just graduated, as if I have been out of touch with the times for 10 years, and I don't know where the road is. Unbeknownst to him, his father-in-law and mother-in-law asked him to find a job to do first, he was silent, so his father-in-law and mother-in-law cobbled together 10W, let him do a small business, and then simply live a life, mainly thinking that his daughter could live a better life in the future.
04. Divorce
In this world, there are always some people who have the privilege of climbing to the edge of the well because of some coincidence, and then fall down, do you think he will be able to do things better in the future? Wrong, the truth is that most people are ruined! So getting rich doesn't have to be early. At this moment, 10W, for the husband who was not discouraged at that time, in fact, there was nothing to do. The ex-husband also blamed himself and took the initiative to file for divorce. She thought that her husband was guilty of cheating on that matter, and also took the initiative to mention it after three chapters of the law, in order to make her husband better return to life, she took the initiative to find a job, indicating that she could still suffer and live an ordinary life, but in exchange for her husband's depression all day and rarely returned home.
She wanted to give him a little more time until a man's phone call broke the hard-won calm, and the other person said that he could help him cheer up, and even make a comeback, although 2 years is less than 10 years, but maybe he knows her husband better. At this moment, everything is finally revealed, everything is funny, he is not losing to a woman with a variety of styles, but to a man who understands him better, then what is his 10 years of silent support? This time she finally agreed to the divorce, as the sister herself said, she would not be a burden to anyone, she had to say goodbye to her ex-husband in a dashing manner, without half a trace of entanglement, she did not even tell her ex-husband that she was pregnant with his child.
05. AIDS
The trick of fate is not over, 3 months of obstetric examination when she was found to be HIV positive, although the doctor urged her to wait for the re-screening, but her body still does not feel paralyzed, in order not to move the tire, she tried to reassure herself that it was a misdiagnosis, in order not to collapse her emotions, but also in order not to be discovered by her parents, she forced herself to calm down nothing happened. But 7 days later, looking at the two belts of gp160 and p24, the disease control officially informed her that she was diagnosed, she thought she could finally collapse and cry, but blurted out that she asked the doctor if she could save the child? Finally, in order to save the child, the father died of a bloodstorm.
I said that my ex-husband hurt you so badly, why do you still have to lend him money after so many years? At this moment, the daughter's phone rang, the childish voice called out to the mother to go home, hung up the phone, the sister smiled, did not say anything, she began to change her mouth to ask me what I want to eat at night, I said steamed lamb, steamed bear paws, steamed deer tail, roasted duck, roast chicken, roast goose how? Then we all laughed, and the indefatigable Yu yukawa road was left far behind us...
Thank you for reading on, thankfully we all have patience
In fact, the sister this person is quite not simple, the personality is free and even said to be strong is not too much, she thinks independently and freely, when she took the initiative to pursue love, but did not rely on men, from borrowing money from her boyfriend, to personally taking care of business, from the humiliation and burden of her husband when she was lonely, to the later pregnant but silently left, it can be said that she is quite free and dashing, even if there is all kind of dissatisfaction in her heart, she will never entangle, never want to make herself a man's baggage, is the kind of person you want to live with me, I can get along with you, you don't want to love, I also only need to turn around and never hold your hind legs.
I asked her, don't you hate your ex-husband for getting you AIDS? The sister only said, is it really so important to hate or not to hate? Since you decided to be a husband and wife, you thought about bearing all the unknown possibilities in life, it was just an accident, and you can't screw it out alone!!! Male compatriots, if you are lucky enough to meet a woman like your sister, don't be stupid to miss it, of course, it must be emphasized that if you are married or this woman is someone else's daughter-in-law, don't be bored with yourself, because such a woman will definitely let you touch a nose in marriage.
Some people will surely ask, why borrow money from your ex-husband? After so many years, his life has not improved easily, he is so harmful to himself, just leave him alone? I'll help my sister finish what she didn't say
When the forgiveness of the husband cheated for the child, sorting out the debt to rebuild the family is also for the child, and even after the infection with AIDS in order to keep the childish father died, so the men never know how much a woman can make for the child, the sister's story, completely for us to open the softest side of the woman's heart, so this time borrowing money, do not rule out the possibility of remarriage, no matter what skills the ex-husband uses, but the sister's starting point, must still be for the child, well, no matter what the future will be, Or wish my sister better and better
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