Wen | Wang Xiaodi
In the Baidu search bar, type in the 3 words "Bo Bonnie", the first option that pops up is "What Bo Bonnie said". In the July 4, 2015 episode of "Strange Story," a show so large that it almost "says everything", for the first time, the entire speech of the contestants was fast-forwarded - in the video you can only see Bo Bonnie's mouth that keeps opening and closing, and the surprised expressions of the four judges. The debate was forcibly aborted by moderator Ma Dong: "Bonnie is a person who is at the forefront of the times. ”
The title of the debate was almost like it was set for her: Can a good friend make a date? In "Strange Story", she has a cute mushroom head, wears black-rimmed glasses, and is even a little shy when speaking, while on the other hand, her avant-garde sexual concept and direct expression bring the scene to a climax.
Bo Bonnie, who called herself a "second-hand sexologist", had considered taking sexology, but because she had to take statistics, she was too poor in mathematics, so she gave up. That doesn't stop her from making sex one of the funniest things in the world. After being asked for a manuscript by a women's magazine, she opened a gender column to interpret the affairs of men and women. She calls for sexual freedom and wants everyone to look at and accept their desires. She said, we have a thousand reasons to have sex, go for it, sex is a good thing.
People Weekly: How do you think sex is different from other desires? For example, appetite, no one will be ashamed of appetite.
Bo Bonnie: It's interesting in China, appetite is something that can be pursued, even excessively. A foodie can win many fans. But sexual desire is something that can only be done and cannot be said. Eat men and women, eat on the countertop, men and women under the countertop. You can shout "I'm hungry" but not "I'm hungry." The matter of men and women, in fact, men and women speak. For male sexual desire, we tolerate, encourage, and even show off. For women, it is shame, indifference, and repression. Until now, it still is... Basically, there are AV and pornography products with female audiences, and there will be no proper sex education. The serious asymmetry of information, the serious asymmetry of judgment, it is difficult for women to face up to their sexual desires and accept their bodies. I don't know why, but I have a strong sense of mission for this. I always want women to be happier and more generous to face this matter.
People Weekly: You also opened a column to write articles about gender before, this time to talk about sex in "Strange Story", what is the difference?
Berbonne: It's safer to write articles. Readers are actually still piling up, or will be attracted by the author's temperament, which has filtered out some people who are completely unsuitable. Therefore, before writing sex columns, it is one-sided praise and support. When it comes to the show, the audience is larger, and all kinds of people have it. I was quite surprised and felt that the audience was much more conservative than I expected. I thought our audience for Stranger Things was a fairly open generation, but some of them were still quite conservative. It was some attacks, but it didn't bother me too much.
People Weekly: In "Strange Story", what did you say that will be deleted?
Bo Bonnie: Actually, I really didn't say anything shocking, not at all like the speculation on the Internet, I just talked about sex very happily, maybe the words are too yellow, the attitude is too intense.
People Weekly: But you said that you might not say that again, why?
Berbonne: Because I'm off topic. And I didn't care what the audience wanted to hear, at that time I had no concept of the 20-year-old young people in the audience, I thought it was okay to talk, and after talking about it, the reaction made me think that everyone might not be like that.
People Weekly: What was the reaction?
Bo Bonnie: The atmosphere is very good, when I talked about the scene, the scene exploded, but there were not too many tickets, although it was OK, more than twenty votes. It means that the audience is hilarious but doesn't really agree. He was touched by your language and thought it was funny, but he didn't really agree in his heart, and if there was another chance, I wouldn't go after whether I could hi or not, but to impress others.
People Weekly: I've seen people say, why should we listen to girls like Bo Bonnie talk about sex. Why do people think you're in contrast to the way people who talk about this kind of topic should look?
BERBONNE: I don't know. What kind of person can talk about sex? Is it a tacit admission that the exterior must be very sexy, and at first glance is a lot of practical experience? Or do you have to be a very free-spirited person who is radical in all points of view? Whatever the presupposition, it shouldn't exist, at least in my opinion. Since sex is something that everyone can do, it should be something that everyone can talk about. At the very least, external people like me can talk about it. If I talk about it, it has an impact on people, it's fine. Think about it: Why can't she? Why can't I?
People Weekly: What's your favorite movie about sex?
Bo Bonnie: The Sex Book Tycoon. The film is about the founder of a pornographic magazine, repeatedly accused, but repeatedly won. The film is so rich that law students will understand it as the basis of American law. I personally think that key word is: freedom. The male protagonist represents a total acceptance and devotion to sex, a strong vitality that wants to be right and wrong; although he is later shot by opponents and loses his sexual ability. Physiologically, he was castrated, but no one could castrate his brain. He maintained that attitude toward life until the end. In our lives, haven't people been emasculating their brains, their own life force? As Wang Xiaobo said, "To be alive is a process of being muted all the time." "Maybe, everybody is like that, but at least you have to struggle until the last moment, fight until the last moment.
People Weekly: You call yourself a "second-hand sexologist," where do you think "second-hand" is? Will parents read your gender articles or Stranger Things?
Bonnie Berbonne: "Second-hand sexologist" is just a gimmick, and other sexologists are a professional identity, I am not. My parents don't watch what I write, I write TV series and movies, and they crash and watch it. "Strange Story", I did not let them watch, for fear that they would scratch their hearts. Sometimes I was scolded, the Internet scolded quite badly, I called back to ask, and it turned out that my dad was super calm, very calm, very calm, and didn't care at all. My heart was solid.
I was born into a more enlightened family. Although the parents are not highly educated, they are more open-minded. When I was growing up, I wasn't too depressed, basically let me grow. In adolescence, I collected the little yellow books and small yellow books, I went home this time to read, they are still there, my mother to tidy up, just placed there, not confiscated. My mom was a passionate, sexy person, and I remember when she was full of style, wearing skirts and cleavage, it was the 90s, and society was relatively conservative. She was beautiful to herself. In our house, there is a love affair between men and women on tv, no need to change stations, I don't have to go into the house. The sex clip was visibly cut out and my mother would say, "That's fake!" How did the night pass? How come it's dawn?! "She's not happy. She was also not happy with the exaggerated love scene, saying: "Why do you catch your breath when you look at each other?" How did it get in heat?! "Tease.
I feel that my concept is open, the whole person is more bold, and has a lot to do with this kind of family. Another is that my parents are particularly affectionate. This year's New Year home, my mother and I have been girlfriends for many years, talking about the topic of sex life, I learned that my father and my mother, as well as sex life, especially surprised. My mother was very depressed: "Why can't we have it?" Don't underestimate our old comrades! "I think my daughter can talk to my mother about this, and it's very rare for us to have a mother- Since I was a child, I have felt that sex is not dirty, sex and love are inseparable, and sex is a good thing.